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Baby in hospital on holiday, hand hold needed

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glassofbrancott · 21/06/2026 21:09

Background - DS was born at full term, he didn’t cry/cough/take a deep breath when he was born and SATS were quite low so he was taken to resus table (never resuscitated) for some oxygen for 45 mins then we were discharged as normal the following day. Milk intolerance like DD who is 3 and grew out of it by 15 months.

I had the RSV jab in pregnancy, it hadn’t been rolled out when pregnant with DD. DD has had RSV/bronchiolitis twice in 3 years, hospitalised once.

DS who is 9 months has been hospitalised 4 out of the 6 times he’s had it. Sometimes for a few days of oxygen/nebulisers and observations.

We’ve been in Majorca since last week, 2 days ago, DD & DS started with snotty nose, little coughs, DD complaining of feeling achy, been giving calpol and nurofen when needed.

Last night, DS started the pattern that usually ends up with him in hosp. Awake every hour, coughing so much he vomits any milk, water or food he’s had. By this afternoon, he hadn’t even managed to keep down 20% of his usual intake of fluids. Seen by on call hotel dr who did full exam, COVID and influenza swabs which were negative. DS sucking in at ribs so he said he wanted to call an ambulance. DH gone with DS, I just stood in reception crying as I watched them leave. I hate this.

DD asleep and I’m sat on the balcony sick with worry, he’s had steroids in a syringe and rectal paracetamol for his temp, also inhaler and he’s now started grunting too.

I’ve asked so many times to be seen at home by the Paediatric Respiratory Team but they refuse saying he just catches it off DD from nursery (DD comes home with a snotty nose and mild cough she gets over in a couple of days). The GP finally gave me an inhaler for him a few weeks ago but couldn’t test for or diagnose asthma until 3 years old.

What do I do now? I am so worried that something bigger is underlying and it’s being missed. He’s never had any blood tests during these hosp stays just swabs and treatment such as oxygen/nebulisers/antibiotics when it turned into lower respiratory infections.

We are supposed to be flying home Wednesday. I feel so
sorry for him, even today as he was pulling in at the ribs he was smiling and clapping at the dr examining him.

Anyone ever attended Porto Cristo hospital?

Really struggling with anxiety.

Posting in AIBU for traffic.

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Goldenmimx · 05/07/2026 23:17

Glad you’re home @glassofbrancott and hoping your DS makes a full recovery and you get a decent consultant. My DD has had two recent hospital admissions (one on holiday) so you have my fullest sympathies. I hope as the days go on your nervous system is able to relax a little and your DS grows out of whatever it is that’s causing this

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 05/07/2026 23:04

glassofbrancott · 05/07/2026 21:01

Thanks so much for sharing your experience, and everyone else thank you as well.

My gut is telling me something isn’t right, he’s an allergy baby too. So far dairy, eggs and coconut. So I’m going to see what the consultant says and hopefully have a plan. X

Having allergies is very normal in children who suffer from bronchiolitis and wheeze. We had them too (but DS1 grew out of them). Unfortunately it’s a sign that it could be asthma, but he’s way too young for that to be confirmed.

Good luck OP!

glassofbrancott · 05/07/2026 21:01

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 05/07/2026 19:29

Oh OP. As scary as it is, it isn’t that uncommon. DS1 was hospitalised perhaps around 6 of 10 A&E visits but mostly grew out of it at 2.5 after going on a brown inhaler.

DS2 is now 2.5 and is hospitalised every two months or so, for at least two nights.

For both of them, every single cold caused bronchiolitis or a wheeze, no matter the underlying virus.

The care is awful on this. It’s very much “thank you, see you next time”. We’ve seen a private consultant for both and they’ve said the same thing - just need to wait and see if they grow out of it or are asthmatic. We’ve tried everything. Every single holiday has been cancelled or delayed, and we have also had the experience of being admitted abroad. It’s truly incredibly stressful so sending lots of love your way. But seeing how DS1 grew out of it is reassuring that children do grow out of it.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience, and everyone else thank you as well.

My gut is telling me something isn’t right, he’s an allergy baby too. So far dairy, eggs and coconut. So I’m going to see what the consultant says and hopefully have a plan. X

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Totalmayhem · 05/07/2026 20:02

Oh @glassofbrancott - you have my sympathy! Also done bronchiolitis on holiday but in an Italian hospital with a 18 month old. If it gives you hope 2 of my 3 constantly suffered with bronchiolitis/chest infections/constant coughing when under 4. One was eventually diagnosed with mild asthma which they grew out of by age 14, the other was over it by age 7. Inhalers do help, my gp also had a nebuliser at the practice and we could go there as a first port of call and if improved after an hour we were allowed home again…cuts have prob done for that now😔… Don’t panic - hospitals are good at managing this, you do need to nudge your gp into making a sensible plan though if it’s regular!

