AIBU to expect payment when my sister's boyfriend used my concert ticket?

I don’t understand why 2 days before, when you clearly couldn’t sell it, they would need to check its ok. Whether someone was sat in the seat or not at this point you weren’t getting any money back.

No, I wouldn't expect the payment in this situation. And definitely wouldn't take a payment from my own niece (had she agreed to go). What's wrong with you.

If the money were so important to you, you should have been more proactive from the start, asked your sister to confirm whether the niece was definitely going, and sold the ticket if she wasn't.

As for the boyfriend.. So you'd really rather the ticket just went unused than he went to the gig? Do you hate him or something?

You sound oddly petty and grabby.

So then he'd have said no, and wouldn't have gone and... then what? You'd have exactly the same amount of money from it as you do now.
It has made absolutely no difference to you that he went rather than the ticket going in the bin.

This.

Let it go.

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I think your DSis could have behaved better but this is mainly down to you not being proactive about selling the ticket. You were passive letting everything sit until you had no time. And now it's all done with you want get money out of someone who, you seem to think, would not have wanted to buy the ticket anyway. I would let it go and take it as a lesson to not be so passive in the future.

Haven’t read the thread. If you wanted to get paid you should have just sold the ticket after reasonable time passed and your sister didn’t tell you about your niece. Or said ‘I’d like to sell my ticket, let me know if DN will join you (and pay for it) by xx date otherwise I’ll sell it to someone else’. 2 days before you still had it so it you wouldn’t have been able to sell it anyway.

YABU and should have sold it well before 2 days before - it was your ticket so for you to ask if people wanted it or you would. The boyfriend only went as otherwise it would have gone to waste.

Are you so tight that you’d rather it went to waste than someone used it?

You should have chased for an answer about DN in good time to sell the ticket if she didn’t want it.

Your BIL was using a ticket otherwise going to waste. What benefit to you would there have been of him not going? You’ve admitted you weren’t able to sell it.

You double booked, you accept the loss. I think it's cheeky of you to expect payment, even more so knowing that it's not something he would have bought a ticket for himself.

Really, it’s not like he actually wanted to go, she said if he had to pay he’d not have went. He only went along so as not to waste it.

I have had this happen a couple of times for stuff that I know other people aren't bothered about but I just think it's nice to see the ticket used and its easier than faffing about trying to sell on. In those cases they bought me a bottle of wine (1 couple) or a bunch of flowers (2nd time). I wouldn't expect payment unless he specifically wanted to go/asked for the ticket which he didnt, i suspect if youd offered it for any money/for him to buy he just wouldve said no and not gone. Ultimately you were getting nothing and it would be wasted if he hadnt used it. I would expect a "thank you" and a sign of appreciation though and the tacit knowledge he/your sister owe you one.

If I'd been the boyfriend I'd probably have offered you some money for the ticket, FWIW. Equally though, in your shoes, 48 hours before a gig I can't attend and can't sell my ticket for, I'd probably have resigned myself to giving it away. Pay for someone to have a good time or pay for your sister to sit next to an empty seat? Either way you're out of pocket to the tune of one ticket.

If you wanted to sell it, you needed to actually sell it I’m afraid. It’s a bit annoying the first sister didn’t get back to you sooner but you should have chased her and then listed it if it was important to you.

i couldn’t imagine embarrassing myself like this. You’d prefer for the seat to be empty than your sisters boyfriend going when you know he has no interest in the event anyway. I can imagine this isn’t the first instance of such behaviour from you .

You ‘dropped the ball’ on this one. You should’ve been confirming arrangements for your ticket weeks ago and reselling if needed. This one is on you.

If you wanted to sell it you should have just sold it, not waited months.

I'd just e happy someone used the ticket.

You should have made it clear you wanted the money for the ticket. Whether it was for your niece or someone else. If you’d told your sister you wanted money for it, they’d have told the boyfriend this and he could have decided whether he wanted to go or not.
You left it too late to sell. It would have been nice for the boyfriend to offer a token amount towards the ticket (actually, your sister should) but I don’t think you can ask for money for it.

But you knew they had hold of your ticket so why didn’t you message one of your sisters to ask if anyone was buying it or not. If not you’ll put it for resale.

The Op could've checked the age limit herself, it's usually on the front of the ticket anyway!

YABU, you can sell on twickets up till early evening on the day of the concert, even if you do need to reduce the price to be competitive and get it sold. You could also have said, after the position had been clarified with DN, that they could see if a friend would come but that you'd like at least a contribution to the cost. Doesn't sound like you've been very specific and there was a ticket that was not going to be used, so your financial position isn't really any different.

I think you're being petty and mean.

It was your disorganisation that meant you couldn't go to the concert, you weren't proactive about selling it, and the ticket would otherwise have gone to waste.

So you thought the ticket had been wasted and are now annoyed that even though you did not sell it it was actually used? You are being vvv unreasonable.

All i deduce from this post is that you are deliberately trying to manufacture an argument with me because that is the only explanation for you totally misrepresenting what I have said . The hyperbole is quite frankly laughable .

Your implication though that everyone on the thread should voice the same opinion is not laughable though.

You shpukd have made ut very clear from the outset you wanted payment for ticket. Personally I'd have stood the loss unless they insisted on payment

You had more than enough time to sell it so don't pull that excuse, nope wouldn't have expected payment you were choosing not to sell or use them