Shall I go out on my own tonight

It was obvious from your OP. Lots of posters prefer to project misogynistic stereotypes on women rather than read properly.

Owch you need to re assess your morals - you’re letting a man kiss you who’s in a relationship- shitty behaviour and I judge you

Go and enjoy yourself. Who cares what other people think. Draw clear lines with this man. Go knowing who you are and what you are/not up for. That’s for you to decide but then go out and own it.

The OP asked advice specifically to the environment she has set out. I gave my opinion.
I don’t think she should have gone to the club dancing. No. I suspect she would have attracted the man who was already in a relationship. She has already asked him if he will be there and he will. If she goes on her own she will give him a green light that she is up for a bit more of the same.
I could be wrong. She can test it out if she wants to.

As for in general. No i would not encourage a woman to go into a club on their own. And it would attract men who would clock they were and would be attracted to her because of precisely that. Such men exist. To pretend they don’t is just daft.

You can see that women should be able to do things. But it would be pig headed to go about doing things without having an eye to the reality of situations that prevail.

lol at the posters who say “why don’t you go somewhere else?” Presumably they’ve never had a good night out clubbing in their lives, and the diffference between a great club and a bad club is completely lost on them.

I agree men get away with this shit all too often and woman end up giving up their favourite clubs/pubs/venues to avoid them. I hope you went and had a great time, and if not I hope you do go back to this place in future since you seem to like it so much.

Except the OP also had a partner a week ago

Go. Maybe keep a slight distance from said bloke, just ensuring that you don’t upset everyone on here who thinks you’re after him and to ensure you don’t appear like Del Boys stalker. You know what the environment will be like and that you can settle and enjoy and not waste your money. I’d love to know what kind of music and where it is, I’d like to find a proper 70s disco night. Done Brutus Gold Train but just after a club somewhere … know of one in New York but can’t afford the air fare 😂

I’d go @Jammydodger70 and enjoy dancing, but keep your distance. You were interested until he admitted he was in a relationship; now you’re not interested. Your conscience is clear - he’s the one who blurred the lines.

Oh OP really.

Why are you posting two different versions of events?

And in the previous one you've already told them you're thinking of coming alone.

Why is that any different? You’re telling a women to modify her behaviour due to how a man might behave.
It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about an individual or woman in general.

I was referring the OP and the information she had provided.
You are wanting to talk about women going out alone in general.

It is. My initial interpretation was correct.
You’re saying women shouldn’t go out alone as it attracts ‘unsavoury types’. You’re saying women should modify their behaviour because men can’t control their own.

Go OP! Ignore him and have a fab time. You’re absolutely right when you say why should a women be stopped from what she wants to do by a stupid man? Sometimes we have to step out of our comfort zone, and the vast majority of times it’s worth it. Life is short! Fortune favours the brave! Only regret the things you didn’t do! And various other clichés I could throw at you!!

If you want to go, then go. Just stay away from him.

It smacks of desperate to me.

Dancing on my own comes to mind

Well, on the OP’s (probable) other thread, the friend simply stopped being interested in attending these club nights any more, which means there’s no last minute illness and hotel room going to waste.

Maybe you @Jammydodger70 and this op could meet up at the event if you totally aren't the same person 🙄🙄

Seriously, your last thread made it clear you were enjoying the attention from the man/men at this event, and at that time, you weren't even single.

Kind of puts a different spin on your question about tonight.

Stop chasing attention from men...put them out of your mind and enjoy the dancing and music if that is what you want to go to the event for

Regardless of what your real motives are for going out alone to this particular club, to the man and his mates, it will look like you’ve gone just to bump into him, and that will look kinda sad.

No, you shouldn’t have to miss out. Yes, you should be able to go solo.

But, the truth is, it will come across as desperate and stalkerish.

I don’t see why you should miss out on the night but I would steer well clear of the bloke.
What did you say to him when he told you he was in a relationship and have you spoken to him since?

Go if you want to; you've been to this club before so you have a realistic idea of whether or not you'll have fun and be comfortable on your own. It's fine to be out by yourself and fairly routine as you're away from home (even if you live close by). If you do go, avoid this bloke in the relationship; don't waste your time with him. He probably will approach you because he's been messing you around and clearly gets something out of doing that, so be clear up front that you're not interested in spending your limited time out and about with him and keep it to a quick "hi" and off you go.

I haven't read all of the responses but I think one reason people are being weird about your friend may be because you said she's "cried off sick", which implies she's lying. That stood out to me because it seemed like a weird and possibly unfair assumption on your part.

Anyway, trust your judgement - no one here can know what you'll enjoy or not. You seem way, way too worried and defensive about other people's opinions, whether it's this dickhead you were previously interested in and his friends or randomers here.

Just go, you're over thinking it, if you feel uncomfortable you can go back to your hotel. I think it's empowering doing things on your own, have a great night x

Or that a naive teenager might delude herself about why she’s so keen to go to this club to see a man she knows is married, but someone in their 30s or 40s really should know better?

I say this with no malice but I think you're creating a narrative in your mind about how you're an independent woman and nothing should stop you from going ahead with your dancing and hotel plan and if you happen to see him then that's out of your hands and you're an innocent party that got caught up in some fun.

This OP. And it's your conscience squeaking that has made you post for approval ...

But some of us have read a previous thread with some details changed by this OP — her friend, in the previous thread, simply didn’t want to keep going to the club any more, so there’s no last-minute drop out and hotel room going to waste. Also, the OP said on that thread that she was not single. AND that she and the friend had always gravitated towards the group of men which the married guy is part of. It was pretty clear he was the main motivation for her interest.