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I need a rant about millennials

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HanG77 · 19/06/2026 10:29

Okay, I may offend millennials but hear me out (and please, millennials, offer me an explanation as to why your generation do this)...I've just had a discussion with a millennial on a thread for a social media post showing the Tartan Army having a blast in Boston, her comment was about how it was "healing the millennials". I replied saying it's lovely for all generations to watch given how divisive the world is, and she said due to 9/11 millennials crave the world healing more. I get this a lot with millennials - like they think every cultural experience is about them or for them - even taking things that are from other generations and claiming it as their era - and they act like no other generation has had any big events to deal with. I argued the Lost Generation (world war) and Gen Z (being children/early adults when the whole world stopped) have had it worse out of all the living generations (in my opinion).

For context, I'm a British Gen X, also I have a lot of close millennial friends so it's not personal, it's about them as a collective. Also, this person was American - I think maybe the American nationalism adds to it (more so than with Brits of this generation).

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HanG77 · 19/06/2026 11:24

AprilMizzel · 19/06/2026 11:20

This.

Though I have seen someone going through financies in US - average gen x vs millennials waes and costs and while gen x were about 200 dollars a month short so found it hard millennials were about 1-2 thoundand on average short a month form standard living costs.

I'm very late UK gen x - I got fed up growing up of hearing about 60s - I think a lot of more modest people got famous and got into media and kept on banging on about their youth.

I was in only second graduate job when 9/11 happened - we had all the new sites webpages up and TV on in office- it was shocking but I grew up in country who had terroist bombing and went on to have more. It's doesn't have the cultural impact it does in US.

I have to say watching us reactors - they are woefully ignorant about their own history let alone any one elses and subject to a huge amount of US propaganda and myth making and very uncurious - apparently this is a product of their education systems.

Yeah, I think I was probably unfair to say Millennials (in general), as my three best mates (Brits) are Millennials (and several close friends) and they're not like this at all - it does seem to be an American thing.

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gmgnts · 19/06/2026 11:24

Oh, stop with the generational stereotyping. Imagine if this kind of theory was put forward in relation to different races or cultures or disabilities! It would be completely unacceptable, and rightly so.

WhereverIlaymycatthatsmyhome · 19/06/2026 11:22

BuffaloCauliflower · 19/06/2026 10:36

Think you’re unreasonable to extrapolate the opinion of one person to all Millennials. No one person speaks for every member of any group. You’re welcome to rant about this one Millennial if you like though.

I’m with this poster.

It was a cringe thing to say, but that person doesn’t speak for an entire generation.

Lifeomars · 19/06/2026 11:22

I sometimes think about all the people who would have lived through two world wars and the Spanish flu pandemic. Of course they are all dead now, but those were huge world events with massive loss of life, trauma and destruction.

WanderingWellies · 19/06/2026 11:20

I think what does make Millennials (in the UK at least) unique is that their entire adult lives have been punctuated by crisis after crisis after crisis, whereas other generations have experienced difficult (even traumatic) times but a) these have been interspersed with better times and b) have had a general upwards trajectory in things like incomes and living standards. I’m a younger Gen X, educated and work in a professional job but since 2008 my standard of living has fluctuated, dramatically at times, and in 2026 I’m still carefully watching the pennies and dreading the washing machine breaking down. Life feels very precarious, particularly in a single income household, and I at least have managed to buy a house, meaning more stability for me and my children than many Millennials (and older Gen Z’s) have.

thisfilmisboring123 · 19/06/2026 11:20

Honestly no idea what you’re going on about tbh.

AprilMizzel · 19/06/2026 11:20

Slightyamusedandsilly · 19/06/2026 10:55

I knew that person was American before you even said it.

The US is so used to waging war on other nations, and it having zero impact on their country, that they now have a total victim mentality in relation to 9/11. Yes it was awful/traumatic/horrific. But it was one event. Many countries have faced the equivalent, ongoing, for years. Much of which is funded by the US.

This.

Though I have seen someone going through financies in US - average gen x vs millennials waes and costs and while gen x were about 200 dollars a month short so found it hard millennials were about 1-2 thoundand on average short a month form standard living costs.

I'm very late UK gen x - I got fed up growing up of hearing about 60s - I think a lot of more modest people got famous and got into media and kept on banging on about their youth.

I was in only second graduate job when 9/11 happened - we had all the new sites webpages up and TV on in office- it was shocking but I grew up in country who had terroist bombing and went on to have more. It's doesn't have the cultural impact it does in US.

I have to say watching us reactors - they are woefully ignorant about their own history let alone any one elses and subject to a huge amount of US propaganda and myth making and very uncurious - apparently this is a product of their education systems.

dizzydizzydizzy · 19/06/2026 11:19

I know lots of millennials and I have not noticed this.

