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DH being an ungrateful **** or is it me?

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Fathersdaycry · 21/06/2026 22:08

DH moaned he didn’t get a breakfast in bed today. Fair enough I could have thought of that but it’s been a stressful few days for other reasons. This seemed to set the tone for the day. He moaned the table at the pub we booked was outside and too hot. DS shouldn’t have got him a big bar of chocolate as it will just melt this week and he doesn’t want to eat it in one go today (he doesn’t keep chocolate in the fridge).

He has had a couple of drinks tonight which he doesn’t usually do on a Sunday night and I’ve come upstairs after he’s insinuated he ‘deserves’ a particular sex act to salvage the day (something I am not against doing but only with some notice for his birthday etc).

I feel like he has been totally ungrateful - nice cards, chocolates, a meal out, dinner cooked at home etc.

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Kalanthe · 22/06/2026 17:18

mediummumma · 22/06/2026 00:02

I’m crying at ‘punishment pegging’ 😂

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Plot twist: the mysterious sex act the husband requested was pegging, not anal as everyone here has assumed 😂

JustSawJohnny · 22/06/2026 17:00

Your husband has given me the ick.

Goodadvice1980 · 22/06/2026 16:24

Grim 🤮 he sounds a childish twat OP. Was it a genuine apology he gave?

Anyway, I thought anal was for center parcs 🤔 (lighthearted). IYKYK.

Thechaseison71 · 22/06/2026 14:43

WhatTheHellsGoingOn · 22/06/2026 09:33

Yeah for some reason my first thought was it was for constipation, evacuating the bowels ahead of the act etc, but I remembered it is, as you say, for the opposite purpose. It’s shocking women have to do this for a load of discomfort and zero pleasure themselves. At least if gay men do it they have a chance of enjoying it due to the prostate. No chance men would ‘prepare’ themselves for a woman.

Also, taking Imodium if you don’t have diarrhoea isn’t good for anyone, and my guess could be the women suffer from constipation as a result.

Another example of women putting men before themselves and men literally not giving a shit!

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Who say no women enjoy it?

Thebinisrightthere · 22/06/2026 14:40

Sgtmajormummy · 22/06/2026 10:44

I think in Australia Father’s Day is also known as BBQ & BJ Day.
I’m open to corrections!

Do Australians do something a bit different to us for their fathers then? 😮

Thechaseison71 · 22/06/2026 14:40

Gardenisablooming · 21/06/2026 22:20

If it's anal. Agree. Shout SURPRISE and pull out a huge strap on...

He might enjoy that. It would need preparation to get the strap on

Busybeemumm · 22/06/2026 14:37

JumpingRabbit · 22/06/2026 12:23

Jumping Rabbit is off to Tesco’s

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Don't hop there for the chocolate orange as looks like the deal expired yesterday 😭

thisisajoke22 · 22/06/2026 13:45

Gardenisablooming · 21/06/2026 22:20

If it's anal. Agree. Shout SURPRISE and pull out a huge strap on...

I've had a shitter of a day and this made me laugh out loud! Thank you very much

brunettemic · 22/06/2026 13:07

The first paragraph isn’t that different to a lot of the Mother’s Day moans on here in fairness.
The second paragraph he sounds like he’s being a dick.

IslandAdventure · 22/06/2026 12:59

chocoluv · 22/06/2026 12:43

Yeah I agree.

I’ve never linked Mother’s Day to sex.
That would be incredibly weird.

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Eeeeewwwww. That thought even being in my head has given me the eeebie jeeebies.

This man has a lot to answer for!!

Fizzybluewater · 22/06/2026 12:47

Who started the stupid bj and steak day and now a sex act on fathers day anyway? Oh, wait a minute a twatty bloke. How stupid an I to think a woman would do those things for the prat she is with, when so many women moan about the same stuff on aibu and relationships.
You don't like doing something, don't do it. He gets it from someone else he's no loss to anyone, as he's just a scummy twat.

chocoluv · 22/06/2026 12:43

Megifer · 22/06/2026 10:49

Its a bit disturbing that he links sex to Fathers day. Forever ick.

