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Why are people so inconsiderate with their vapes?

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MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 13:49

What is it with people and their vapes? They produce these massive clouds of stinky, sweet, gross vapour and they are either blissfully unaware or they don't GAF, I don't know which.

School sports day today so a lot of the parents went to the cafe next to the school between dropping kids off and waiting for sports day to start.

I sat indoors and a few parents were outdoors, door propped open as it was a hot day.

I'm sat there, eating my breakfast and suddenly, a huge cloud of stinky strawberry vapour that's been inside someone's manky lungs descends over me and my food. I could taste it in my mouth 🤮

I looked over and it's a dad sat just outside with his back to the door, his vape clouds going behind him and straight inside the cafe.

I moved seats and no more clouds descended on me but I had made a mental note to either say something or passively-aggressively close the door, not sure which I would have done.

Then later I am standing by the track on the school field ready to cheer my daughter on and right in front of me, a vape cloud desends again, this time from another dad in front of me.
On the school field.
At sports day. In a three-person deep crowd of parents, some with toddlers.
This time I am pissed off so I went and told the headteacher who was stood at the side and he announced over the tannoy that vaping is not allowed on school premises. I mean, who does that??!?

As it may be apparent, this is more of a rant than a AIBU, but I am curious why people this this behaviour is OK?

Unreasonable - They are just gormless and don't realise what they are doing
Not unreasonable - They must know, because it's obvious, but they are so addicted to their stinky plastic puff pens that they don't care.

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Whosthetabbynow · 19/06/2026 15:16

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 15:14

"Live and let live" only really applies in situations where one party isn't affecting the other.
For example, you could tell a homophobic person to "live and let live" because the people they are complaining about are doing nothing to them, and everyone should just be minding their own business.

In this case, I am having a cloud of very heavily strawberry scented vapour blown into my face and all over my breakfast to the point where the taste lingered in my mouth.

Not really a "live and let live" situation.

The bloke vaping was sitting outside. Where you wanted him. Indoor smoking was banned. Now you want to ban vaping outside too? There’s the live and let live. You’re not the boss of him. You could’ve shut the door to the cafe.

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 15:16

Gardeningsideeffects · 19/06/2026 15:10

Yeah but they don't taste like a tweenage girls body spray.

An excellent point, well made 😆

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ClaudiaWankleman · 19/06/2026 15:15

Gardeningsideeffects · 19/06/2026 15:10

Yeah but they don't taste like a tweenage girls body spray.

They don't taste like anything. They smell, quite fleetingly, like strong pick n mix in whatever flavour they are.

I'm curious why car exhausts get a pass on your asthma but body spray and vapes don't? I think car exhausts are probably objectively more potentially harmful.

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 15:14

Whosthetabbynow · 19/06/2026 15:03

I vape. I’m not remotely gormless. Probably wouldn’t do it on the school field to be fair but smoking was banned and vapes were meant to be the way forward. Live and let live

"Live and let live" only really applies in situations where one party isn't affecting the other.
For example, you could tell a homophobic person to "live and let live" because the people they are complaining about are doing nothing to them, and everyone should just be minding their own business.

In this case, I am having a cloud of very heavily strawberry scented vapour blown into my face and all over my breakfast to the point where the taste lingered in my mouth.

Not really a "live and let live" situation.

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Topseyt123 · 19/06/2026 15:14

This wouldn't bother me personally, and I hugely prefer vapes to cigarette smoke, which is utterly foul.

This may be because we had to get my decades long chain smoking mother off cigarettes when an episode of pneumonia almost killed her. Our only chance of achieving that was to get her onto vapes and nicotine patches.

Once that was achieved then it very quickly became much easier to be around her because the thick cloud of smoke that had constantly followed her around for years was no longer there. Her house too gradually became easier to be in.

So as I said, this wouldn't bother me personally although people obviously shouldn't vape or smoke on school premises or at school events. If addicted to nicotine then they should wear a patch for the duration of the event.

ClaudiaWankleman · 19/06/2026 15:12

MandingoAteMyBaby · 19/06/2026 15:06

Vaping / dog owning are similar in that the proponents find it essential, but to everyone else it’s a huge irritant, and a net negative on society.

I'd be interested in how you measure net negative in this scenario - I suspect it's highly unprovable.

I'm pretty sure tax revenue on cigarettes and vapes exceeds NHS spending on smoke-associated health issues, so it can't be measured as a net negative there.

I'm even more interested in how you've measured dog ownership as a net negative.

Gardeningsideeffects · 19/06/2026 15:10

ClaudiaWankleman · 19/06/2026 15:08

Well to be fair walking along the high street you're inevitably exposed to lots of car exhaust fumes which are no doubt just as bad, if not worse, than vape fumes.

Yeah but they don't taste like a tweenage girls body spray.

