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I need a rant about millennials

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HanG77 · 19/06/2026 10:29

Okay, I may offend millennials but hear me out (and please, millennials, offer me an explanation as to why your generation do this)...I've just had a discussion with a millennial on a thread for a social media post showing the Tartan Army having a blast in Boston, her comment was about how it was "healing the millennials". I replied saying it's lovely for all generations to watch given how divisive the world is, and she said due to 9/11 millennials crave the world healing more. I get this a lot with millennials - like they think every cultural experience is about them or for them - even taking things that are from other generations and claiming it as their era - and they act like no other generation has had any big events to deal with. I argued the Lost Generation (world war) and Gen Z (being children/early adults when the whole world stopped) have had it worse out of all the living generations (in my opinion).

For context, I'm a British Gen X, also I have a lot of close millennial friends so it's not personal, it's about them as a collective. Also, this person was American - I think maybe the American nationalism adds to it (more so than with Brits of this generation).

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HanG77 · 19/06/2026 14:35

oliviaAustin · 19/06/2026 14:25

Because that’s how the media treated us when we were growing up. You can’t blame people for absorbing a message that was aggressively pushed on them through 9/11 and the 08 recession news.

Plus Gen Z doesn’t want the world to heal they want to watch it burn 😂

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😂on Gen Z (I love that generation). I do remember at the time of 9/11 I had a boyfriend living in NYC (I was in London) and he told me there was so much propaganda and fear-mongering, in contrast when the tube bombings in London followed (admittedly a much smaller attack), everyone carried on the next day like nothing had happened, so perhaps my 9/11 example is a little unfair but its just the most recent example. I couldn't fathom why enjoying the World Cup was a Millennial thing!

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june35 · 19/06/2026 14:34

I don’t really agree with what she said, but I’m assuming she is a younger millennial? Possibly born post 1990. 9/11 is probably the first big big news story that younger millennials will remember. I remember how shaken everyone at school was the next day. It also happened in the early days of rolling news coverage and the internet, so it was broadcast and covered in a way earlier events hadn’t been.

Goldenbear · 19/06/2026 14:33

HanG77 · 19/06/2026 14:24

I don't feel disenfranchised or resentful at all, I'm just a curious person and wanted people's take on why this happens. I don't see any other generation describe things widely as being a Boomer, Gen X or Gen Z thing so I'm just curious as to why it's something I've increasingly noticed Millennials do, that's all. The fact people are taking it personally is wild to me. If someone made a sweeping observation about Gen X I wouldn't take it as a personal attack - there's probably lots of weird shit we do as a generation that others are welcome to observe and ponder. As for the environment, Gen Z and their kids will be the ones dealing with it whilst we're all done, so I do feel mostly for them on that front.

I don't know about that, I am a very old Millenial and have older siblings, I definitely remember in the early 90s a Gen x voice that felt they were hard done by in that the expectations of their Boomer parents were stuffy and boring. They were the generation that didn't want to be confined by those expectations of this linear experience of live e g. Get a good job, mortgage and settle down. Wasn't Grunge music reflective of that and there was even a book called Gen X moaning on about not being understood and the quite famous film- Reality Bites with Winoner Ryder and Ethan Hawke, it was supposed to capture the struggles of that generation.

SnoopyPajamas · 19/06/2026 14:32

It sounds like you have a particular bee in your bonnet about millennials, because they're the generation that came directly after you.

Rubuxus · 19/06/2026 14:32

IamnotSethRogan · 19/06/2026 10:34

I think some Millennials feel a bit short changed because they were the first generation to not experience economic growth. Obvs every generation has their struggles.

I mean i don't really understand what the particular person who were talking to is on about but maybe the below explains your wider concerns about Millennials.

"Economic research, including a landmark UK study by the Resolution Foundation, identifies Millennials (born 1981–2000) as the first modern generation to potentially miss out on a massive, generational income and wealth boom. Unlike prior cohorts, they have faced stagnant wages, heavy student debt, and housing crises during their prime working years"

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I saw someone talking about this the other day and it fascinated me.

Older millenials arguably had the best childhoods. And so far have had the shittest adulthoods.

Its an interesting juxtaposition.

HanG77 · 19/06/2026 14:30

Elbreth · 19/06/2026 14:19

They already are. Gen Z too.

😂I can vouch for Gen Z taking no prisoners if my niece is anything to go by!

