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Why are people so inconsiderate with their vapes?

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MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 13:49

What is it with people and their vapes? They produce these massive clouds of stinky, sweet, gross vapour and they are either blissfully unaware or they don't GAF, I don't know which.

School sports day today so a lot of the parents went to the cafe next to the school between dropping kids off and waiting for sports day to start.

I sat indoors and a few parents were outdoors, door propped open as it was a hot day.

I'm sat there, eating my breakfast and suddenly, a huge cloud of stinky strawberry vapour that's been inside someone's manky lungs descends over me and my food. I could taste it in my mouth 🤮

I looked over and it's a dad sat just outside with his back to the door, his vape clouds going behind him and straight inside the cafe.

I moved seats and no more clouds descended on me but I had made a mental note to either say something or passively-aggressively close the door, not sure which I would have done.

Then later I am standing by the track on the school field ready to cheer my daughter on and right in front of me, a vape cloud desends again, this time from another dad in front of me.
On the school field.
At sports day. In a three-person deep crowd of parents, some with toddlers.
This time I am pissed off so I went and told the headteacher who was stood at the side and he announced over the tannoy that vaping is not allowed on school premises. I mean, who does that??!?

As it may be apparent, this is more of a rant than a AIBU, but I am curious why people this this behaviour is OK?

Unreasonable - They are just gormless and don't realise what they are doing
Not unreasonable - They must know, because it's obvious, but they are so addicted to their stinky plastic puff pens that they don't care.

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Plantchoc · 23/06/2026 10:29

which is no worse than alcohol / caffeine addiction

excuse me?

alcohol addiction is a huge, often fatal and very very damaging illness. And you liken it to caffeine addiction @Bez72

for that utterly weird comment alone, I don’t think I’ll bother reading any of your follow up posts

BitOutOfPractice · 23/06/2026 10:28

It's funny isn't it, that it is the blokiest blokes that seem to have the sweetest, sickliest flavour vapes!

Plantchoc · 23/06/2026 10:28

Bez72 · 23/06/2026 10:26

To all the people saying how harmful / damaging vaping is, please can you provide links to the evidence for this? I've only seen reports saying it's better for you than smoking and the only danger is nicotine addiction, which is no worse than alcohol / caffeine addiction in my opinion...

Out of interest, would you be totally chilled if you discovered your 16 yr old was vaping? @Bez72

BitOutOfPractice · 23/06/2026 10:27

Bez72 · 23/06/2026 10:26

To all the people saying how harmful / damaging vaping is, please can you provide links to the evidence for this? I've only seen reports saying it's better for you than smoking and the only danger is nicotine addiction, which is no worse than alcohol / caffeine addiction in my opinion...

The fact that there s no evidence is what scares me most about vaping. Nobody knows what the long-term effects are!

ByLemonLeader · 23/06/2026 10:27

Bez72 · 23/06/2026 09:53

You do know you're breathing in what others are breathing out all the time don't you? At least with vapes you can see where they're breathing😂

Yes but usually it doesn't taste of gross, sticky kids' sweets

Bez72 · 23/06/2026 10:26

To all the people saying how harmful / damaging vaping is, please can you provide links to the evidence for this? I've only seen reports saying it's better for you than smoking and the only danger is nicotine addiction, which is no worse than alcohol / caffeine addiction in my opinion...

mumumental · 23/06/2026 10:26

For accuracy. I’m not a smoker or vaper but it isn’t yet known what the effect is of either smoking or vaping (Asthma and Lung UK).

PalePinkPeony · 23/06/2026 10:13

It’s foul. And people that don’t care and merrily vape whilst other people are in close proximity are complete chavvy gormless arseholes. Vape far away from others who don’t vape. It really isn’t hard. Or it is that your urge for a vape is so uncontrollable that you are very willing to put your comfort above the comfort of anyone else around you?
Smoking is as bad if not worse but thankfully that’s become socially unacceptable now so if much less frequent.
It’s only a matter of time before vaping is banned / curtailed by law and becomes also socially unacceptable as people realise how damaging it is for them. That day can’t come soon enough.
I mean I don’t know why I am surprised. So many people literally couldn’t give a crap about anyone else beside themselves these days.

Bez72 · 23/06/2026 09:53

Elieza · 23/06/2026 09:50

the point is that it’s water vapour thats been inside someones mouth or lungs. It’s not straight from the machine, it’s been in their mouth first. the machine produces nothing outwith wgat the person has sucked into their body. I dont want to breathe that in. It’s vile.

Yeah i think it will do you harm. i dont know if the statistics are out yet on passive vaping but it gives the actual user lung conditions like emphysema. Maybe in due course they will decide passive vaping is a thing. who knows.

You do know you're breathing in what others are breathing out all the time don't you? At least with vapes you can see where they're breathing😂

Elieza · 23/06/2026 09:50

ForGreenHiker · 23/06/2026 07:56

I feel like you are one of those that sees vaping as a moral issue. When it is not. It is a cloud of water vapour that will do you no harm.

the point is that it’s water vapour thats been inside someones mouth or lungs. It’s not straight from the machine, it’s been in their mouth first. the machine produces nothing outwith wgat the person has sucked into their body. I dont want to breathe that in. It’s vile.

Yeah i think it will do you harm. i dont know if the statistics are out yet on passive vaping but it gives the actual user lung conditions like emphysema. Maybe in due course they will decide passive vaping is a thing. who knows.

