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AIBU to wish posters would read the thread before replying?

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plomh · 21/06/2026 06:19

It disheartens me when posters don’t read the facts or info the OP mentions in the OP or other posts.

Read the thread before commenting.

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Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 09:14

ErrolTheDragon · 22/06/2026 08:57

And thus MN becomes a waste of time for everyone else. Threads which could have been informative/helpful/funny, spoilt by inane plops.

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So if it’s so useless to you… maybe do something else?

in the meantime, many will continue to read to whatever extent they wish to on mumsnet, and that’s there prerogative.

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 09:13

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:45

No. Literacy is.

It's very important.

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Agreed
at work, school, RL basically

not on SM. Some I’ll read from start to finish. Some… I won’t

ErrolTheDragon · 22/06/2026 08:57

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:35

Mumsnet is a waste of time when you think about it 🤭

I am on it when I’m waiting in line at the post office; sitting in my car whilst my children are at tennis practise etc

It’s an inane way to kill a bit of time. No biggie. No going to plough through long op updates or pages of comments. I’ll read to what extent I want and I’ll post what I want. And then… forget about it!!

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And thus MN becomes a waste of time for everyone else. Threads which could have been informative/helpful/funny, spoilt by inane plops.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 22/06/2026 08:48

Re checking dates - because if a specific date where something was going to happen has passed, there’s no point writing what you think OP should do.

People still writing on the thread about an elderly home owner being sent a note about someone visiting on Thursday and telling OP how to handle it - it was last Thursday and OP has updated. No point giving your badly thought out opinion now, and no point hoping it went ok as it’s all there in black and white.

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:46

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:35

Mumsnet is a waste of time when you think about it 🤭

I am on it when I’m waiting in line at the post office; sitting in my car whilst my children are at tennis practise etc

It’s an inane way to kill a bit of time. No biggie. No going to plough through long op updates or pages of comments. I’ll read to what extent I want and I’ll post what I want. And then… forget about it!!

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You could just read..

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:45

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:36

I am going to guess mumsnet is very important to you @CoolGreenBee ?

No. Literacy is.

It's very important.

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:36

I am going to guess mumsnet is very important to you @CoolGreenBee ?

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:35

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:31

So what's the point of wasting your time, the OPs time and the time of people who actually bother to read the thread?

What's it achieving?

If you're on MN to not read the OP and drop in a line which is probably irrelevant?

Why?

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Mumsnet is a waste of time when you think about it 🤭

I am on it when I’m waiting in line at the post office; sitting in my car whilst my children are at tennis practise etc

It’s an inane way to kill a bit of time. No biggie. No going to plough through long op updates or pages of comments. I’ll read to what extent I want and I’ll post what I want. And then… forget about it!!

likelysuspect · 22/06/2026 08:35

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:31

So what's the point of wasting your time, the OPs time and the time of people who actually bother to read the thread?

What's it achieving?

If you're on MN to not read the OP and drop in a line which is probably irrelevant?

Why?

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If we answer you does it help with writing your very important thesis about MN threads?

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:31

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:24

I don’t regard posting a one liner on a mumsnet thread as in any way “involving myself in a conversation “

it is a mumsnet thread. Will be forgotten by all in a few days at absolute most

So what's the point of wasting your time, the OPs time and the time of people who actually bother to read the thread?

What's it achieving?

If you're on MN to not read the OP and drop in a line which is probably irrelevant?

Why?

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:24

I don’t regard posting a one liner on a mumsnet thread as in any way “involving myself in a conversation “

it is a mumsnet thread. Will be forgotten by all in a few days at absolute most

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:23

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:21

What's healthy about involving yourself in a conversation when you don't take the time to read what the conversation is about?

Feeling the overwhelming need to give an opinion when you haven't taken the time to read a few paragraphs so you don't actually understand what's been said or what's being asked?

I wouldn't say that's very healthy at all.

