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Would you find this description of office wear offensive?

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Worldcup262 · 19/06/2026 21:39

If a colleague described female colleagues wearing more summer-like clothes (and naturally having more flesh on display) as ‘like an only fans parade’, would you expect this to be challenged? Or do you find it an acceptable description.

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Itiswhysofew · 20/06/2026 11:53

I've never seen only fans, but can only imagine. It's a snide comment to make. Is there a dress code for the place of work?

AbzMoz · 20/06/2026 11:53

Worldcup262 · 20/06/2026 11:49

Various - a leather skirt, vests, someone had gym shorts on. There was a social after (bbq outside) for context.

I was prepared to say the colleagues remarks were out of line, but now you’ve clarified what was being worn, I think it possibly pushes the boundary of acceptable work-wear.

Sartre · 20/06/2026 11:51

When you say leather skirt, the length is surely relevant. I have a mid length one, it’s very professional but NOT summer atire- I wear it with tights and boots in autumn/winter…

Vests are hardly OF unless we’re talking low cut strappy vests in which case, they probably shouldn’t be worn in an office environment. Gym shorts is weird, why would that ever be appropriate at work unless you work in a gym?

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Worldcup262 · 20/06/2026 11:49

Various - a leather skirt, vests, someone had gym shorts on. There was a social after (bbq outside) for context.

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Springtimeinsunshine · 20/06/2026 10:32

Depends on the outfits OP, can you describe them accurately?

I'm guessing short shorts, strappy sandals (instead of those you can walk miles in) and vest tops which spill out cleavages? In which case they have a point.

Isittimeformynapyet · 19/06/2026 23:55

Pansykavalier · 19/06/2026 21:57

Irrelevant. The comparison with only fans is highly inappropriate, whatever the outfit.

”You need to wash your mouth out with soap” would be my response.

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”You need to wash your mouth out with soap” is not the stinging riposte that you think it is.

It's a very old fashioned thing to say to a child who used a naughty word.

I think it's better to challenge men like this on a more intellectual level.

Or just call a dickhead a dickhead.

Wingedharpy · 19/06/2026 23:45

Well, if Doreen has turned up for work wearing only a split crotch thong and a peephole bra, they may well have a point.

StrawbreweryShortcake · 19/06/2026 23:39

It's not a very elegant or professional way to phrase things, but if what they say is true, perhaps professionalism isn't valued in that workplace.

My view would likely depend on the accuracy of the statement and who made it. For instance, was it a man or a woman?

Pansykavalier · 19/06/2026 23:27

PollyBell · 19/06/2026 23:20

If men wear similar the same could be said about them there is appropriate clothes to wear in a office for men and women

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I’m not arguing about the clothing. Of course there is appropriate and inappropriate office attire. But to sexualise female colleagues by comparing them to only fans shows that they do not see them as equals.

ETA: Comparing a colleague to women who are on only fans is never just a descriptive comment. It is a value judgement, always.

basoon · 19/06/2026 23:23

If they were wearing very inappropriate office clothing, then maybe it would just be a descriptive comment

PollyBell · 19/06/2026 23:20

Pansykavalier · 19/06/2026 23:19

FFS. To compare a female colleague to women on only fans is always totally inappropriate, irrespective of what they are wearing. It is highly disrespectful. If some women here cannot see this, what hope is there that we will ever be seen as equals.

If men wear similar the same could be said about them there is appropriate clothes to wear in a office for men and women

Pansykavalier · 19/06/2026 23:19

FFS. To compare a female colleague to women on only fans is always totally inappropriate, irrespective of what they are wearing. It is highly disrespectful. If some women here cannot see this, what hope is there that we will ever be seen as equals.

PollyBell · 19/06/2026 23:10

I dont see how we can say without knowing what was being worn if it is appropriate for an office then it is appropriate

G5000 · 19/06/2026 22:30

there's quite a difference between 'onlyfans outfit' and 'summer-like clothes'. Which was it?

DierdreDaphne · 19/06/2026 22:30

ColdAsAWitches · 19/06/2026 22:01

It would very much depend on what they were actually wearing. If it was inappropriate for the office, then it's not an inappropriate comment.

Actually it still would be inappropriate..Even if the attire was inappropriate too. So no, definitely unacceptable.

DierdreDaphne · 19/06/2026 22:28

Not acceptable. I would not respect the person who said that in future. If it was said in hearing of someone they were referring to (possibly including yourself OP) I would consider it sexual harassment.

And before any 'oh it was just a joke' apolgists pipe up, it was not in any way humourous , so that excuses nothing

mumumental · 19/06/2026 22:24

Completely unacceptable.

ColdAsAWitches · 19/06/2026 22:01

It would very much depend on what they were actually wearing. If it was inappropriate for the office, then it's not an inappropriate comment.

ForLemonAnt · 19/06/2026 22:01

very strange

Error404FucksNotFound · 19/06/2026 21:59

I would find it inappropriate.

SkippitySkoppity · 19/06/2026 21:58

'Oh really? So how many Only Fans subscriptions do you have exactly?'

SilenceInside · 19/06/2026 21:58

Of course it’s not appropriate to compare your female work colleagues to porn performers. Working on the near certain assumption that being adult women they were dressed appropriately for their workplace.

Pansykavalier · 19/06/2026 21:57

wheresthesnowgone · 19/06/2026 21:47

Photos please

Irrelevant. The comparison with only fans is highly inappropriate, whatever the outfit.

”You need to wash your mouth out with soap” would be my response.

BauhausOfEliott · 19/06/2026 21:54

Yes, it’s extremely inappropriate to compare colleagues to porn performers, obviously. It’s inappropriate to comment on how much flesh colleagues are showing at all.

DandelionClockSeeds · 19/06/2026 21:53

It very much depends on what they are wearing.

Assuming suitable for a work environment, its an unacceptable comment.

But if the person in question isnt wearing very much, and it's an acurate description.....

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