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Did my DH’s comments to a stranger cross the line?

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Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 16:39

Local retail park - there’s a gym by the car park. Walking back to the car earlier, DH makes conversation with a man (early/mid 20’s I guess) and says he’s in good shape (he had a vest on and was muscly) and that he wouldn’t trust him around me. Jokey tone, the guy laughed. He then said ‘she’d eat you alive, son. She’d probably teach you a thing or two’, again he laughed and we carried on walking.

DH is a bit of a cheeky chappy and always makes conversation with strangers, but I felt this was a bit off.

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hourspassed · 20/06/2026 20:05

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:14

I pointed out to him, some men may have not taken kindly to the comments. He said he was complimenting the man on two fronts so why would anyone be annoyed at their physique being complimented and the suggestion they could pull an ‘experienced MILF’.

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Jesus .. just when I thought things couldn't get any worse. Prince among men.

Mitzuko · 20/06/2026 19:56

It all depends on your relationship style. I admit it's a gross comment, but you know your DH enough to know where it really comes from.

Nevertheless if you felt humiliated ask him to stop.

I wouldn't like it, but maybe in his mind he wanted to compliment you in several ways:
Assuming this young guy would like you (because you're attractive) and would make him jealous
Assuming you're the 7 wonders in "that" aspect.

A bit gross for many, but possibly came out of admiration for you, although definitely a bit over the line.

Stop him if he thinks he's funny but you feel embarrassed

drunkelephant83 · 20/06/2026 19:55

I would have laughed and that would have been the end of that

anotherside · 20/06/2026 19:54

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:32

He does have plenty of friends, and is a local councillor now too, so there are people who took a liking to him.

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And Keir Starmer is PM when 70% of people think he’s a dick. And Nigel Farage is possibly PM in waiting when 80% of people think he’s a dick. Unfortunately career success isn’t correlated to not being a dick (unless perhaps negatively in the case of politicians).

MyArtfulGreySloth · 20/06/2026 19:53

Instant ick. How crude and embarrassing 🤢

MakingPlans2025 · 20/06/2026 19:52

“Cheeky chappy” 🤢 he sounds like a bellend

Noodleschicken · 20/06/2026 19:51

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:32

He does have plenty of friends, and is a local councillor now too, so there are people who took a liking to him.

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I would assume then after you “tore him off a strip” he did not apologise, or acknowledge the sleezy/creepiness of his words -

Pickledonions12 · 20/06/2026 19:42

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:32

He does have plenty of friends, and is a local councillor now too, so there are people who took a liking to him.

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A Reform Councillor? 🤣🤣😂

Fizzybluewater · 20/06/2026 19:36

Just read your ages... he sound like a dirty old man.

Fizzybluewater · 20/06/2026 19:34

A councillor as in local government?? He's a gobby twat with obviously twat minded friends and probably Reform, they take anyone from what I hear.

pinkstripeycat · 20/06/2026 19:34

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 17:06

We are both early 50’s.

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Omg! I’d have told DH to stop embarrassing people (covering all 3 of us). We’re old enough to be his parents!

My DH wouldn’t noticed another fella in a car park and certainly wouldn’t speak to him and would never, ever comment on his personal appearance. The rest of it is just gross.

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Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:32

SandrenaIsMyBloodType · 20/06/2026 19:31

And when you “tore a strip off him”, how did he react?
I think this is the key point. Did he apologise for referencing your sex life to a passing car park stranger? Could he admit that he was being inappropriate? Can he see that he is literally attention-seeking? Does he have any self-awareness?
He sounds like the kind of person who thinks their banter is amusing to everyone when around them when, in fact, everyone is quietly rolling their eyes.
If he craves male connection that badly, does he perhaps lack friends as well as social skills? He sounds like he needs a hobby. And some humility. And you deserve an apology.

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He does have plenty of friends, and is a local councillor now too, so there are people who took a liking to him.

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SandrenaIsMyBloodType · 20/06/2026 19:31

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 16:52

I didn’t want to make a scene in front of the poor lad but once we walked on I tore a strip off him.

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And when you “tore a strip off him”, how did he react?
I think this is the key point. Did he apologise for referencing your sex life to a passing car park stranger? Could he admit that he was being inappropriate? Can he see that he is literally attention-seeking? Does he have any self-awareness?
He sounds like the kind of person who thinks their banter is amusing to everyone when around them when, in fact, everyone is quietly rolling their eyes.
If he craves male connection that badly, does he perhaps lack friends as well as social skills? He sounds like he needs a hobby. And some humility. And you deserve an apology.

Cherrysoup · 20/06/2026 19:29

TheBloomingDahlia · 20/06/2026 19:26

What is lack of cough? Or is that a typo

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Lack of couth.

IlikebigboatsandIcannotlie · 20/06/2026 19:26

He just sounds absolutely unboundaried. How unpleasant!

TheBloomingDahlia · 20/06/2026 19:26

Cherrysoup · 20/06/2026 19:18

🤮 Emotional maturity of a block of cheese. Is he not horribly embarrassed at his total lack of cough? And discussing you like you’re some kind of cougar, Jesus Christ. I’d have dumped him right there and then to cool off.

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What is lack of cough? Or is that a typo

Fizzybluewater · 20/06/2026 19:24

I'd love to know what your friends / family think about him. Or does he keep his gob shut around them?

Pickledonions12 · 20/06/2026 19:23

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:14

I pointed out to him, some men may have not taken kindly to the comments. He said he was complimenting the man on two fronts so why would anyone be annoyed at their physique being complimented and the suggestion they could pull an ‘experienced MILF’.

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What an absolute cunt. 🤢😖

Fizzybluewater · 20/06/2026 19:19

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:14

I pointed out to him, some men may have not taken kindly to the comments. He said he was complimenting the man on two fronts so why would anyone be annoyed at their physique being complimented and the suggestion they could pull an ‘experienced MILF’.

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God he sounds twatter with every new post.
He sounds as if he has zero respect for you OP tbh if he talks like that in front of you and thinks that younger men are wanting to fuck women olde enough to be there mothers,
Yuk on so many levels.
Why are you actually with this over grown child? Seriously curious about the answer.

Cherrysoup · 20/06/2026 19:18

Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:14

I pointed out to him, some men may have not taken kindly to the comments. He said he was complimenting the man on two fronts so why would anyone be annoyed at their physique being complimented and the suggestion they could pull an ‘experienced MILF’.

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🤮 Emotional maturity of a block of cheese. Is he not horribly embarrassed at his total lack of cough? And discussing you like you’re some kind of cougar, Jesus Christ. I’d have dumped him right there and then to cool off.

SharkGoddess · 20/06/2026 19:17

I’m so embarrassed for everyone involved in this exchange.

whynotwhatknot · 20/06/2026 19:16

does he do this alot? its not a cpliment men dont want to hear theyve got a nice body from strangers and offering of their wife

Flamingojune · 20/06/2026 19:14

What exactly are older women meant to be teaching younger men anyway?

BinBasedKarma · 20/06/2026 19:14

Does your husband normally go around making unsolicited comments about other men's bodies? Is there something he is not telling you?

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Cyclingsar · 20/06/2026 19:14

Fizzybluewater · 20/06/2026 19:04

Love it when twats like OP's h get their come upance.
To those who would take it as a compliment, you come across as being really rough and a very low bar of self respect.
Before some twat say 'don't worry about me' I don't care if you want to look scummy.

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I pointed out to him, some men may have not taken kindly to the comments. He said he was complimenting the man on two fronts so why would anyone be annoyed at their physique being complimented and the suggestion they could pull an ‘experienced MILF’.

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