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Perceptions of 'healthy' or 'overweight' are really skewed by the area you live in?

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alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 11:21

I'm sure I'll get roasted for this, but here goes anyway...

I live in an area of London where pretty much nobody is 'overweight.' Particularly young people.

Last night, in Wembley Stadium (Harry Styles concert), the ONLY food available was chicken and chips or doughnuts. That's it. And - I know this will sound very judgemental - but I'd say about 7 / 10 people were quite 'overweight,' but all walking around in tiny shorts and cropped tops, etc (I know this is the vibe at this kind of event). It made me wonder if this is 'normal' for young people, on a national level? I know it sounds judgemental, but AIBU? Are most teens overweight where you live?

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user4903456342 · 20/06/2026 16:15

Gonnaeatalotofpeaches · 20/06/2026 13:12

I moved from the midlands to Geneva two years ago.
Here very few people are overweight, I am a size 6 and pretty normal size here, in England I find it hard to find clothes in my size as what says a size 6 on the label is far bigger than the European equivalent.
I really notice how big and generally unhealthy people look when I arrive back in the UK but also travelling to somewhere such as Lyon where it’s less affluent I see people are bigger.
Also I notice the British kids are far taller than the ones local to us (multiple nationalities).

I'm a size 6-8 and I've never had trouble finding clothes. You do know European brands are available here, right? If you're in London, Net-a-Porter will even bring them right to your door.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 20/06/2026 16:12

You sound like my mum when I take her to the Toby carvery.

miserablecat · 20/06/2026 16:07

Harry Styles tickets weren't all outrageously priced . Obviously they are not an essential and if you were in poverty you wouldnt have spare money for it but its not a given that everyone going will be wealthy. My ticket was 75, and DD says she's seen tickets for £40. A lot of times people with free tickets are the ones who could easily afford it anyway!
Some people may have got them for presents,i know someone who works pt and earns about £700/month. She paid £500 for a concert ticket (not HS) and paid it off in instalments

alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 16:05

We had free last min tickets too @XelaM . The only songs I recognised were the last 2. I don't really get the hype either? Though he is good on stage.

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writingsonthewall · 20/06/2026 16:04

I live in an affluent town and work in an affluent part of London and most people Around both areas are slim. At work, with a few hundred people, I can’t think of anyone that is overweight. At my children’s schools there are a handful of overweight children in schools of hundreds.

sometimes when I’m out and about I realise how many overweight people are around though yes, mostly recently at the o2 for a gig.

XelaM · 20/06/2026 16:03

In my daughter's year group (Year 11 so 16-year-olds) there isn't a single overweight teenager, but it's admittedly a fairly small year group. None of her friends outside of school are overweight 🤷‍♀️

I went to the Harry Styles concert at Wembley Wednesday and there were many more food options than just chicken & chips, but admittedly none healthy and yes, quite a few people were overweight but many more were not. (P.S. I really don't get the Harry Styles hype at all - I didn't think there was one good song 🤷‍♀️ but then I was given a free ticket by a friend so who am I to complain 🤣)

Fleeba · 20/06/2026 16:02

Where I live,in an affluent area, it’s normal to be slim. A mile or two down the road is the affordable housing zone, the shopping centre down there is packed with fat people. It’s incredibly depressing. Diabetes central. Whoever worked to normalise fatness probably was getting paid by big pharma.

labamba007 · 20/06/2026 16:00

I live in a poorer area and yes I feel much bigger in London! What I love about London is the healthy continence food available - I’m on the go so much so having something healthier is brilliant.

There is a direct correlation between poverty and obesity so I don’t think you’re wrong. I think the richer you are the more likely you can access activities/things to make you happy - everything from holidays to days out. If you’re poorer the accessible fun things that are cheap are often food, cigarettes and alcohol. Not that I’m making excuses, I’ve lost nearly 2 stone now and keep going!

likimagee · 20/06/2026 15:59

I live in an area with a fair bit of deprivation and yes I see a lot more obesity here than when I’m in London for work. Off the top of my head I can only think of a couple of people in my whole organisation (1000+) who are overweight. Very middle class org!

Hoppity80 · 20/06/2026 15:56

I don't think you're economically deprived if you can pay to go and see Harry Styles at Wembley.

TallSturdyGirls · 20/06/2026 15:56

I live up North and when here I feel average (I am a size 14).
I often work in London, when there I feel overweight.
It definitely impacts on the effort I make to eat less
I also play two sports. In one (football) I am average, in the other (cycling) I am fat.

missmollygreen · 20/06/2026 15:53

You are so right OP! It does sound judgmental.

Mistymagic77 · 20/06/2026 15:47

YANBU and it’s definitely socio-economic to a certain extent. Though weight loss drugs have changed things a bit.

Food options out and about generally in the UK are awful or expensive.