Yeah I agree.

I’ve never linked Mother’s Day to sex.
That would be incredibly weird.

Fizzybluewater · 22/06/2026 12:43

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/06/2026 22:14

FFS it’s probably anal. It’s always anal.

And he’s being an arsehole so no, I wouldn’t feel very sexy.

If that's the reason OP should suggest that h can go fuck himself with the rough end of a pineapple.

secretrocker · 22/06/2026 12:34

Sex act aside...
Mother's day/father's day should be for kids doing something for their parents.
Fair enough if they are babies or toddlers and the other parent sorts something out.
But they should NOT be about partner doing something for their partner!
Breakfast in bed should be made by the kids or not at all.
Having said that, I've read tons of posts on here with mums complaining their DH didn't do enough for mother's day as well.

Sgtmajormummy · 22/06/2026 12:26

Sgtmajormummy · 22/06/2026 10:44

I think in Australia Father’s Day is also known as BBQ & BJ Day.
I’m open to corrections!

It turns out the “Steak and BJ” day is 14th March, a month after Valentine’s Day…
Score keeping vulgar twaddle.

JumpingRabbit · 22/06/2026 12:23

Busybeemumm · 22/06/2026 10:47

Tesco. Yep the real deal Terry's. They had them a few days ago at my local express shop.

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Jumping Rabbit is off to Tesco’s

ForRedPoet · 22/06/2026 12:14

Yes, he was a complete dick but glad you stood your ground and didn't do the sex thing, and he apologised this morning.
It was hot and stuffy yesterday which may have played a part in him being miserable and off. I'd just move on.
Unless of course, he is like this all the time...

DustOffAndMoveOn · 22/06/2026 12:06

Fathersdaycry · 22/06/2026 09:04

With me enjoying a book before bed and nothing else. He has actually apologised this morning, and said he was having one of those days.

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Ah! He’s trying another tactic now as the grumpy ‘you-owe-me’ one didn’t work out for him. Don’t be fooled - he still wants that sex-act!

BillieWiper · 22/06/2026 11:28

You might need to wear a butt plug for a few hours to help facilitate anal?!

Gawd knows. But yeah he sounds absolutely terrible and doesn't deserve any sex act.

rolloverbeethoven · 22/06/2026 11:22

Okay there's all this sex talk, but I can't get over him complaining about a big bar of chocolate. It's even better if it's threatening to melt, that's a good excuse to eat it all at once!

nutbrownhare15 · 22/06/2026 11:01

If I contrast this to my relationship, we are both just grateful for any effort made. Not perfect either in terms of marking important dates as we both have busy lives. If one feels disappointed about level of effort we might mention it a few days later but not in an emotional way. And there is never any expectation in terms of being 'owed' any sexual activity or act.

Busybeemumm · 22/06/2026 10:56

Fathersdaycry · 22/06/2026 09:04

With me enjoying a book before bed and nothing else. He has actually apologised this morning, and said he was having one of those days.

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Glad that he apologised.

I hope he doesn't have one of those days often.

I hope you can put to him how his behaviour made you feel and how unacceptable he was yesterday. An apology can sometimes be the easy way out of actually thinking about what is and isn't ok and what he values as a father and a DH.

Megifer · 22/06/2026 10:49

Its a bit disturbing that he links sex to Fathers day. Forever ick.

Busybeemumm · 22/06/2026 10:47

JumpingRabbit · 22/06/2026 08:35

Now I’ve moved on from the sex act with notice to where on earth you are still getting 95p chocolate oranges?! Not seen them under £2 in a long time. Unless it’s an Aldi version I’ve not seen and not Terry’s?!

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Tesco. Yep the real deal Terry's. They had them a few days ago at my local express shop.

Sgtmajormummy · 22/06/2026 10:44

I think in Australia Father’s Day is also known as BBQ & BJ Day.
I’m open to corrections!