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oliviaAustin · 19/06/2026 14:29

HanG77 · 19/06/2026 14:02

Yeah, I do get that and sympathise, I suppose it's more cultural stuff. I think my irritation with it is that things I am into is always seen as a Millennial trend - like on social media videos about treating dogs like kids or being single and childfree by choice. Also, stuff like books. I loved Sally Rooney's debut and the story mirrored by experience of a first boyfriend who also went to the same University as me and my Dad (Boomer) read it also and loved it and felt an emotional pull towards it, yet you read reviews and comments and it's always talks about her being the 'voice of Millennials', when it's a universal coming of age / love story. I suppose we had Gen X authors but perhaps it's the rise of social media / online since then that's the cause, as we didn't get stuff marketing to us 24-7 as 'Gen X this and that'

They say she’s the voice of the millennials because she’s a bloody millenial 😂 She’s 35!

usernames756 · 19/06/2026 14:28

Goldenbear · 19/06/2026 14:26

They have already become adults, I have one but they don't talk about it.

I meant the youngest ones.

I have young adults too and they don’t talk about it either.

HanG77 · 19/06/2026 14:28

darksideofthetoon · 19/06/2026 14:16

Millennial here and I’ve got to say I’ve not noticed this. Yes, we’ve been shafted hard by certain huge events but, as you point out, every generation has had huge challenges. I feel sorry for gen Z and my kids who are gen Alpha. God knows what they will see in their lifetime.

I don’t remember the prominent classification of generations until about maybe a decade ago and it feels like another divisive construct in keeping with identity politics.

Same, my niece is Gen Z and I feel for her. I think this is it too, when I was a kid the only time I heard the term 'Gen X' was in reference to the Douglas Coupland book and when I read it I didn't even register it referred to my generation or that it was meant to characterise me. It seems to be so talked about now, like you say, like we're all boxed into feeling or living a certain way based on what era we were born, rather than a collective of humans living at the same time (which is how I like to see it).

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Goldenbear · 19/06/2026 14:26

usernames756 · 19/06/2026 14:24

Just wait until the covid generation grows up and start blaming covid for everything.

They have already become adults, I have one but they don't talk about it.

Goldenbear · 19/06/2026 14:25

Elbreth · 19/06/2026 14:19

They already are. Gen Z too.

Yes, Gen Alpha certainly already moan about millenials IME as lots of them teach that generation and Gen Alpha will attribute certain behaviour to millenials, especially with the way they use social media.

oliviaAustin · 19/06/2026 14:25

Because that’s how the media treated us when we were growing up. You can’t blame people for absorbing a message that was aggressively pushed on them through 9/11 and the 08 recession news.

Plus Gen Z doesn’t want the world to heal they want to watch it burn 😂

usernames756 · 19/06/2026 14:24

Just wait until the covid generation grows up and start blaming covid for everything.

HanG77 · 19/06/2026 14:24

Elbreth · 19/06/2026 14:15

Just sounds like you're blaming millennials for internet culture existing.

her being the 'voice of Millennials', when it's a universal coming of age / love story

It's both. If you want to talk about your generation talk about them. Don't expect others to be silent though because you feel weirdly disenfranchised and resentful when you hear millennials talk about stuff. I kind of get it because I am so annoyed when I hear that Gen Z are the first to grow up worrying about climate change when I remember hearing about the "greenhouse effect" on Newsround as quite a young kid, have grown up with the climate crisis as a central part of my awareness of the world, as well as being gaslit and ridiculed for caring about if for years before it mainstreamed. But that's my immaturity to deal with, isn't it, because it doesn't really matter who thought of/ experienced things first, and getting uptight about it is just a sign of insecurity.

I don't feel disenfranchised or resentful at all, I'm just a curious person and wanted people's take on why this happens. I don't see any other generation describe things widely as being a Boomer, Gen X or Gen Z thing so I'm just curious as to why it's something I've increasingly noticed Millennials do, that's all. The fact people are taking it personally is wild to me. If someone made a sweeping observation about Gen X I wouldn't take it as a personal attack - there's probably lots of weird shit we do as a generation that others are welcome to observe and ponder. As for the environment, Gen Z and their kids will be the ones dealing with it whilst we're all done, so I do feel mostly for them on that front.

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Goldenbear · 19/06/2026 14:22

Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 13:59

So why was 9/11 more of an event?