Dragonscaledaisy · 20/06/2026 15:39

Gonnaeatalotofpeaches · 20/06/2026 13:12

I moved from the midlands to Geneva two years ago.
Here very few people are overweight, I am a size 6 and pretty normal size here, in England I find it hard to find clothes in my size as what says a size 6 on the label is far bigger than the European equivalent.
I really notice how big and generally unhealthy people look when I arrive back in the UK but also travelling to somewhere such as Lyon where it’s less affluent I see people are bigger.
Also I notice the British kids are far taller than the ones local to us (multiple nationalities).

When I lived in Switzerland, people in Basel and Zurich looked particularly unhealthy to me.

alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 15:29

This is a discussion forum and sorry if some people want to see the thread as 'nasty.' Quite possibly it is and I wouldn't normally post like this. Howver, I was quite 'struck' last night, and I'm just being honest.

It's like when you go to American theme parks and there are people on mobility vehicles because they are so obese they can barely walk. That's not really something you see so much in Europe. But I do think, in the U.K., there is a tendency now for girls who are not obese, but maybe a size 14 to go out in shorts which are cut so you can see their actual bum. And crop tops with their belly literally hanging out. On the one hand, some may say well why shouldn't they? Stop fat shaming! Body positivity - live and let live! Ok. That's a view. Another view is, that these kind of clothes are not flattering or particularly necessary. And when you are surrounded by thousands dressed like this, it's hard not to notice. Do girls do this in other countries? If not, why not?

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Campingintherain2024 · 20/06/2026 15:25

Definitely. Its an extreme version but we have family in Asia and spend a lot of time there. As a UK size 12 I look huge compared to almost everyone. I can't buy clothes in normal stores. The specialist plus sized stores have the worst names ever! And then when he come back to the UK everyone appears so much bigger.

Flight291 · 20/06/2026 15:10

KilkennyCats · 20/06/2026 15:07

How can you tell? Is it really obvious when you travel out of borough and you’re suddenly surrounded by heifers? 😂
People claiming to know all about all the people in their presumably large area of London make me laugh.

I don’t live in London but when I move between where I live and my parents do it is very much like this. Not sure why you think that sounds absurd.

Flight291 · 20/06/2026 15:09

Yes, people in poorer areas are fatter. My parents live in a low income part of the UK and there are way more fat people there and a very noticeable number who are extremely obese. A level of obesity I never really see in the affluent park of the UK I am in. Like American level of morbid obesity.

KilkennyCats · 20/06/2026 15:07

LaurieFairyCake · 20/06/2026 14:52

Yeah I also live in an affluent area in London, much fewer overweight people here.

How can you tell? Is it really obvious when you travel out of borough and you’re suddenly surrounded by heifers? 😂
People claiming to know all about all the people in their presumably large area of London make me laugh.

Dragonscaledaisy · 20/06/2026 15:05

alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 11:21

I'm sure I'll get roasted for this, but here goes anyway...

I live in an area of London where pretty much nobody is 'overweight.' Particularly young people.

Last night, in Wembley Stadium (Harry Styles concert), the ONLY food available was chicken and chips or doughnuts. That's it. And - I know this will sound very judgemental - but I'd say about 7 / 10 people were quite 'overweight,' but all walking around in tiny shorts and cropped tops, etc (I know this is the vibe at this kind of event). It made me wonder if this is 'normal' for young people, on a national level? I know it sounds judgemental, but AIBU? Are most teens overweight where you live?

Do you live in an economically deprived area of London?

KilkennyCats · 20/06/2026 15:03

alwaysdream · 20/06/2026 11:21

I'm sure I'll get roasted for this, but here goes anyway...

I live in an area of London where pretty much nobody is 'overweight.' Particularly young people.

Last night, in Wembley Stadium (Harry Styles concert), the ONLY food available was chicken and chips or doughnuts. That's it. And - I know this will sound very judgemental - but I'd say about 7 / 10 people were quite 'overweight,' but all walking around in tiny shorts and cropped tops, etc (I know this is the vibe at this kind of event). It made me wonder if this is 'normal' for young people, on a national level? I know it sounds judgemental, but AIBU? Are most teens overweight where you live?

Do you think the event was only for citizens of Wembley, op?
There could have been some fatsos from your area that you’d never met before 🤷🏻‍♀️

Joystir59 · 20/06/2026 15:02

In other countries which don't have an epidemic of obesity it's normal to discuss people's weight. it's not considered rude. We have become ridiculously over sensitive and defensive about it to the point where even doctors avoid talking about it, even though obesity is clearly causing or excaserbating a great number of illnesses.

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 20/06/2026 15:00

God this thread is NUTS. Stop obsessing over other people’s weights!

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 20/06/2026 14:59

LaurieFairyCake · 20/06/2026 14:52

Yeah I also live in an affluent area in London, much fewer overweight people here.

So what?

Joystir59 · 20/06/2026 14:58

I would estimate that 25% of adults where I live are overweight, and a further 25% are obese. North East coastal town.i would apply similar percentages to the children of this town. I5jink people have completely lost sight of what a normal weight looks like.

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