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 05/07/2026 19:35

glassofbrancott · 05/07/2026 19:23

Thank you so much everyone.

Got discharged out of the blue Saturday, booked the next flight I could then sat in the airport for 9 hours. Just wanted to get home to my DD.

Saw GP on Tuesday, thought I’d have to put my foot down and was ready for battle but luckily she really listened to me, referred DS to paediatric consultant and we’ve got an appt through already for 2 weeks time. He’s having a steroid inhaler every day, 2 puffs.

Just to let you know what we have tried, it’s been the brown inhaler, two puffs twice a day. DS1 benefitted greatly from it. DS2 not so much, and he started young at a lower dose before we moved to the normal dose when he turned two.

We also tried Montelukast and had no benefit for either of mine (which I am somewhat glad about because I was concerned about side effects). We also use the blue inhaler at the very first sign of a cold, rather than once they start coughing. We also have a humidifier we use every time they’re sick, and try and keep their nose clear when they’re snotty.

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 05/07/2026 19:29

Oh OP. As scary as it is, it isn’t that uncommon. DS1 was hospitalised perhaps around 6 of 10 A&E visits but mostly grew out of it at 2.5 after going on a brown inhaler.

DS2 is now 2.5 and is hospitalised every two months or so, for at least two nights.

For both of them, every single cold caused bronchiolitis or a wheeze, no matter the underlying virus.

The care is awful on this. It’s very much “thank you, see you next time”. We’ve seen a private consultant for both and they’ve said the same thing - just need to wait and see if they grow out of it or are asthmatic. We’ve tried everything. Every single holiday has been cancelled or delayed, and we have also had the experience of being admitted abroad. It’s truly incredibly stressful so sending lots of love your way. But seeing how DS1 grew out of it is reassuring that children do grow out of it.

HollyGolightly4 · 05/07/2026 19:29

Aww thank you for updating @glassofbrancott wishing you all the best.

glassofbrancott · 05/07/2026 19:23

Thank you so much everyone.

Got discharged out of the blue Saturday, booked the next flight I could then sat in the airport for 9 hours. Just wanted to get home to my DD.

Saw GP on Tuesday, thought I’d have to put my foot down and was ready for battle but luckily she really listened to me, referred DS to paediatric consultant and we’ve got an appt through already for 2 weeks time. He’s having a steroid inhaler every day, 2 puffs.

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Mrscharlieeeee · 28/06/2026 12:16

I’m so sorry to hear this. I have been through this exact same thing with my DS and this went on for the first year of his life, however for us we did have an underlying condition we were aware of. He was born with tracheo oesophageal fistula (tof) and tracheomalacia. After I don’t know how many admissions including 2 on NICU where he was intubated, he went for a procedure when he was a year old that he needed to be intubated for and they couldn’t get the tube down. Turned out he had narrowing of his airways. He had a procedure to stretch them and he has been fine ever since. We have been under the respiratory team and still are but he now lives a normal life. I would keep pushing for a referral to respiratory.

Randomchat · 28/06/2026 12:03

Hope you're home now

Goldenmimx · 26/06/2026 21:54

How are you and DS @glassofbrancott?

Goldenmimx · 24/06/2026 21:47

That’s good to hear that he’s improving, hopefully not too long until he’s discharged now and you can both get home to the rest of your family. I can only imagine how stressful this is for you OP. It’s hard enough with a little one in hospital in your own country. I hope they’re taking good care of you both and you’ve been able to eat and sleep ok. Hang in there. Hopefully in time this will all be a distant memory but I hope you manage to get some answers

glassofbrancott · 24/06/2026 15:39

I ended up paying for a private 15 minute telephone consultation and prescription, all together with prescription for some anti anxiety meds was €63 so I won’t bother trying to claim for that on insurance when I have no idea how much this is all going to cost anyway.

Paediatrician said that he is improving but slowly, sats still low. Gave one more dose of prednisilone to try and reduce inflammation in airways and paed dr will see him tomorrow. Insurance company said no need to move him to a hospital with a paeds ward as they are getting a paediatric in once or twice a day to see him here. They said it would likely compromise our insurance if we went over their heads and moved him as it would be seen as a self discharge from this hosp.

DH & DD landed back in London this morning.

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Randomchat · 24/06/2026 14:53

How are you doing today?

