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Did my DH’s comments to a stranger cross the line?

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Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 16:39

Local retail park - there’s a gym by the car park. Walking back to the car earlier, DH makes conversation with a man (early/mid 20’s I guess) and says he’s in good shape (he had a vest on and was muscly) and that he wouldn’t trust him around me. Jokey tone, the guy laughed. He then said ‘she’d eat you alive, son. She’d probably teach you a thing or two’, again he laughed and we carried on walking.

DH is a bit of a cheeky chappy and always makes conversation with strangers, but I felt this was a bit off.

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dizzydizzydizzy · 20/06/2026 18:05

TofuTuesday · 20/06/2026 16:43

Are any of these weird conversations actually true? We’ve had the waiter one, the builder one, I have never met anyone who talks like this.

It sounds entirely plausible to me. DM does the same thing. Pretty sure she has ADHD and it is due to lack of impulse control.

Imaginingdragonsagain · 20/06/2026 18:04

DimwittedSkater · 20/06/2026 16:56

Sounds like he was jealous of the muscly young man, tbh. Calling him "son" and making out that he was so clueless that his wife would make mincemeat of him and teach him a thing or two. I really think this is the male version of when a woman gets jealous of a beautiful woman.

I agree. How embarrassing for you, he sounds a bit of a twat. Not keen on “cheeky chappies” either.

AgnesMcDoo · 20/06/2026 18:01

Yuck 🤢

Gwenna · 20/06/2026 17:59

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 16:39

Local retail park - there’s a gym by the car park. Walking back to the car earlier, DH makes conversation with a man (early/mid 20’s I guess) and says he’s in good shape (he had a vest on and was muscly) and that he wouldn’t trust him around me. Jokey tone, the guy laughed. He then said ‘she’d eat you alive, son. She’d probably teach you a thing or two’, again he laughed and we carried on walking.

DH is a bit of a cheeky chappy and always makes conversation with strangers, but I felt this was a bit off.

That would be just male banter to me, OP, and nothing bad meant by it but that’s my perspective. It wouldn’t bother me,in fact I’d find it quite funny and might quip something back if they were in earshot, but you still have a right to feel uncomfortable and to communicate that to him.

pepayfelix · 20/06/2026 17:57

Pathetic that he was trying to impress a stranger. And so disrespectful to do it by showing off about your sex life, or exaggerating to sound like a stud. He needs to grow up.

CustardySergeant · 20/06/2026 17:54

I'm not even entirely sure exactly what he meant when he said that he wouldn't trust the young man around you. What exactly did he think could happen?

Bobajobob · 20/06/2026 17:52

Yuk. Cheeky chappie = crass, sexist pig.

Ved · 20/06/2026 17:51

Urgh how grim. 😖 He's talking about you as if you're a prize cow. What a thoroughly bloody odd thing to say. Problem is, many middle aged men think they're hilarious. Sadly they're not. Several middle aged/just past middle aged men I know (45 to 65) makes some 'quips' and comments sometimes (to me and to others) and they actually howl with laughter at how FUNNY they are. (One takes his glasses off his face, to wipe away the tears from his eyes, and off his cheeks,) whilst everyone else is like ....... 'what did I miss?' Confused

If you say 'errr, that wasn't actually funny' they sneer and say 'bah, nonsense! It was funny. You just don't have a sense of humour.'

YANBU @Cyclingsar Very odd way to behave. Has he done anything like this before?

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Bebeemerald · 20/06/2026 17:45
  1. who the fuck goes up to a stranger and compliments their body?
  2. who the fuck them brags about his wife sexually?

Answer seems to be your cheeky chappy cunty husband I guess.

heartsinvisiblefury · 20/06/2026 17:40

Yep. Not a cheeky chap. An unfunny insecure idiot.

Wauwinet · 20/06/2026 17:33

He’s not a “cheeky chappy,” he’s just a twat. He’s in his 50s ffs!

PussyGaylore · 20/06/2026 17:33

CatesandAle · 20/06/2026 16:50

Sounds like he was a bit intimidated by the younger man’s physique and wanted to give his own ego a boost by boasting about his sex mad woman and his greater sexual experience?

YANBU.

My thoughts too.

iseenyouwithkefir · 20/06/2026 17:30

It's a no from me; I prefer to choose who I want my body/sex life discussed with and speculated about, thanks. Also why on earth would he assume that a stranger was single (or polyamourous) and hetero/bi?

Happyjoe · 20/06/2026 17:28

Yeah, he crossed the line. I don't know why anyone makes remarks about a strangers appearance and I'll never like men who jokingly or otherwise make remarks about women's sexual habits or appearance.

I guess it wasn't his wit that attracted you to him?

PurpleLovecats · 20/06/2026 17:27

Utterly grim.

wherearethesnacks · 20/06/2026 17:26

Ah, yes. The type who humiliates his wife for a laugh from a stranger.

Pickledonions12 · 20/06/2026 17:24

Christ on a bike. Your H is disgusting

AgnesX · 20/06/2026 17:24

Just yuk. Cringe.😖

luckylavender · 20/06/2026 17:24

I’d be so embarrassed

Jamescleverest · 20/06/2026 17:24

He sounds like a total creep.

RaininSummer · 20/06/2026 17:24

Pretty grim. Accidentally clicked wrong vote. Not sure if it's more offensive to you or the man.

babyproblems · 20/06/2026 17:23

The first line ok but of a joke / man compliment. The second part - just plain weird!!! What was the thinking behind it… is your DH controlling or jealous? Seems odd!

Duvetdayforme · 20/06/2026 17:23

Dear god. He sounds very juvenile.

Downatthebeach · 20/06/2026 17:22

Sorry OP but your husband sounds like a totally disrespectful sleazebag. Not only did he seek to embarrass you, but I’m sure the poor young man who he said this to would have thought your husband was a wasted space.

What on earth possessed him to make such dreadful comments about you. Perhaps it’s time you ditched him. I certainly would not be sticking by someone with nil respect for me.

Has he always been like this or has he just got worse as he is getting older???

Noodleschicken · 20/06/2026 17:21

He sounds like a creep