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Perceptions of 'healthy' or 'overweight' are really skewed by the area you live in?

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alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 11:21

I'm sure I'll get roasted for this, but here goes anyway...

I live in an area of London where pretty much nobody is 'overweight.' Particularly young people.

Last night, in Wembley Stadium (Harry Styles concert), the ONLY food available was chicken and chips or doughnuts. That's it. And - I know this will sound very judgemental - but I'd say about 7 / 10 people were quite 'overweight,' but all walking around in tiny shorts and cropped tops, etc (I know this is the vibe at this kind of event). It made me wonder if this is 'normal' for young people, on a national level? I know it sounds judgemental, but AIBU? Are most teens overweight where you live?

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Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 14:06

dizzydizzydizzy · 21/06/2026 13:56

Most European countries - in particular Western Europe. It’s been in the news a lot over many years about how the UK obesity compares very unfavorably with the rest of Europe. Eg:

www.theguardian.com/society/2017/nov/10/uk-most-obese-country-in-western-europe-oecd-report-finds?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

I can't see any European data in that article and it's very old. Based on current data and my own observations, I would say the UK is not that different to countries like Germany in terms of obesity rates.

Schleit · 21/06/2026 14:02

My friend came to visit me from Rotherham to London. He said, blimey, everyone is so thin here. He felt there was a real difference in the weight of the average person compared to where he lived.

I’m not sure it is a north south thing. I was struck when I went to Norfolk at how much bigger people were. Also, the food portion sizes were larger, but I didn’t mind as it was delicious.

BaffledOwl · 21/06/2026 13:57

Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 13:46

I completely agree but for the people who are so despised on MN - those of lower socioeconomic status - having treatments available to reduce health inequalities and improve long-term outcomes is a wonderful thing. I'd happily pay more tax to ensure these drugs are freely available on the NHS.

I would rather investment go in earlier.

Focusing on socioeconomic, and health inequalities, let's evaluate all of those areas that fall within the 30% most deprived.

  • Bolster local plans by banning convenience food shops and hot food take ours within 400 meters of schools.
  • Ban advertising that promotes unhealthy lifestyle choices.
  • Offer universal healthy free school meals to a wider range and cohort of children (preferably with salad or fruit bars at schools, so children can make healthy choices...)
  • Invest in attractive green spaces that are actually focused on families (and have junior parkruns in all of them!)
  • Make physical education a bigger part of the curriculum...
  • Have some family-friendly exercises classes free at point of access.

I am just dreaming here, but I do believe some of those things are within the realms of possibility.

dizzydizzydizzy · 21/06/2026 13:56

Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 13:38

Which countries specifically are you referring to?

Most European countries - in particular Western Europe. It’s been in the news a lot over many years about how the UK obesity compares very unfavorably with the rest of Europe. Eg:

www.theguardian.com/society/2017/nov/10/uk-most-obese-country-in-western-europe-oecd-report-finds?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 13:46

BaffledOwl · 21/06/2026 13:40

It's wonderful that those weight loss medicines are available but surely, when it comes to systemic issues like this, prevention is better than the cure?

For my children, I'd prefer them to have a good relationship with food in the first place rather than need to be medicated later on in life.

I completely agree but for the people who are so despised on MN - those of lower socioeconomic status - having treatments available to reduce health inequalities and improve long-term outcomes is a wonderful thing. I'd happily pay more tax to ensure these drugs are freely available on the NHS.

BaffledOwl · 21/06/2026 13:40

Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 13:35

Or they will be offered WLIs for free on the NHS and lose weight. We're now in a new era where we have multiple options to treat obesity - a chronic, relapsing disease. I see this as a fantastic achievement and one that will have a huge impact on public health.

It's wonderful that those weight loss medicines are available but surely, when it comes to systemic issues like this, prevention is better than the cure?

For my children, I'd prefer them to have a good relationship with food in the first place rather than need to be medicated later on in life.

Thebigonesgetaway · 21/06/2026 13:39

alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 11:40

No of course it's ok to eat chicken and chips every so often but I'm saying the food at Wembley Stadium is, by any measure, really bad. This is supposed to be an iconic venue. Nothing for vegetarians. Nothing beyond chips, fried chicken and doughnuts! I've been to the O2 which has a lot more choice.

