AIBU to challenge the school’s wording about pupils rolling skirts up?

There’s a thread going at the moment about teens thinking it’s gross to have their toes on display - someone said they’ve had it drummed into them that feet are sexualised - but putting your arse cheeks on display is absolutely fine? It’s crazy.

The girls I teach who come to school in loose trousers and DMs seem the most empowered to me. They don't care about the male gaze or how many boys fancy them. They're in the minority though.

Oh absolutely.

Because they are "empowered" .
Apparently.

Maybe they are just heart sick of bare arses on show.
Can you imagine a boy walking round school with his arse out?

Absolutely this. Many parents just don't realise what it's like and how inundated HTs - and other staff are - are with this kind of nonsense.
Genuine concerns, fine. However, the number of petty and inconsequential complaints ( usually ending "I await your prompt response") is growing.
I am glad that the OP has asked for advice on this, and doesn't complain.

No matter what wording the school used, I suspect @GreenSalon would have started a thread about wanting to challenge the school about it

Yes, the school has been very measured. Nothing to complain about at all. Imo, the complaint culture amongst parents/ in schools is completely out of control. It just wears staff down and most complaints are just unnecessary.

Sorry but it is indecent dressing and not appropriate for school that I constantly see ass cheeks in morning when heading to school. Especially as lots of school skirts are flared / pleated and they insist on whether socks, it is indecent.

school rules should help teach what is / is not appropriate in the workplace imo.

Upskirting is also a thing.

What would they find more distracting? What are they biologically wired to?

That seems like quite sensitive wording, leaving it to parents to choose how to discuss

I am asking about the radiators!

There’s plenty of stuff that’s distracting to boys in school. Like radiators (don’t ask!). Can’t remove them all.

Then the small number will learn to sort their dress issues out.. Those who dress normally have nothing to worry.

I posted in response to GreenSalon, but it disappeared- why?

Whilst I think yabu, your point of view is as valid as mine. And the way some people are talking to you on here is unreasonable.

Boys would get distracted though. It's a biological fact.

Women/girls should be able to wear whatever they want without being accused of 'asking for it'. They (we) should be able to walk through town stark naked, and still not fear being sexually assaulted, as males should be entirely capable of controlling themselves. And if they are not capable of controlling themselves for some reason, they should not be allowed out unsupervised. I believe this absolutely.

But.

I still don't want to see anyone's arse on the street. It's not appropriate, and it is completely fine to demand basic standards of dress code are observed, as agreed by a society. Not because I want to rape them, not because I'll be having naughty thoughts about them - any more than if I saw a man walking down the street in a g-string. I'm really not worried I might be overcome with lust and throw myself at him, I would be repulsed. As I believe most people would, at least in the UK. Which is the same reaction if I see female bottoms. Just put them away girls.

(From an ex-avid skirt roller - but only ever to mid thigh at most!)

Only if you are not allergic to the disposable pads and have periods that are only moderately heavy. Reusable plus truly heavy periods still means bulk.

You'd be challenging the patriarchy by supporting the school. Don't support the wearing of hyper sexualised clothing we see on so many girls and women.

Is it really challenging patriarchy allowing girls to wear skirts as short as they want? No matter how impractical or inappropriate it is?

The school didn’t say anything about the male gaze, about modesty , about distracting boys and male teachers or any of the other bs that DOES get my back up. They asked parents to explain to their children why it is a bad idea. Which they can do ( I have) without mentioning any of that .

I rolled my pleated skirt over in 1973. It was only from mid calf to slightly above the knees, you got the cane if you were caught. Obviously not advocating that.

Yes they need to sort it out but I imagine schools are inundated with emails from parents about everything.
This is not a hill to die on as a parent.

How the fuck did you manage to turn this into “poor men” ?