ClaudiaWankleman · 19/06/2026 15:10

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 14:17

I'm not sure I could have closed the door really. I was considering it as an option but it's not my cafe, the cafe owner had it propped open and there were other people inside the cafe. Not really my call to close the door.

The car thing was quite an assumption. Not everyone drives, you know.

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Then take yourself away from the cafe?

The car thing isn't really 'quite an assumption'. The % of the population who doesn't regularly travel by car is negligible. Even if you're not driving it you're still responsible for it.

ClaudiaWankleman · 19/06/2026 15:08

Gardeningsideeffects · 19/06/2026 14:40

How does one achieve this when walking along the high street and clouds of vape come at you from different directions?

Thanks for starting this post OP. I absolutely loathe them.

Also those electric air fresheners.

I'm asthmatic and hate anything that feels like it's taking my oxygen away.

Well to be fair walking along the high street you're inevitably exposed to lots of car exhaust fumes which are no doubt just as bad, if not worse, than vape fumes.

MandingoAteMyBaby · 19/06/2026 15:06

Vaping / dog owning are similar in that the proponents find it essential, but to everyone else it’s a huge irritant, and a net negative on society.

LlynTegid · 19/06/2026 15:05

I wonder if the fact it is less objectionable than tobacco smoke is a factor.

Allgroomed · 19/06/2026 15:05

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Whosthetabbynow · 19/06/2026 15:03

I vape. I’m not remotely gormless. Probably wouldn’t do it on the school field to be fair but smoking was banned and vapes were meant to be the way forward. Live and let live

Elieza · 19/06/2026 15:01

it’s vile.
i feel that they should all be unscented. the scent could be whats making kids try them. they smell like sweeties.

Gardeningsideeffects · 19/06/2026 15:00

thecuree · 19/06/2026 14:55

Really ? You think a synthetic sweet smell is worse than cigarette smoke?! Why are they worse ?

I absolutely do. They get into your mouth in a different way. The clouds from vapes spread so much further.

I would 100% rather a mouthful of cigarette smoke than fecking strawberry shortcake sugar bleuuuughhhh

I did grow up pre smoking ban and worked in bars too, so I am happy that we aren't surrounded by it all the time. But as previous PP said, people are far more considerate with cigarettes than vapes.

thecuree · 19/06/2026 14:56

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 14:29

Can I eat revels while I revel or is only revelling aloud?

Allowed**

thecuree · 19/06/2026 14:55

Gardeningsideeffects · 19/06/2026 14:38

Massive deal for me.

They are worse than cigarette smoke.

Bloody love hearts vapes in my mouth from sitting in traffic.

Really ? You think a synthetic sweet smell is worse than cigarette smoke?! Why are they worse ?

thecuree · 19/06/2026 14:54

I mean, I prefer it to fag smoke

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 14:50

WhatAMarvelousTune · 19/06/2026 14:46

MN is real people. And you’ll always find more people willing to give their honest complaints anonymously online. I’d never walk up to someone and tell them their vape smells horrible.

YES.
I don't understand when people say "mumsnetters hate/love xyz".
We're people. There are people are around you that hate/love the same things. We just don't voice it IRL.

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WhatAMarvelousTune · 19/06/2026 14:46

GlamorousHeifer · 19/06/2026 14:04

This has been done to death on here.
It seems mumsnetters (or at least the ones that start threads about them, hate vapes* *and vapers). IRL I don't know anyone that has a problem with them. It's almost as if when you go looking for something to complain about you will find it....

MN is real people. And you’ll always find more people willing to give their honest complaints anonymously online. I’d never walk up to someone and tell them their vape smells horrible.

Gardeningsideeffects · 19/06/2026 14:40

ClaudiaWankleman · 19/06/2026 14:15

No but I would remove myself from that situation instead of just seething about it. I take responsibility for my own comfort.

How does one achieve this when walking along the high street and clouds of vape come at you from different directions?

Thanks for starting this post OP. I absolutely loathe them.

Also those electric air fresheners.

I'm asthmatic and hate anything that feels like it's taking my oxygen away.

dainto · 19/06/2026 14:39

Personally I agree as a vaper, and yes I’m addicted to mine but I don’t use the fruity flavours. I don’t vape inside public places and I certainly wouldn’t vape at my child’s sports day. I can’t abide the smell of some of them and I do think it’s rude. Plus I do think it looks quite chavvy.

Gardeningsideeffects · 19/06/2026 14:38

Ablondiebutagoody · 19/06/2026 13:56

Not a big deal for me and think that you need to be a bit more tolerant. Living around other people means that we have an impact on each other. Vapes, smoking, traffic fumes, wood burners etc etc, these things are normal.

Massive deal for me.

They are worse than cigarette smoke.

Bloody love hearts vapes in my mouth from sitting in traffic.

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 19/06/2026 14:32

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