AIBU to object to my partner wearing his late father's underwear?

There are people the world over who would be grateful for secondhand pants. I also think boxer type pants are less of a problem than tighty whities or more close-fitting women’s pants. As for people saying they wouldn’t want secondhand sheets, do they never stay away from home?

Ick.

I would object too. It’s possibly irrational I buy everything second hand from vinted. Shoes, clothes, coats so am a big reusing fan. I buy new underwear though and swimming costumes. Essentially if it’s supposed to sit against your naked crotch then I’ll buy new. I think everyone has their own line though as lots wouldn’t wear second hand at all.

It really doesn’t matter. Makes sense to me

I can see why that would be odd if she died by drowning.....

Have you ever been bereaved?

It is a bit strange. I went on holiday a few years ago and one of my friends brought two of her dead grandmas swimming costumes to wear. I found it rather odd.

three words - dead dad's dong

My dad gave me my mum's new knickers when she died a few years ago.....i just couldn't wear them!!

Yeah I don’t want to wear things other peoples fannies would have been all over. I’d rather go commando.

Please bring back the laughing emoji mumsnet
This made me snort out loud

His dad's actual penis has been rubbing all over them.

It will be different aspect that would bother different people, surely?

For someone its the underwear aspect, for someone the dead person aspect, for someone the Father/ FIL aspect, while others wont see a problem at all.

I guess guys view underwear a bit different to us women.

So presumably hotels are out of the question…

I think playing dress up in the clothes of anyone you know who is sadly deceased is a tad odd let alone underwear.

This just made me BOL! 🤣

I think it's a bit weird and can't imagine wearing anyone else's knickers, whether they were dead or alive.
However, I know a worse example. My friend's Godmother wore her dead dad's baggy drawers with the fly sewn up.

‘Formally belonging to a dead person’ is a weird objection. I wear socks and a hoodie that belonged to my mum and dad respectively, both now dead. They weren’t wearing these specific clothes when they died if that helps?

You've never stayed in a hotel then?

No, I'd hate it, pants, no! My partner uses his dad's bathrobe, his late dad's bathrobe and I hate that. Can't explain why because I have a cardigan of my late mums.

No logic in any of it, it's emotions.

Even the fact you can't return underwear after you try it on and remove the protective sticker.

Isn't that mainly because people wouldn't bother to wash underwear before returning it - as washing it implies having properly worn it (so they can no longer sell it as new) and thus they will refuse the return?

It's not comparable to underwear that belonged to a family member and has been obviously used but thoroughly washed.

As much as I loved my mother I wouldn't wear her underwear especially her knickers. I'm not sure why as I was used to wearing hand me downs growing up. Change in the times I suppose, they now seem like very personal garments.

PS YANBU

Well anyone would borrow a jumper or a jacket from their dad while he was alive but never his underwear. So same when dead.
I have sisters. We swop clothes, borrow, give away etc but never knickers. That's a step too far. Even the fact you can't return underwear after you try it on and remove the protective sticker.

I wouldn't wear any pre used underwear, nothing to do with whose it was.

Better to rip up and pass to charity shop that takes "rags" as it can still be reused, usually shredded for stuffing or something. Check first as not many places do take it.

Noooo! That's too weird. I'm generally happy to wear anything second hand but pants are just wrong!
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