Takeoutyourhen · 23/06/2026 20:12

Poor boy, sounds like viral wheeze or bronchiolitis. Perhaps he will have a brown preventer inhaler prescribed and seen by a paediatrician when you are home too.
The salbutamol will increase his heart rate too.
Fingers crossed he makes a steady improvement to come home.

SylvanMoon · 23/06/2026 20:04

Can you not ask at the hospital for who you might be able to get an appointment with? Surely your travel insurance will cover it as well. And while this isn't the holiday you had hoped for with your DD, she's probably not experiencing it as you are possibly perceiving she is. The important thing is your DS recovers and you both get home safely.

glassofbrancott · 23/06/2026 18:43

Thanks everyone. I’m here with DS. DH gone back to hotel to fly home with DD in morning. His oxygen levels are sat at 92 and they’ve advised not to fly.

Had horrible anxiety and guilty feeling towards DD today, spent some time in the pool playing and had lunch with her then handed her to our friends and got in a taxi to swap with DH.

I’ve spent so much time away from her due to DS hospitalisations and now our holiday hasn’t been what I promised her, I feel so awful.

I’m also beyond fed up of seeing my boy unwell, it’s heartbreaking as a parent.

I have had PND and PNA since DS birth and I have diazepam at home, silly me didn’t bring any as thought our bad luck had come to an end. Spoke to my psychiatrist who said to try and get a private appt out here to get something to help me (I have panic attacks and physical symptoms of anxiety so I’m allowed 10 diazepam tablets and 7 sleeping tabs every 6 months).

Does anyone have any suggestions of which online private prescription service to use abroad? Thanks.

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hannahbanana2007 · 22/06/2026 19:27

I hope your son is starting to improve now. I know a few people have said this already, but I would also really recommend when you get home asking for referral to/appointment with asthma clinic. We had 3 hospitalisations with similar brush off by the consultants that DS was considered too young to diagnose. But asthma nurse said ‘if it looks like and duck and walks like a duck…’ and said it’s the asthma nurses that specialise in the current diagnosis and treatment options. Once he started taking the brown preventative inhaler daily he hasn’t been in since and we have a blue inhaler for if he gets ill and starts wheezing as viral illness seems to be his trigger. They are very confident he’ll grow out of it too

Hadenough32 · 22/06/2026 17:48

Exactly the same with two of my sons. Eldest is 10 and is much easier to manage now. Other one that suffers is 9 months too. Weirdly enough both have a dairy allergy. 10yo had his adenoids and tonsils out at age 3 and this made a huge difference. Been told they both have very narrow Airways so as soon as they get a minor cough their Airways is irritated, swells slightly but they struggle breathing fully and wheeze. Croup like cough. We got given salbutamol inhaler which helped a but. Game changer was when a sympathetic doctor gave us a bottle of dexamethasone to keep at home. First sign of a cough and we give a small dose for three days in a row. Not had an a and e visit since or any chest infections.
Hope you're OK xx

nocoolnamesleft · 22/06/2026 17:41

Ipratropium dose sounds right, and can start working younger. Salbutamol may or may not work, as the receptors in the airways that it works on grow between 6 and 12 months, but if it’s helping there’s loads of scope to temporarily give more. Was he very young when he had bronchiolitis the first time? As if so, then tend to get it again, to some extent, with every bloody cold in the first year of life, which is such a pain.

LuckyHazelFox · 22/06/2026 17:29

Sending love ❤️

Slightyamusedandsilly · 22/06/2026 17:24

Son Espasses is where you would be better off. They're world class.

glassofbrancott · 22/06/2026 17:16

I’m very confused about how I feel about the hospital, he’s only had 2 sets of observations done today and when I asked to see a dr they had to call a paediatrician in from a different hospital/surgery.

Staff all seem lovely but it’s so slow here.

Paediatric dr said his sats are 92 and his heart rate is the higher end of normal so he’s not 100% happy to discharge tonight. DS has kept down all his milk today though so that’s good.

They have him on 2 different inhalers, salbutamol one 3 puffs every 4 hours and ipratropium bromide 2 puffs twice a day.

DH has spoke to insurance company who have been really good and they said they are looking into whether this hospital is the best to care for him in the area and if not, we should request a transfer and they have put this all into writing in an email. Told us to keep every receipt used for taxis to hosp for DH and I swapping etc.

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EvelynBeatrice · 22/06/2026 14:41

Hope things keep moving in the right direction. If I were you, before your child is released, I’d ask the Spanish consultant through Google translate or translator, what further tests or follow up he/ she would be instructing if you were in Spain - explain that it’s so you can ask for these when home in U.K. Will let you understand what prudent paediatric service would look for as U.K. sometimes behind on such matters sadly.

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