Because the actions of the U.S. that followed had consequences for the whole world. The subsequent military campaign in Afghanistan, 7/7 terrorist attack. 9/11 claimed more British lives than any other terrorist attack. Arguably, it influenced Brexit due to the reactionary approach to security and sovereignty

HideousKinky · 19/06/2026 14:20

Elbreth · 19/06/2026 14:18

Yeah I'm with you. It was a huge epoch in the modern era and that was apparent to me even as a teen in a different country.

Yes - it was one of those days when everyone remembers where they were, like Kennedy's assassination for a previous generation

Elbreth · 19/06/2026 14:19

UniquePinkSwan · 19/06/2026 13:17

Millenials are by far the whiniest bunch. Can’t wait for Gen Alpha do bad mouth them like they’ve been doing to the Boomers all this time

They already are. Gen Z too.

Elbreth · 19/06/2026 14:18

Goldenbear · 19/06/2026 13:49

Really? I think it was one of the most defining events in modern history. Within my family we literally phoned each other up about it and it was the talking point by everyone I knew. We were in London though and older sibling was working in the City.

Yeah I'm with you. It was a huge epoch in the modern era and that was apparent to me even as a teen in a different country.

Honeyhonay · 19/06/2026 14:17

Goldenbear · 19/06/2026 13:49

Really? I think it was one of the most defining events in modern history. Within my family we literally phoned each other up about it and it was the talking point by everyone I knew. We were in London though and older sibling was working in the City.

I personally didn’t feel 9/11 was such a culturally defining moment unless you lived in the US.
Events closer to home were much more significant imo.

WonderWeeksArentReal · 19/06/2026 14:16

Millennial here (apparently, I did have to check with Google). I have no idea what the OP is on about. Most people IRL have better things to do than trying to pit the 'generations' against one another and don't know which one they are anyway.

darksideofthetoon · 19/06/2026 14:16

Millennial here and I’ve got to say I’ve not noticed this. Yes, we’ve been shafted hard by certain huge events but, as you point out, every generation has had huge challenges. I feel sorry for gen Z and my kids who are gen Alpha. God knows what they will see in their lifetime.

I don’t remember the prominent classification of generations until about maybe a decade ago and it feels like another divisive construct in keeping with identity politics.

Elbreth · 19/06/2026 14:15

HanG77 · 19/06/2026 14:02

Yeah, I do get that and sympathise, I suppose it's more cultural stuff. I think my irritation with it is that things I am into is always seen as a Millennial trend - like on social media videos about treating dogs like kids or being single and childfree by choice. Also, stuff like books. I loved Sally Rooney's debut and the story mirrored by experience of a first boyfriend who also went to the same University as me and my Dad (Boomer) read it also and loved it and felt an emotional pull towards it, yet you read reviews and comments and it's always talks about her being the 'voice of Millennials', when it's a universal coming of age / love story. I suppose we had Gen X authors but perhaps it's the rise of social media / online since then that's the cause, as we didn't get stuff marketing to us 24-7 as 'Gen X this and that'

Just sounds like you're blaming millennials for internet culture existing.

her being the 'voice of Millennials', when it's a universal coming of age / love story

It's both. If you want to talk about your generation talk about them. Don't expect others to be silent though because you feel weirdly disenfranchised and resentful when you hear millennials talk about stuff. I kind of get it because I am so annoyed when I hear that Gen Z are the first to grow up worrying about climate change when I remember hearing about the "greenhouse effect" on Newsround as quite a young kid, have grown up with the climate crisis as a central part of my awareness of the world, as well as being gaslit and ridiculed for caring about if for years before it mainstreamed. But that's my immaturity to deal with, isn't it, because it doesn't really matter who thought of/ experienced things first, and getting uptight about it is just a sign of insecurity.

Schoolchoicesucks · 19/06/2026 14:14

They're just trying to find a connection with people. And doing that by honing in on what they see as a shared experience of people of a (pretty wide but) similar age.
In fact as you've pointed out, others of an even wider age share similar experiences and feelings.

I voted that you were U because you're simultaneously telling one group of people that they shouldn't behave as though they can claim or act in a certain way because of their age, while simultaneously telling them that they are behaving and acting in a certain way because of their age.

Imisscoffee2021 · 19/06/2026 14:08

This is what happens when a few individuals make Internet pronouncements on behalf of a whole generation, you can't speak for yourself anymore than a few vocal millenials can speak for theirs. It's a waste of time then lumping a whole generation into the riposte.

ImpatientlyWaitingForSummer · 19/06/2026 14:07

Millennial here, I have absolutely no idea what that person meant nor have I ever heard anyone of my generation say anything remotely similar