Were the other food outlets shut then, they do pies, hotdogs, pizza, beef burgers, hot dogs inc vegetarian ones and have two markies on level two

https://help.wembleystadium.com/support/solutions/articles/7000028416-food-and-drink-availability-locations-and-dietary-requirements

Food and Drink Availability, Locations and Dietary Requirements

Wembley Stadium offers a wide range of food and drink options throughout the venue, catering to a variety of tastes and dietary requirements. Wembley Stadium offers a wide variety of food and drink options to suit all tastes: Draught Bars -...

https://help.wembleystadium.com/support/solutions/articles/7000028416-food-and-drink-availability-locations-and-dietary-requirements

Honeyhonay · 21/06/2026 13:38

Are most teens overweight where you live?

16-24 have the smallest levels of obesity compared to it peaking for those 55-74.

Oh no, facts getting in the way of your judgement!

Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 13:38

dizzydizzydizzy · 21/06/2026 13:35

Oh for goodness sake….. I have been to virtually every country in Europe. I did not say other European countries do not have fat people. In many or probably most European countries, people are on average slimmer than in the UK.

Which countries specifically are you referring to?

dizzydizzydizzy · 21/06/2026 13:35

Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 13:27

There are vast numbers of overweight Europeans. I can only assume you are just not very well travelled.

Oh for goodness sake….. I have been to virtually every country in Europe. I did not say other European countries do not have fat people. In many or probably most European countries, people are on average slimmer than in the UK.

Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 13:35

BaffledOwl · 21/06/2026 13:31

26% of adults are obese in England. 22% of children in year six are overweight or obese in England.

There is direct correlation with deprivation - that's just a fact.

Perception is skewed. There's also an issue with how to discuss weight issues, and parenting advice, sensitively; trying to talk to a parent about both is tricky.

Quite often, people try and smooth over it when they're talking about a child's weight 'ooh, it's just puppy fat/he's just big boned/he's growing' when actually, a good proportion of those children will continue to be overweight into adulthood and have a reduced healthy life expectancy.

Or they will be offered WLIs for free on the NHS and lose weight. We're now in a new era where we have multiple options to treat obesity - a chronic, relapsing disease. I see this as a fantastic achievement and one that will have a huge impact on public health.

BaffledOwl · 21/06/2026 13:31

26% of adults are obese in England. 22% of children in year six are overweight or obese in England.

There is direct correlation with deprivation - that's just a fact.

Perception is skewed. There's also an issue with how to discuss weight issues, and parenting advice, sensitively; trying to talk to a parent about both is tricky.

Quite often, people try and smooth over it when they're talking about a child's weight 'ooh, it's just puppy fat/he's just big boned/he's growing' when actually, a good proportion of those children will continue to be overweight into adulthood and have a reduced healthy life expectancy.

PancakeCloud · 21/06/2026 13:27

alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 19:44

No people wearing shorts is not a 'crisis.' It doesn't need to be. This thread is an observation. Fashions and choices of clothes do reveal cultural shifts - about what we think is aspirational, or acceptable or whatever. I'm in my 50s and fully admit I don't get quite a lot of things about the culture younger people live in. So there is that for sure. But to me, there is 'body confident' and then there's people wearing things they really don't need to be wearing. Sorry, and by all
means call me old fashioned, but there it is. I would argue nobody needs to be in micro shorts with their bum showing, I don't care what size or shape they are. But also, people can dress for their size and body type. In other countries people manage this better I think, even countries with similar socio-economic divisions, so I don't think it's only about that.

Okay, I’ll call you old fashioned and a bit of a ghoul to be bothered by (and feel the need to cast aspersions) on what other people wear.

Dragonscaledaisy · 21/06/2026 13:27

dizzydizzydizzy · 21/06/2026 12:54

well yes, agreed of course! I misssd out the word ‘European’ above. I used to live in the US.

There are vast numbers of overweight Europeans. I can only assume you are just not very well travelled.

