Shall I go out on my own tonight

So this is actually the second night you’ve had at the hotel. Has your sick friend gone home or she’s still staying at the hotel

"As far as the guy goes, if he's not married, he's fair game"

Morals of an alley cat there, I see. 👍

FAO this is the second night you’ve had at the hotel. Has your sick friend gone home or she’s still staying at the hotel

I’m not in to drama and this has drama and humiliation stamped all over it

@LoveHearts69

who cares what a load of randoms think?!

I’d definitely still go and stay in the hotel but I’d either make a night of it in the hotel with a bottle of wine, room service and bubble bath, or go out elsewhere.

In complete honesty I think dancing on your own may look a little weird, especially the fact you’ll be obviously on your own where he’s going to be. I’d take yourself for a nice meal and drink somewhere else if you care what he thinks.

I can't believe how many people are misunderstanding your posts.
You didn't know he was in a relationship.
You have every right to go to the club on your own. His presence there should not be a reason to stop you enjoying the club of your choice.
If he approaches you, you only need to tell him you're not interested in someone who is already in a relationship.
Have fun!

How many people are gonna be there? I would go. you like the music, you like dancing. what possible reason would you have to stay in a hotel room? Put yourself first.

you are so desperately defensive, I can't help but think, there was no friend, you booked this hotel specifically for yourself just to trail this man, or fingers crossed bump into him at said club. So this may not be case, but if that's what I get from it all, yes he probably will think you are stalking him.

Why did you bother starting this thread OP? You’ve told us lies. How does it work in your head, you ask us advice based on half truths. And if we support you going based on that you can justify going?

• the man is married
• he’s got children
• he’s a cheat
• You’re in a relationship
• so you’re a cheat too, because you flirted, walked home alone with him, kissed him, mentally cheating by obsessing about him, planning to meet him

Go, the two of you are made for each other. I feel sorry for his wife, their children and your partner.

Hope the sex is great, and that it’s worth the havoc and damage ye both wreak.

Jesus there are some odd people on MN.

OP, I personally would go, and would just ignore the guy if he's there. Go and have a dance and you'll probably see people you know. You will have people to talk to. It might be a bit weird, but you won't know til you're there. If the guy comes over, just say something like, I'm not here to see you, can you leave me alone please. And carry on dancing. Have fun!

Which is up to her/him. And no, I am not insufferable. All I have done is replied to the persistent line of prodding me into having a debate about women which I did not want to have. I have replied, and the person is still seeking that discussion. If I had confidence it was a discussion they really wanted I might be tempted to reply. But they really want I suspect is to rile me and have some sort of row. Which I really don’t want. That to me is insufferable.

YOLO! Go out and have fun OP

She’s interpreting what you’ve written as you’ve written it. You’re absolutely insufferable.

Interpret it how you wish.

Why are posters (not all obvs!) being such bitches to the OP? If you don't have basic reading comprehension skills then please refrain from posting. And just fuck off generally too.

Op I agree with you fully in theory. You've paid, you like the music, you would enjoy being there, why should you sit in because some idiot bloke behaved like a prick?

I would love to hear that you went along, had a great time and paid no attention to where he was in the place. After all who cares what he or his idiot mates think?

However the real question is how likely is that? Will you be feeling uncomfortable and foolish wondering if they're talking about you?

Think hard and then decide what you genuinely want to do. If you decide against going is there any compromise; something else in the town for you to do instead of sitting in with a book?

Have fun whatever you decide and definitely hold your head up. You have done nothing wrong here.

Even some of us with grandkids would rather go out than sit in with a takeaway

It’s literally what you’re saying. There is no other way to read it.

Read it how you wish.

Why should she stop going to a club night she regularly attends because one of the blokes “doesn’t want her to go”? Are you seriously that weak-willed that you bend to whatever some random bloke wants?

Why are you hitting on a bloke that’s in a relationship? Tacky as f!

op hasnt been back since posters linked another similar thread by a different poster.

anyway, despite me saying go,
i wouldnt! for 2 reasons, - on your own - and the rejection from the attached man.

You're still asking a woman to modify her behaviour because of how a man might behave or think. It doesn’t matter how you phrase it. That’s what you are saying.

You’re way overthinking this, you want to go and you have the means to go - so go! Life is too short to not go out dancing when you want to