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Young child caused accident on pavement

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Senso · 19/06/2026 19:41

AIBU to think that young children should not be allowed to be in charge of a pushchair on the pavement?

I was witness to an incident that happened on a busy street where a young child, aged around 8 was pushing a pushchair - occupied by a toddler - too fast, and collided with another pedestrian.

the injured person had been walking at a normal pace in the opposite direction but the child just charged straight into her causing her to fall and sustain quite a nasty impact injury.

The parents didn’t seem to get that the child had caused the accident, instead repeating that it was “just an accident, no-one was to blame”

i think otherwise.

OP posts:
PenelopeJoanSterling · 19/06/2026 21:58

Backedoffhackedoff · 19/06/2026 21:51

Right. How do you control careless people or adults that don’t belong to you then?

move to one side if your walking towards them ?

PenelopeJoanSterling · 19/06/2026 21:58

offtodreamland · 19/06/2026 21:56

It's sad that so many on here apparently don't understand that for the elderly, a fall can easily be the trigger that sends them on a downward spiral that ends in their death. I've seen it happen twice in the last few years, just among my own family.

OP, you're right. It's disgusting when parents not only don't watch their children to prevent them from hurting someone (including the child in the pram, in this case), but then excuse themselves of any responsibility when something bad does happen.

but its also said that common sense was not used to avoid it happing to begin with

PenelopeJoanSterling · 19/06/2026 21:57

i read that if your in a car and you know a crash is about to happen and your in the correct lanes etc but you let the crash happen because you were in the correct lanes etc aparently your still partly responsible for not trying to avoid it.

to me it seems this was similar if the pedistrian was walking towards the pushchair then why not step out the way or step to one side ?

its like they both played who will move first and both lost

Bookbears · 19/06/2026 21:56

Imdunfer · 19/06/2026 20:10

Really? I have 3.9 out of 5 osteoporosis of a vertebra. If someone decked me like that it would quite possibly put me in a wheelchair.

One of the commonest causes of death in older women is a broken hip from a fall.

Agreed, my poor dear nanny fell and broke her hip. She ‘recovered’ but was never the same, she became housebound out of choice as she was so scared of falling again, lost her confidence, spirit and eventually passed away. It all stemmed from that fall!

offtodreamland · 19/06/2026 21:56

It's sad that so many on here apparently don't understand that for the elderly, a fall can easily be the trigger that sends them on a downward spiral that ends in their death. I've seen it happen twice in the last few years, just among my own family.

OP, you're right. It's disgusting when parents not only don't watch their children to prevent them from hurting someone (including the child in the pram, in this case), but then excuse themselves of any responsibility when something bad does happen.

Bookbears · 19/06/2026 21:54

No YANBU. I had a supermarket trolley rammed into the back of my legs at the weekend that was being pushed by a kid who couldn’t even see over the top. I have a couple of nasty bruises right across my calves and a bruise on the bottom of my spine because of it and it nearly knocked me off my feet. This kind of thing annoys me. Back in the 90s when I was 8, I would just push my baby doll in a pram, not my little sister.

Backedoffhackedoff · 19/06/2026 21:51

CaesarAugusta · 19/06/2026 21:43

You said "We can't control careless people". Guess what, "people" includes chlldren.

Right. How do you control careless people or adults that don’t belong to you then?

gillefc82 · 19/06/2026 21:51

usernames756 · 19/06/2026 21:17

And those ignorant parents will sadly raise equally ignorant children.

Unfortunately very true. These same parents are also typically the first people to raise merry hell / be wanting compensation should their precious offspring ever find themselves on the receiving end of an ‘accident’. One rule for one…..

Backedoffhackedoff · 19/06/2026 21:50

AffableApple · 19/06/2026 21:40

I'd... tell my kids they couldn't push a pram... obviously.

It’s not you we’re talking about. It’s why you think it’s easy to stop other people doing it.

CaesarAugusta · 19/06/2026 21:49

Pamelaaaaaar · 19/06/2026 21:04

God I’d feel a right dickhead if I got knocked over by an 8 year old with a pram. That’s probably why it was a big drama. To cover the embarrassment

The biggest, toughest person in the world can be knocked over if they're caught off-balance and off guard. It doesn't make them a dickhead. Frankly, if you broke your hip as a result of someone else's carelessness, the issue of how you looked would be way down your list of priorities.

Backedoffhackedoff · 19/06/2026 21:49

Tinnybinnylinny · 19/06/2026 21:36

eh - not allow the child to push the pram
in the street. Parent the child.

No no no that’s not the question. How would you stop other’people from allowing their child to push the pushchair?

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 19/06/2026 21:47

Mumtobabyhavoc · 19/06/2026 21:45

But, the question is fair.
at which point was the pram seen?
at which point was it recognized a child was pushing it?
at which point was it recognized it looked erratic?
what did you do to protect yourself?
did you call out in any way to stop the pram?
did you call out to the parent or anyone else to intervene?

iyswim
It is never a clean cut in court.