ForGreenHiker · 23/06/2026 07:56

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 13:49

What is it with people and their vapes? They produce these massive clouds of stinky, sweet, gross vapour and they are either blissfully unaware or they don't GAF, I don't know which.

School sports day today so a lot of the parents went to the cafe next to the school between dropping kids off and waiting for sports day to start.

I sat indoors and a few parents were outdoors, door propped open as it was a hot day.

I'm sat there, eating my breakfast and suddenly, a huge cloud of stinky strawberry vapour that's been inside someone's manky lungs descends over me and my food. I could taste it in my mouth 🤮

I looked over and it's a dad sat just outside with his back to the door, his vape clouds going behind him and straight inside the cafe.

I moved seats and no more clouds descended on me but I had made a mental note to either say something or passively-aggressively close the door, not sure which I would have done.

Then later I am standing by the track on the school field ready to cheer my daughter on and right in front of me, a vape cloud desends again, this time from another dad in front of me.
On the school field.
At sports day. In a three-person deep crowd of parents, some with toddlers.
This time I am pissed off so I went and told the headteacher who was stood at the side and he announced over the tannoy that vaping is not allowed on school premises. I mean, who does that??!?

As it may be apparent, this is more of a rant than a AIBU, but I am curious why people this this behaviour is OK?

Unreasonable - They are just gormless and don't realise what they are doing
Not unreasonable - They must know, because it's obvious, but they are so addicted to their stinky plastic puff pens that they don't care.

I feel like you are one of those that sees vaping as a moral issue. When it is not. It is a cloud of water vapour that will do you no harm.

BitOutOfPractice · 23/06/2026 07:50

Locutus2000 · 19/06/2026 13:59

I think you are aware that both your 'choices' are offensive to vapers.

Oh lord above I’ve heard it all now! “Offensive to vapers”. Thanks for the laugh!

Tamtim · 23/06/2026 07:47

Smoking and vaping are my pet hates. It’s pathetic, sucking on their dummies like bloody giant babies. Smokers and vapers are notoriously selfish when doing so.

Plantchoc · 23/06/2026 06:36

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 21/06/2026 11:05

It's not a great cafe TBF.
But it's next to the school and convenient when you have an hour to kill between drop-off and the start of sports day

It obviously isn’t appropriate for you though @MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes . Well, at least not during spring and summer. Or perhaps ask to not be seated directly in front of the door (which I would be anyway!)

Anarchy99 · 21/06/2026 13:02

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 21/06/2026 11:05

It's not a great cafe TBF.
But it's next to the school and convenient when you have an hour to kill between drop-off and the start of sports day

Your personal opinions are just that. If someone indulging in a legal activity upsets you then it’s on you to move away

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 21/06/2026 11:05

Tepidwater · 19/06/2026 20:24

As an aside…. What was the cafe owner thinking arranging the tables like that! You enter the cafe and smack in to a table!

It's not a great cafe TBF.
But it's next to the school and convenient when you have an hour to kill between drop-off and the start of sports day

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thecuree · 21/06/2026 11:00

MandingoAteMyBaby · 21/06/2026 09:58

Vape juice is basically chinese industrial waste mixed with antifreeze.

Very good chance the vapers will get karma tumours down the line.

I hope you don’t get any tumours ! What a horrible thing to say.

MandingoAteMyBaby · 21/06/2026 09:58

Vape juice is basically chinese industrial waste mixed with antifreeze.

Very good chance the vapers will get karma tumours down the line.

pinkpedi · 19/06/2026 20:41

Because the world doesn't revolve around you and your wants, this is life, don't like it, shut the door or move. Whinging on Mumsnet after an event is ridiculously lame, happens ALL THE TIME about the most boring petty shit, get a fucking back bone and say something at the time if it bothers you. Rarely it's billowy clouds if modern vapes.
They should have been a bit more discreet in a school I agree there.
I'm not a vaper but I think you're being entitled/precious.

Tepidwater · 19/06/2026 20:24

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 18:43

It was blowing behind him and into the cafe.

As an aside…. What was the cafe owner thinking arranging the tables like that! You enter the cafe and smack in to a table!

ioveelephants · 19/06/2026 20:04

I vape and I don’t really give a fuck if you smell it or taste it 😂 so there is your answer.

ByLemonLeader · 19/06/2026 19:32

I mean look at this shit. It's horrendous. People are even having wedding photos while making huge vape clouds now. Cigarette smoke could never make something so big and dense. Not to mention the smell. Noone needs that in their face while eating

You have my sympathies, OP

Why are people so inconsiderate with their vapes?
ByLemonLeader · 19/06/2026 19:26

Ayeeee · 19/06/2026 18:27

I vape. I exercise the same behaviour as I did when I smoked. Well away from other people and not sucking it like a dummy 🤣

I don’t like being in someone else’s vape cloud either

And noone minds people like you at all

emmetgirl · 19/06/2026 19:25

Here we go again….

ByLemonLeader · 19/06/2026 19:20

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Why are you trying to catch OP out? I can easily see from the OP that vape smoke would have reached her table, it probably would have reached most people in that cafe.
The clouds these people blow out of those things can be huge, it all depends on the strength they are smoking. Some of them are even designed to give as big and "satisfying" clouds as possible.
And it's horrible, sweet stinky stuff that really doesn't go nicely with a fry-up. Noone should be subjected to a face full of it while enjoying their breakfast.