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AIBU to feel hurt by a school mum’s mixed behaviour?

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Anonymous014 · 20/06/2026 04:59

I’m a bit upset about a school mum in my child’s class as I thought she was my friend but it’s becoming increasingly obvious she doesn’t actually like me.

one to one she’s so lovely to me but in group setting she ignores me. If looking at our interactions in a group you wouldn’t even think we were friends. She’s very warm on text messages and one to one but in a group setting she ignored me and doesn’t say hi unless I say it first. She’s very warm and chatty to others but cold towards me. I just don’t get it.

She will walk alongside the other parents in the class during drop off and chat but with me she just rushes past and doesn’t even stop to say hi unless I say it first then she just walks past and if she sees another parent will slow down to talk to them

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Sartre · 20/06/2026 09:23

I can’t be bothered with playground politics and perhaps you should adopt the same policy. It’s just not worth the hassle.

There’s a mum in DS’s class who blows hot and cold with me. She consistently greeted me for months till my DH went to her DS’s bday party a few months back and chatted to her DH for about an hour straight. They really got on well so no issues, they disagreed on pretty much everything politically but it didn’t matter because they got on.

She text me after the party almost embarrassed about it but I reassured her my DH enjoyed the exchange. Ever since she’s been weird with me. Most of the time she dodges eye contact and looks down when I pass… Then randomly one day she greeted me this week?!

To quote The Doors, people are strange.

LBFseBrom · 20/06/2026 09:20

PollyBell · 20/06/2026 05:56

Just leave her to it, get a life outside the school

Exactly.

Mystifyingly · 20/06/2026 09:19

It doesn’t sound that mysterious to me, OP. She quite likes you, possibly because your children are friends, but when others are around, there are people she likes better.

ithappenstootherfamilies · 20/06/2026 09:06

Maybe in a group setting she is just talking to other mum, being friendly, chatting to people she doesn't see much.....

Texting her was needy and a dramatic!

pictoosh · 20/06/2026 08:59

If something feels off, it usually is. Is there any reason she would want to downplay your friendship in front of others?

Otherwise I think you regard her as a superficial person and don't become too invested in her.

MegMortimer · 20/06/2026 08:32

Keep away from her and be happy.

Kerbie678 · 20/06/2026 08:31

There's no need to ask her if she's got an issue with you. Just be cordial in the text messages, and make them only about making arrangements for play dates etc for your kids, just like she's doing.

Anonymous014 · 20/06/2026 08:25

I actually messaged her to ask if I have offended her in any way. She responded very warmly saying don’t be silly and she really likes me! I’m sorry you don’t treat people like that. I’m not stupid I can tell when someone is being off. She obviously doesn’t want to tell me what the issue is and I don’t really care but I get upset around atmosphere so I will avoid from now on. I can’t ignore her messages as I think that’s rude and our kids are friends so don’t want to impact that

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ShowCryBrook · 20/06/2026 08:02

There is always one weird Mum at school.
Leave her to her odd behaviour, it’s not you, it is her weird way.
You will be much happier without her. Ultimately she is controlling and jealous.

PollyBell · 20/06/2026 05:56

Just leave her to it, get a life outside the school

Bluewombler · 20/06/2026 05:54

Do the same to her, don't reply to the texts and ignore her

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