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AIBU to consider lodging with a stranger to save money at 36?

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TwinklyPinkTurtle · 21/06/2026 10:34

I've lived on my own for around 6 years now in a rented house with my two cats, no kids. 36F.

The cost of living is getting worse and although I'm not completely skint at the end of the month I'm not able to save for thing's I'd like ie. house deposit, to travel etc. I'd also like to retrain as a nurse/social worker and I wouldnt be able to afford going back to uni full time (I'm aware of what I'd be entitled too with SF).

I have an opportunity to lodge a room in a 4 bedroom house on a new build estate with my own seperate bathroom and office with full use of the rest of the house. Bills included with no particular house rules attached but it would be with a 48 year old man I don't already know and he has two dogs, one a large bulldog. He's already said I wouldn't be expected to care for them but it would be good they would have company as I work from home full time.

AIBU by thinking this is a stupid idea giving up my rental to lodge with technically less rights for the sake of saving money. Id need to rehome my cats at my parents and I'm also struggling with the idea of losing independence and privacy at the age of 36 when everyone else I know is married, living with partners etc..

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HauntedBungalow · 21/06/2026 10:40

I'd do it for the sake of buying a house after, say, two years. I wouldn't do it for the sake of taking on student debt. I also wouldn't give up pets for it, nor would I move into a property with dogs, because I don't like dogs.

Mystifyingly · 21/06/2026 10:39

Hold out for a better lodger situation if you want to lodge. Surely it would be possible to find one without two dogs in situ and which might allow you to have your cats living with you? Regardless of your own pets, I wouldn’t want to be WFH in a house with dogs whose owner wanted me to be ‘company’ for them.

Motnight · 21/06/2026 10:36

I wouldn't do it. I think that moving in with a man who is a stranger is risky. I also wouldn't want to be company for 2 dogs. You'll end up looking after them.