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Why are people so inconsiderate with their vapes?

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MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 13:49

What is it with people and their vapes? They produce these massive clouds of stinky, sweet, gross vapour and they are either blissfully unaware or they don't GAF, I don't know which.

School sports day today so a lot of the parents went to the cafe next to the school between dropping kids off and waiting for sports day to start.

I sat indoors and a few parents were outdoors, door propped open as it was a hot day.

I'm sat there, eating my breakfast and suddenly, a huge cloud of stinky strawberry vapour that's been inside someone's manky lungs descends over me and my food. I could taste it in my mouth 🤮

I looked over and it's a dad sat just outside with his back to the door, his vape clouds going behind him and straight inside the cafe.

I moved seats and no more clouds descended on me but I had made a mental note to either say something or passively-aggressively close the door, not sure which I would have done.

Then later I am standing by the track on the school field ready to cheer my daughter on and right in front of me, a vape cloud desends again, this time from another dad in front of me.
On the school field.
At sports day. In a three-person deep crowd of parents, some with toddlers.
This time I am pissed off so I went and told the headteacher who was stood at the side and he announced over the tannoy that vaping is not allowed on school premises. I mean, who does that??!?

As it may be apparent, this is more of a rant than a AIBU, but I am curious why people this this behaviour is OK?

Unreasonable - They are just gormless and don't realise what they are doing
Not unreasonable - They must know, because it's obvious, but they are so addicted to their stinky plastic puff pens that they don't care.

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goodoldsussexbythesea · 19/06/2026 14:07

Ablondiebutagoody · 19/06/2026 13:56

Not a big deal for me and think that you need to be a bit more tolerant. Living around other people means that we have an impact on each other. Vapes, smoking, traffic fumes, wood burners etc etc, these things are normal.

You think it's acceptable to be eating your food inside a cafe and have a huge (and these clouds are huge) cloud of sickly sweet flavoured water vapour that has been inside another person cover you and your food?

Bez72 · 19/06/2026 14:04

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 14:00

A considerate vaper is probably intelligent enough to know my comments are not aimed at them.

An inconsiderate vaper might be offended but I am not sure why I should care.

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But you said 'people' not 'some people' so it's reasonable to assume your comments are directed at all vapers.

I do my best to make sure no-one has to inhale my vapour but accidents happen. A sudden puff of wind can change things!

How do you cope with smokers?

GlamorousHeifer · 19/06/2026 14:04

This has been done to death on here.
It seems mumsnetters (or at least the ones that start threads about them, hate vapes* *and vapers). IRL I don't know anyone that has a problem with them. It's almost as if when you go looking for something to complain about you will find it....

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 14:00

Locutus2000 · 19/06/2026 13:59

I think you are aware that both your 'choices' are offensive to vapers.

A considerate vaper is probably intelligent enough to know my comments are not aimed at them.

An inconsiderate vaper might be offended but I am not sure why I should care.

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Locutus2000 · 19/06/2026 13:59

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 13:58

I am not. I am annoyed and I believe it's one of those two options. Do you have a third?

I think you are aware that both your 'choices' are offensive to vapers.

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 13:58

Locutus2000 · 19/06/2026 13:57

Unreasonable - They are just gormless and don't realise what they are doing
Not unreasonable - They must know, because it's obvious, but they are so addicted to their stinky plastic puff pens that they don't care.

You are blatantly on the wind-up.

I am not. I am annoyed and I believe it's one of those two options. Do you have a third?

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MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 13:58

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How come you found the time to see both threads in different places but not to read my very first comment on one of them?

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Besidemyselfwithworry · 19/06/2026 13:57

Ablondiebutagoody · 19/06/2026 13:56

Not a big deal for me and think that you need to be a bit more tolerant. Living around other people means that we have an impact on each other. Vapes, smoking, traffic fumes, wood burners etc etc, these things are normal.

Smoking and napping are banned at our schools it’s disgusting nobody needs to be on the receiving end of that!

Locutus2000 · 19/06/2026 13:57

Unreasonable - They are just gormless and don't realise what they are doing
Not unreasonable - They must know, because it's obvious, but they are so addicted to their stinky plastic puff pens that they don't care.

You are blatantly on the wind-up.

Ablondiebutagoody · 19/06/2026 13:56

Not a big deal for me and think that you need to be a bit more tolerant. Living around other people means that we have an impact on each other. Vapes, smoking, traffic fumes, wood burners etc etc, these things are normal.

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