LGBirmingham · 19/06/2026 11:19

I'm a millenial. I don't think we feel like everything is about us. But I think we do feel very hard done by as we came to adulthood during the financial crisis when the capitalist gravy train began to stop working. So we were very used to everyone seeming to get more and better then it all just went in reverse. We are the first generation where getting a degree wasn't a leg up and actually just a weight of debt around our necks.

But I think most of my generation would definitely acknowledge that all of that is even worse for the generation below us!

Brawsome · 19/06/2026 11:19

Every time I hear the Boomer/X/Z/millennial groups mentioned I have to look them
up. Can never remember which is which and from when to when. Surely I’m not the only one?

Elbreth · 19/06/2026 11:17

The whole world hasn't stopped though?

Abhannmor · 19/06/2026 11:16

I think Gen X was the lucky generation. Coming of age during the long boom after the Cold War ended. My kids started college in the Great Crash. All have Masters but can't afford to buy property. No doubt Gen Z will face the same problem....

OneNewLeader · 19/06/2026 11:15

A Gen X person had an interaction with a millennial person on SM. Disagreed. Got it.

ThatCyanCat · 19/06/2026 11:15

I honestly thought the millennial bashing had spent itself by now. It was funny for a while when people didn't realise how old we actually are but finally worked it out and started leaving us alone.

At any rate, you having a social media spat with someone and extrapolating it to everyone born from 1981 to 1996 (I think? Even that's in debate sonetimes) doesn't make everyone born in those years look silly.

80smonster · 19/06/2026 11:15

As a response to talking to some mentalist on the internet, I shall court the opinion of more.

theDudesmummy · 19/06/2026 11:14

I believe that the dividing into generations is even more meaningless now than ever, and is often a very lazy shortcut to just being generalisingly rude about people. Things like socio-economic status, class, education, background family values, all offer far better insights into why people are as they are. I am a boomer, but I never owned any property until after I retired. In rented in London for nearly 40 years. I have a teenage child. I know what is going on the world. I am a lifelong socialist who has never become more conservative. My adult children do not cause me despair, I admire them greatly.

Hallywally · 19/06/2026 11:14

I’m an elder millenial/young Gen X depending on when you do the crossover (born 1980) and actually think we had it pretty easy in a lot of ways compared to youngsters today BUT every generation has hardship & it also very much depends on the family you were born into/your own life experiences etc.

Swissmeringue · 19/06/2026 11:14

I'm a millennial and this isn't something I've experienced.

To be fair the only thing I need healing from is older people thinking we'd all be able to save to buy a 500k starter house while paying 2k a month in rent on a flat if we just stopped eating avocados. 😂

It was hardly the blitz......

momager22 · 19/06/2026 11:14

I’m a millennial and I don’t think or say what you’ve described. Please don’t tar us all with the same brush

Monty36 · 19/06/2026 11:12

ChuisEpuisee · 19/06/2026 11:09

It's a social research thing, and whilst it was originally well-intentioned in that it had genuine value for social, political and consumer analysis, now it's often used more as an online dog-whistle, to encourage engagement.

raises a single arch Millennial eyebrow

Well it is a pile of nonsense. And arguably for social research a bit of a blunt tool. Just using age.

pickalillyspooon · 19/06/2026 11:10

I don’t think it’s a millennial thing.

I think it’s just someone who’s online too much, using that vapid online lingo and applying it to themselves as a millennial.

I think these types of people are present across various generations.

backformoreofthesame · 19/06/2026 11:10

People in any generation think they are hardest done by / it’s just human nature

ChuisEpuisee · 19/06/2026 11:09

Monty36 · 19/06/2026 11:06

One thing I do get irritated by is all this naming this generation or that Millenial, Gen Z etc. Who started this crap ? Years ago we just used to say people born in the 60’s, 70’s 80’s or who lived through etc etc. There was no labelling nonsense. Can it please stop ?

It's a social research thing, and whilst it was originally well-intentioned in that it had genuine value for social, political and consumer analysis, now it's often used more as an online dog-whistle, to encourage engagement.

raises a single arch Millennial eyebrow

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 19/06/2026 11:07

Dividing groups of people into generations is getting ridiculous now. People are allowed to feel what they feel even if they don't fit into a certain category!

Monty36 · 19/06/2026 11:06

One thing I do get irritated by is all this naming this generation or that Millenial, Gen Z etc. Who started this crap ? Years ago we just used to say people born in the 60’s, 70’s 80’s or who lived through etc etc. There was no labelling nonsense. Can it please stop ?