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SM is inane
scan read if you want, post, move on and forget about it

or so what some do on mumsnet… see it as a full time job akin to saving the world

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:21

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:04

Or loads of people don’t take SM particularly seriously and so scan read at best.

Healthy

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What's healthy about involving yourself in a conversation when you don't take the time to read what the conversation is about?

Feeling the overwhelming need to give an opinion when you haven't taken the time to read a few paragraphs so you don't actually understand what's been said or what's being asked?

I wouldn't say that's very healthy at all.

Turntheswitch · 22/06/2026 08:04

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:04

It's not just not reading the thread, it's that a majority of posters don't even seem to read the OP.

Social media really demonstrates how many people are functionally illiterate.

Or loads of people don’t take SM particularly seriously and so scan read at best.

Healthy

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 08:04

It's not just not reading the thread, it's that a majority of posters don't even seem to read the OP.

Social media really demonstrates how many people are functionally illiterate.

Turntheswitch · 21/06/2026 20:17

DeeNiall · 21/06/2026 20:08

Maybe. I used an exaggerated example. Maybe a better one might be 'Do you like the name Romilly?' it might be a bit tactless to say 'It's horrible' if the baby is now 4 years old.

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Well the op asks so…. Yep she runs the risks of people saying Hell no!!

DeeNiall · 21/06/2026 20:08

Turntheswitch · 21/06/2026 19:34

Well then likelihood is the op is a fake because when the drips are HUGE and cast a totally different light on the situation.. it usually means the op wasn’t get the responses she expected and wanted… so starts exaggerating or making shit up

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Maybe. I used an exaggerated example. Maybe a better one might be 'Do you like the name Romilly?' it might be a bit tactless to say 'It's horrible' if the baby is now 4 years old.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/06/2026 19:57

CBA2RTFT · 21/06/2026 18:32

Do you really think that’ll stop them?

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Hopefully the thread would be full before they commented Grin

Turntheswitch · 21/06/2026 19:34

DeeNiall · 21/06/2026 19:04

@Strangerpings , because sometimes the thread has moved on considerably.

If, for example, the OP was asking if she was being unreasonable in being uncomfortable about her DH's friendship, but the OP has since established that not only impregnated the 'friend' and punched the OP, it would be inappropriate to say that OP was 'insecure and suspicious' and 'men and women can be just friends'.

I usually check a long thread.

Well then likelihood is the op is a fake because when the drips are HUGE and cast a totally different light on the situation.. it usually means the op wasn’t get the responses she expected and wanted… so starts exaggerating or making shit up

DeeNiall · 21/06/2026 19:04

@Strangerpings , because sometimes the thread has moved on considerably.

If, for example, the OP was asking if she was being unreasonable in being uncomfortable about her DH's friendship, but the OP has since established that not only impregnated the 'friend' and punched the OP, it would be inappropriate to say that OP was 'insecure and suspicious' and 'men and women can be just friends'.

I usually check a long thread.

Strangerpings · 21/06/2026 18:57

I never really get why people take it upon themselves to police the message board. Yes, people should read the post. However, if they don’t, I don’t see why anyone would find that disheartening.

Its the same as people who post specifically to note the OP has posted and “run” - if they have, why do they give a shit?

Holidaymodeon · 21/06/2026 18:54

SunshineOnAStormyDay · 21/06/2026 07:40

He’s a loony, and she’s a man.

Belly laugh at this

Overtheatlantic · 21/06/2026 18:48

Sometimes I post something nice to counter act nasty comments.

Holidaymodeon · 21/06/2026 18:44

champagnetrial · 21/06/2026 17:25

I'm sorry, op. that sounds tough. I would probably prick it with a fork until it pops. Failing that, say if it's not sorted by Tuesday you'll refer to the ombudsman.
HTH😊

I tried it but the fork was rusty and he got gangrene.
do I win the £40?

ExitPursuedByABare · 21/06/2026 18:40

NameChangedBecauseItsOuting · 21/06/2026 16:44

You weren’t the first to say it. Grin

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Damn. I should have read the whole thread.

😂

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