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AIBU to wish posters would read the thread before replying?

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plomh · 21/06/2026 06:19

It disheartens me when posters don’t read the facts or info the OP mentions in the OP or other posts.

Read the thread before commenting.

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 21/06/2026 16:55

Slowandsilentindifference · 21/06/2026 16:24

Bloody hell who had time for all that?

The OP can scroll past of the reply is no longer relevant

You never know mostly if it is or not anyway as OPs don’t tend to reply to all posters comments

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Reading the OP's posts might take time depending on how many there are. The rest takes seconds.

Flamingojune · 21/06/2026 16:48

Mumsnet certainly is full of bossy types telling others how to live

ItIsGreen · 21/06/2026 16:45

OP, I think you've got bigger things to worry about than not liking dogs. Between supporting your neurodivergent DD, navigating a husband who apparently requires specialist post-coital beaker equipment, and dealing with a narcissistic MIL who still has a front door key, I'd say canine enthusiasm is very much a secondary issue. In fact, I'd be more concerned about the key than the beaker, although only just.

As for the MIL, I'd gently suggest that someone who lets herself into your house whenever she fancies is committing rather more significant boundary violations than the microaggressions currently being discussed on page 12. Not that those aren't irritating, but it's hard to focus on unconscious sexism when you're wondering whether your mother-in-law is in the kitchen rearranging your cupboards.
On the practical side, if money and mental load are factors, I'd ignore half the thread telling you to batch-cook seventeen separate meals. Roast a chicken and stretch it for the week: Sunday roast, sandwiches, curry, soup...

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 21/06/2026 16:44

StarPyjamas · 21/06/2026 16:39

I'd like an actual jail (not an online one) for posters like the OP who start threads and don't bother coming back.

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Ooh. I like it.

Naughty but nice.

NameChangedBecauseItsOuting · 21/06/2026 16:44

ExitPursuedByABare · 21/06/2026 16:16

Can’t believe I’m the first to say this.

Cancel the cheque.

You weren’t the first to say it. Grin

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 21/06/2026 16:44

I’m on the app so can’t see previous replies (let’s ignore the fact I could just go on the website like a normal person) and I’m actually too busy to read all 73 pages (and let’s also ignore the fact that it is entirely my choice to not engage with my settings and adjust them to use fewer pages), but what are their ages?

StarPyjamas · 21/06/2026 16:39

Turntheswitch · 21/06/2026 16:33

I swear some old skool mumsnetters would like a governing body, a regulatory body, an online mumsnet “jail”

I'd like an actual jail (not an online one) for posters like the OP who start threads and don't bother coming back.

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blacksax · 21/06/2026 16:39

plomh · 21/06/2026 06:19

It disheartens me when posters don’t read the facts or info the OP mentions in the OP or other posts.

Read the thread before commenting.

What's the magic word?

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/06/2026 16:38

I actually think that MN should consider limiting threads to maybe 200 posts to account for the decrease in people's attention spans. Then no-one really has an excuse to post without having read the whole thread.

LobeliaCider · 21/06/2026 16:37

Kindly OP, have you always had such low self-esteem?

StarPyjamas · 21/06/2026 16:36

I find it amusing on the silly 'How old do I look threads', when the OP has stated their age, and people are still making wildly inaccurate guesses 😂

Turntheswitch · 21/06/2026 16:33

I swear some old skool mumsnetters would like a governing body, a regulatory body, an online mumsnet “jail”

likelysuspect · 21/06/2026 16:30

Exactly I'll feel free to chunter away and others can feel free to ignore me, laugh at my stupidity or enter into an argument with me that others are already having on the thread.

Up to them.

Slowandsilentindifference · 21/06/2026 16:24

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 21/06/2026 06:35

Read the date the thread was started. Note how many posts are on the thread. Read all the OP's posts. Check if there are hundreds of posts after the OP's last post. Then reply if it still seems like there's a point.

Bloody hell who had time for all that?

The OP can scroll past of the reply is no longer relevant

You never know mostly if it is or not anyway as OPs don’t tend to reply to all posters comments

Turntheswitch · 21/06/2026 16:22

ErrolTheDragon · 21/06/2026 16:14

It’d be more fun if there weren’t quite so many posters nowadays who feel the need to comment without having even read the OPs posts let alone RTFT.

Ah well, hell is other people …Grin

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“More fun”?

doubt it!

alexdgr8 · 21/06/2026 16:21

Will there be children at the wedding OP ?

Slowandsilentindifference · 21/06/2026 16:21

YABU

If you post expect replies

If the first 10 people got to the thread first and replied to OP then why not others

Dont drip feed
Use paragraphs

Slowandsilentindifference · 21/06/2026 16:21

YABU

If you post expect replies

If the first 10 people got to the thread first and replied to OP then why not others

Dont drip feed
Use paragraphs

FeliciaFancybottom · 21/06/2026 16:19

Don't say you're going against the grain and then post the same sentiment as everyone else.

ExitPursuedByABare · 21/06/2026 16:16

Can’t believe I’m the first to say this.

Cancel the cheque.

ErrolTheDragon · 21/06/2026 16:14

Sartre · 21/06/2026 07:31

Don’t know, why is anyone on here at all? It’s just fun and a way to pass the time really isn’t it? It doesn’t have to be taken so seriously, nobody is testing us.

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It’d be more fun if there weren’t quite so many posters nowadays who feel the need to comment without having even read the OPs posts let alone RTFT.

Ah well, hell is other people …Grin

Turntheswitch · 21/06/2026 15:27

likelysuspect · 21/06/2026 10:35

This.

I mean really, who cares.

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Oh there’s some pretty frightening posters on mumsnetters who care. As in really care like some kind of obsession!

Turntheswitch · 21/06/2026 15:26

How do you feel about OPs that start threads and then don’t ever return @plomh ?

likelysuspect · 21/06/2026 10:35

Anewregime · 21/06/2026 06:40

It’s a chat forum not a job

Do whatever the heck you like. Read the title and jump right in if you wish. You might make a tit of yourself but… it is online and anonymous so really - who gives a fig.

Some mumsnetters users really do seem to regard mumsnetting as a profession.

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This.

I mean really, who cares.

Loulou4022 · 21/06/2026 10:32

I think a lot of posters and I’m guilty of this myself as I’m answering from the first page and haven’t read the second, read, comment and run! Some of the threads are 9+ pages long and I guess a lot of people haven’t got time to read every post!

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