AIBU to challenge the school’s wording about pupils rolling skirts up?

I didn’t roll my skirt up in the 90s. I hemmed it like a proper lady. However that would have been significantly below the knickers and probably to mid thigh.

What makes some girls want to roll their skirts up and others not though? Don't remember it being a thing in my school in the 70's. It was a convent school though, lol.

This again!

I know this…hence the letter was sent. Fortunately we don’t see this as much in primary school.

What's your point OP?

Surely your focus should be on agreeing with the school that pupils should not show their bum/knickers in public?

I don't see any misogyny or blame implied in this request. It is just common sense.

The school's job is already hard enough without parents 'challenging' them about this non-issue.

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Do you say the same when you see boys when the weather is above 15 degrees showing their nipples or you just do not care that they are showing ALL their body??

I think the wording was fine. It’s not a good idea for all sorts of reasons that parents can/should explain to their daughters. The school doesn’t need to spell it out. Of course public nudity makes these girls vulnerable. And of course they will keep pushing the envelope. I’ve seen quite a lot lot of bare bottoms myself, poor teachers must struggle to know where to look sometimes.

There was a fad a few years ago for boys to wear extremely low slung jeans or trousers and show off their designer underwear. I disliked looking at boys underwear. It always had the brand name on display

If the boys where showing their pants wearing the trouser like some kind of rapper I think they would send the same kind of letter.
There is a dress code and not showing your underwear is called decorum.
If we have to remind adult people that you can't show your undies in, school, church, court room, a wedding, at most works, a reception at Buckingham Palace etc etc we are screwed.
Flashing your undies doesn't make you better person or reinforce your self esteem, makes you a pusher that what's to push a dress code in this instance. Teens push boundaries is up to us to tell them no.

I grew up in India and this isn't a thing. We dress respectfully for school there. My DDs at their all girls grammar school never did this.

My son went to the boys grammar where the 6th form was mixed. I asked him about this and he honestly told me that 99% of the time all the girls had no uniform issues. Once a friend got an informal nudge to wear a longer skirt the next day and that was it.

The high-rolled skirts are a bad idea because they’re introducing additional sexual tension into a place - school - where it doesn’t belong. So many straight women seem to have no idea how incredibly uncomfortable it is for anyone who’s attracted to women to be around physically mature teenage girls who are exposing way too much skin.

There was a trend when I was a teen for boys to wear their (overly baggy) trousers around their thighs almost, with 70% of their underwear on show and often with one hand down them. People said then how disgusting it was, that they didn't want to see their underwear and it was not a good look. This is in the same realm to me.
We rolled our skirts up at school, most generations have but not to the level of exposing arse cheeks and knickers. There are already Year 5/6 girls getting this message, rolling up their skirts or wearing ones that are too small so they are shorter. It's a safeguarding risk, and the school are right to address it. Children at high school are still children, I do not want to see a 12/13 year olds bum cheeks driving home yet that's what I saw recently.

Years ago, Jodie Marsh wore two belts. That’s fully dressed these days for some of the girls

I strongly believe women and girls should be able to wear what they like without being called out on it

In everyday life yes I agree, everyone should wear what they want. If you’re in a place of school or work that requires a uniform then obviously you follow the rules and can’t wear what you want

I reckon it is about control, self
determination, fitting in, playing with attracting attention… all of those things are important to teen girls. I don’t approve, I just offer this as
explanation!

Like the majority of replies on here, having some decency and dignity should be important.

Getting annoyed with the schools newsletter is ridiculous.
The fact that these girls are walking around showing their butt cheeks is the issue.
Schools are not wrong to say to dress smartly and appropriately.

Perhaps they could have said “Please remind your children that skirts are to be worn with the hem at the middle of the kneecap, because this creates a smart appearance for our pupils”, @Cantthinkofanewusernameffs. I do think that would be better than what I think they are implying in the message the OP got.

I agree with your sentiment, but we have to get out of this mindset of emailing in every single time we don't fully agree with the exact wording within the newsletter etc.

My general rule of thumb is a) do I actually support the main issue here (students wearing their uniform correctly), and b) is this a big enough deal that I would actually go into school, or even pick up the phone and call in? Or am I just firing off an email that I don't really need to send, just because it's quick and easy to do.

"I’ll let it go".......eventually.😏

I agree

That was bad enough, thank you! I very much do not enjoy these conversations…. but their reasoning was along the lines of half their body being covered.

Apart from anything else they look ridiculous especially skirts that have pleats that go out of shape because of the rolling.

It's extremely anti-feminist to convey the idea that uniform is only something that all the boys are able to manage without any fuss, but it's somehow just too difficult for many of the girls to understand.

It's no more complicated than replying to "Are you trying to tell me what I should wear?" with "Yes, that's precisely what a uniform is".