5128gap · 21/06/2026 13:20

It stands to reason that if you're wealthy enough to buy yourself an easier, less stressful lifestyle you'll have more headspace to focus on diet and excercise and more money to throw at it.
If your life doesn't consist of costly nice things, you can see why the relatively cheap pleasure of food is attractive.
I was at an event the other day where an additional physical activity for children cost £10. Ice creams cost £2. I heard at least one child ask to do the activity and be told no, but you can have an ice cream. And the length of queue for ice cream versus activity suggests they weren't the only one.

0livetree · 21/06/2026 13:17

This was all the case what before WLI. However go back over a hundred years and only the very wealthy could be fat

UltimateSloth · 21/06/2026 13:13

A lot of it is down to the way we spend our leisure time. If you don't have much money the leisure activities available to you are mainly screen based. This enables you to eat at the same time. I notice it myself as screen time has crept up. When I was a teen I was always out - the internet wasn't a thing and there was one TV in the house with 4 channels, mostly with my parents choice of programmes.

I was always out, never home and as I couldn't afford to eat out I ate very little when out of the house. When I'm at home these days there is constant thoughts about what food I have in the kitchen and I find myself snacking. I notice my own children, while not overweight are bigger than the skinny teen I used to be and they spend a lot more time at home than I did and graze while gaming etc. They do sports and gym, but a few hours a week of that doesn't entirely cancel out the extra calories available to them.

Breadcat24 · 21/06/2026 13:09

catering in venues is always rubbish- they have a captive audience, maybe some people did not have time to eat before or thought that there would be more choice

dizzydizzydizzy · 21/06/2026 12:54

SylvanMoon · 21/06/2026 12:36

Have you never been to America then?

well yes, agreed of course! I misssd out the word ‘European’ above. I used to live in the US.

EvieBB · 21/06/2026 12:53

Housebashing · 21/06/2026 12:25

We went to a concert recently at Wembley and there was a box place that you could go to and you could pick up a normal manner of foods Thai curries pizzas pasta
Not massively healthy but more healthier than chicken and chips

Chicken's healthy though...? Pizza and pasta is simple/ fast carbs....

AClassicTrenchcoat · 21/06/2026 12:53

It’s easy to be overweight, harder to be slim. If you live in an area where obesity is the norm it is easy to fall into that approach. If you are surrounded by people making unhealthy choices and the area is deprived, it becomes normalised. Likewise, if you live in a “slimmer” place, it is easy to be slimmer.

I do think it is a class thing. The really obese are invariably working class. If I see a really obese person and they turn out to be upper or middle class I am always shocked.

Being fat is normalised in this country. People get testy if people discuss it, asking what the agenda is on this thread, what are you trying to achieve, you are body shaming teens, stop being obsessed with other people’s bodies - it’s a subject like any other and up for discussion because it is a major health issue in this country. We can’t ignore it however uncomfortable it makes others.

EvieBB · 21/06/2026 12:46

alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 11:33

I think at large scale events like that you really see the 'obesity crisis' in the U.K. - and yes, how this is normalised. I think the food options at Wembley really brought it home as well. Wembley is supposed to be a venue for world class events. Surely they can do better than chicken and chips and doughnuts ffs. It's not like that at other stadiums.

I've only ever seen poor food options at stadiums so thought that was normal...as frustrating as it is.
Yep. Lots of overweight people up here (North). No judgement though.

Periperi2025 · 21/06/2026 12:39

In your opinion OP, what are overweight young people meant to wear in a hot venue during a heatwave?

Washingupdone · 21/06/2026 12:38

*alwaysdream *I'm a mum obviously and I'm a size 10 and I would probably put myself as medium / large around here

Go back 20 years, before vanity sizing changed everything, you would have been 12/14 size. One thing to be aware of when buying of ‘vinted’.

winnieanddaisy · 21/06/2026 12:38

My DGD was probably one of those overweight young people that you saw at the Harry Styles concert, and she wouldn’t give two hoots what you thought . She had traveled from the North West and had two overnights in a hotel with her friends in order to attend the concert .
it cost her a fortune and she had the best time. She has been a One Direction fan since she was 5 when they started out and what she weighs does not alter that .