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DH’s sudden obsession with FIRE

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Firewife2 · 20/06/2026 19:04

FIRE is a sort of financial movement where you aggressively save/invest to be able to retire early /be financially free. DH is only 34 but discovered FIRE two years ago and is now utterly obsessed with it and investing aggressively. I don’t think being future aware it a bad thing, but it’s borderline obsession and I feel like he’s forgot to also live in the moment. Without being morbid, he might not even make it.

He earns a reasonable salary (takes home c.3K a month) and now allocates at least a third of this to saving/investing, so there is little room after bills for luxuries such as meals out etc.

I know it’s his choice, that’s obvious, but I am interested in what others think and it my viewpoint is unreasonable at all.

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TinySaltLick · 20/06/2026 19:09

Fire can be an obsessive cult which causes people to waste their best years scrimping every penny and missing many experiences in the pursuit of happiness a couple of decades later - if it ever arrives

KatiePricesKnickers · 20/06/2026 19:09

Will you be complaining when he can retire at 50?

DollydaydreamTheThird · 20/06/2026 19:08

Sounds really dull. Life is for living. What if he gets hit by a bus tomorrow? I'm shit with money though so probably not the best person to ask. 😂if it helps I live with a spend thrift too. Everything has to be as cheap as possible. Holidays always booked last minute, picnics on days out rather than going to a cafe so I feel your pain. He is very generous with gifts and takes me to fancy places though on the flipside.

Tepidwater · 20/06/2026 19:07

Or is he just being a boring arse about it and always waffling on about it?

Tepidwater · 20/06/2026 19:07

how is it impacting life in the sense os he refusing to holiday? Refusing to do anything that involves money? Is he screwing you over by you paying more towards the family? That kind of thing

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