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AIBU in thinking 'what's wrong with everyone just signing a card?'?

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Floogal · 21/06/2026 15:02

Another whip round thread. My manager is turning 40 soon. 2 of the supervisors are organising a card for everyone to sign, alongside the dreaded whip round. They have even emailed and WhatsApped their bank details so people can contribute (alongside cash donations). FFS, what is wrong with people just signing a card? I'm always grateful for birthday and Xmas cards and that is good enough quite frankly!!! I can understand gifts if someone is retiring, but birthdays is a bit much.
For one thing there is a big income disparity at work (as other workplaces) and it is wrong to pressure people to donate. Also, I hate the sucking up.
The worst part is, I have worked on other places with even more extreme whip round cultures.

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Batties · 21/06/2026 15:09

I assume it’s not mandatory?

TimeForTeaAndG · 21/06/2026 15:08

My old work used to have a birthday club, so if you wanted to join you paid something like £2 a month and then everyone in the club got a present and a card to the value of a month's worth of "subs".

My current work does collections and I only put money in to those for retirement, first baby, and birthday or leaver if I have worked with them for a reasonable period of time and I like them.

I assume they aren't harassing individuals who haven't put money in? You're allowed to say no thank you if they ask if you want to pop some money over. If they are pressuring people then that's possibly a word to your manager or HR.