AIBU to object to my partner wearing his late father's underwear?

Unless you are secretly wanting to wear them yourself then I cannot find any reasonable objection. 😂
Why is it worrying you?
I personally would not wear cast off underwear, but would not be concerned at all if others did.

But she too will be dead at some stage in the next 100 years! We're mostly talking here about re-using pants where the previous owner was still alive when they last wore them, so what's the real difference?!

My SIL isn't a MNer, but she would doubtless chime far more with the MN hive mind than me.

When her children were very tiny, whenever they had any 'code brown' accidents in their pants, she would clean them up but bag up and throw the pants away in the bin, rather than washing them.

Then again, we used re-usable nappies for our DS - so we were well used to the concept of potentially pooey clothes going into the washing machine; although they always came out lovely and clean... because our washing machine worked as standard.

I don't know about OP's case, but a large proportion of commonly-worn men's pants don't really have a gusset at all. It's just effectively a curtain of fabric that shields the free-dangling dangly bits, with a bifurcation some distance below them.

I’m guessing she’s still alive tho so that makes it less weird I’d say?

Haha yes, to be fair that would be odd. I don't have a partner to contend with.
I'd find it weird if my Mums old pants turned him on 🤣

Not really.

I was recently wearing and binning pants because the heaviness of menopausal bleeding, the size of the clots, blood through tampons, pads, knickers and trousers in one gush...
Mum had a clearout and gave me a load of her old pants.

They were clean.

Totally agree with you. The days of wearing hand me down knickers from family members will appall the ones who didn't have to live this as normal. Guess what, we never caught any diseases, thay were boil washed in higher temperatures than a washing machine cycle now.

Well if it makes him happy, what's the problem? At the age now when DH and DS mix up their underwear, what's the difference?

Please stop being so hard on him, let him do it.

That would give me serious ick..

Ahem. It might seem quite reasonable to wear someone’s used (but clean) pants but in practice I have seen how underwear wears differently in the - ahem - gusset area.
Specifically, the area can discolour over time and, while still clean, can take on a somewhat yellow-ish hue. To be fair women’s pants can also discolour but perhaps not to the same extent.
So it’s not unreasonable that people might find this off putting…
Apologies if TMI.

The only thing reassuring here is that rudely speaking is his fathers balls and willy once in there. But other than that I am very peculiar about underwear.....it is like I am sleeping with his father

Having worked in hospitality, I can assure you those towels will have seen and done some things that would make you scream …… 😂

Gross. Why would you wear someone elses underwear?

Excellent

hahaha! Typical MN conversation with so much drama for no reason 😂😂

I mean in theory it should be fine but something about him wearing his dead father’s undercrackers is a bit icky!

As long as he respects your request he doesn’t wear when seeing you… all good 🤷‍♀️

I would find it equally strange but let’s be honest guys don’t overthink 😂

I mean, I wouldnt want my parents underwear whether they were alive or dead, or anyone else's for that matter but I have put YABU because if my husband wore his father's underwear then I wouldnt object, its surely a purely personal decision, its not me thats wearing them!!

I still wear my great grandmother’s bloomers, just as my grandmother and my mother did before me.

To quote Paul Calf in Paul and Pauline Calf’s Video Diaries ‘I’m not wearing dead man’s pants’.

One of the worst things I have ever witnessed was the departmental cricket box, passed from one player to another. I knew future DH was a gent when he declined it as had his own.

Fair enough @Youhavereachedyourdestination- like I said, for some people it’s the thought of it. That’s a valid reason not to like it. No one has to justify why they don’t like the idea.🤷🏼‍♀️ But the posts suggesting there is some sort of hygiene issue are incorrect IMO.

For me it’s because it’s the clothing on my husband immediately cradling his cock and bollocks and is the item of clothing I pull off him to have sex.

It doesn’t matter that they’re clean. I don’t want to be faced with his dad’s pants when I’m feeling frisky- obviously. What about if he wore his mum’s pants, I mean it’s all just fabric and it’s clean isn’t it? What does it matter?

It matters because they are a couple and underwear is an intimate thing. If the marriage is sexless and platonic, well crack on wearing dead relatives undercrackers I guess.

I prefer knowing that my husband’s pants have only housed his bollocks and no one else’s thanks.