Perhaps they were blind.

But who cares? It is the parents who were totally at fault.

Seasidecatlady · 19/06/2026 21:47

As usual people are bending over backwards to find excuses for lazy and irresponsible parenting.

I feel sorry for the person who was injured and the accident was perfectly preventable if some idiot had not let a child mess around with a pushchair on a busy pavement.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 19/06/2026 21:45

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 19/06/2026 21:41

Perhaps they were old and couldn't move quickly enough.

But, the question is fair.
at which point was the pram seen?
at which point was it recognized a child was pushing it?
at which point was it recognized it looked erratic?
what did you do to protect yourself?
did you call out in any way to stop the pram?
did you call out to the parent or anyone else to intervene?

iyswim
It is never a clean cut in court.

tachetastic · 19/06/2026 21:44

Senso · 19/06/2026 19:41

AIBU to think that young children should not be allowed to be in charge of a pushchair on the pavement?

I was witness to an incident that happened on a busy street where a young child, aged around 8 was pushing a pushchair - occupied by a toddler - too fast, and collided with another pedestrian.

the injured person had been walking at a normal pace in the opposite direction but the child just charged straight into her causing her to fall and sustain quite a nasty impact injury.

The parents didn’t seem to get that the child had caused the accident, instead repeating that it was “just an accident, no-one was to blame”

i think otherwise.

I agree with you entirely @Senso. The parents should be considering themselves very lucky the person who was knocked over was not carrying a hot coffee or anything heavy that could have injured their toddler. If they had then the parents would have had nobody to blame but themselves.

CaesarAugusta · 19/06/2026 21:43

Backedoffhackedoff · 19/06/2026 20:34

Why are you asking me that? I’ve said nothing of the sort

You said "We can't control careless people". Guess what, "people" includes chlldren.

AffableApple · 19/06/2026 21:41

Tinnybinnylinny · 19/06/2026 21:36

eh - not allow the child to push the pram
in the street. Parent the child.

Thank you! Omg.

Matronic6 · 19/06/2026 21:41

Pamelaaaaaar · 19/06/2026 21:04

God I’d feel a right dickhead if I got knocked over by an 8 year old with a pram. That’s probably why it was a big drama. To cover the embarrassment

My dad is disabled and suffered two broken ribs when he was knocked over by a kid on a scooter. Not everybody has good reaction times, agile and stable on their feet.

The fact you would even make a comment as ignorant as this is embarrassing.

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 19/06/2026 21:41

FlappyDappyDoo · 19/06/2026 20:03

I don't understand why the pedestrian did not give them a wide birth if they were walking towards them.

I agree that it's the parents fault, but you can still mitigate for iffy situations by keeping a distance.

Perhaps they were old and couldn't move quickly enough.

AffableApple · 19/06/2026 21:40

Backedoffhackedoff · 19/06/2026 21:29

“So that's that behaviour stopped easily enough. Hardly impossible.”

how would you stop it then?

I'd... tell my kids they couldn't push a pram... obviously.

Senso · 19/06/2026 21:40

laurini · 19/06/2026 21:38

Are you the person who has previously posted about prams being as dangerous and using a mobile phone when driving? Lol

No

OP posts:
Mumtobabyhavoc · 19/06/2026 21:39

EvelynBeatrice · 19/06/2026 21:26

Yes that’s not how it works, legally ( and morally!) at least. It is foreseeable to anyone of ordinary intelligence and foresight that allowing a young child to be in charge of a bulky heavy object in a restricted space, at least carries the possibility of accident and injury to the child, others or property.

I’m particularly triggered by the scenario described having once witnessed a toddler in a stroller careering into traffic in the road, the young child pushing the stroller at speed having lost control of it and let it go.

Lazy irresponsible stupid parents. Say no to your kids and keep them and others safe.

Your assessment of parents is harsh and generalized. A parent can be a responsible parent and still make mistakes. The situation described by OP could be a one off, first time child has pushed it and it was okay until ... 🙈
Or, child has pushed it countless times before without concern.
Or anything in between.
The question is whether or not the mishap was reasonably foreseeable and that the parent ought to have known.

Barristers/litigators should weigh in. It's an excellent topic to discuss.

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 19/06/2026 21:39

ohyesido · 19/06/2026 19:43

Do you want the child charged with ABH?

No, the parents should be charged causing personal injuries as they are responsible for their child.

laurini · 19/06/2026 21:38

Are you the person who has previously posted about prams being as dangerous and using a mobile phone when driving? Lol

Tinnybinnylinny · 19/06/2026 21:36

Backedoffhackedoff · 19/06/2026 21:29

“So that's that behaviour stopped easily enough. Hardly impossible.”

how would you stop it then?

eh - not allow the child to push the pram
in the street. Parent the child.