AIBU to wonder about a 'curfew' for 18-year-olds after clubbing?

I have no experience in this area as my boys are still young so I’m not going to give an opinion on what you should do. However, I just wanted to say that I think you sound like a lovely mum - the fact that you are putting so much thoughtful consideration into this decision shows that you have your dd’s best interests at heart. And that’s all any of us can ever expect of ourselves as parents.

Midnight?? For adults who have finished A levels?

I had a curfew when I was 18, but only during revision/exams.

Midnight 🤣

I still give a curfew at 18. I'm not waiting up worrying all hours, I can't sleep until DD is home safe.

They are adults, you can’t impose a curfew on adults. A levels are done and they have grown up, now you get to enjoy them without the burden of being fully responsible for discipline and rules.

Post a levels no real curfew - I just wanted to know where they were going, who they were going with, and how/when they were getting home - and to be in contact if plans changed. I said to them both (in jest) that I needed the pertinent information so I didn't look an incompetent mother on Crime watch! DC were both pretty considerate, and didn't make too much noise on returning home. I did ask for a text once home so if I woke up in the small hours I'd know they were home, rather than having to go downstairs to check if shoes and coat were in the hall.
I didn't have tracking apps while they were at uni either.

They are 18 so they can come back whenever they like. You just need to check they have a key so they can get back inside without waking you up.

I never had a curfew for mine but I did like to know when they’d be in by or I collected them if needed . When I was 18 , and younger , my parents were very relaxed about us staying out at clubs until 2/3 am but my dad always came to pick us up .

I’ve had curfew for my older teens. Partly because I don’t want to be disturbed when they come back in the early hours but also I don’t want to be up and awake waiting/worrying about them. It was a struggle at first for them to understand but it’s sort of down the lines of my house my rules and having respect. I need my sleep as I get up early and work long hours. Once at uni they do their own thing. You still worry though but I’m sure you’ve talked about keeping safe etc. The clubbing phase only lasts a few weeks/months anyway. I think as you have twins they will probably stay together and there’s safety in numbers. My oldest is 22 now and when they come back from uni they still stick to my ‘rules’ because they understand the situation. You’ve got to do what feels right for you.

I mean this kindly, but you need to let go of the apron strings. Part of being 18 is staying out later than you ever have unsupervised and having all the liberty of an adult. Staying out to the small hours is a novelty. Give it a few years and they’ll tire of it. You are in no way being neglectful or abandoning them by not giving them a curfew.

Erm no curfew there adults lol if my parents had done this I wouldn't have been a happy bunny lol

They are adults they shouldn’t have a curfew at all. You’ll see them when you see them, as long as they are respectful and not bringing people back, being loud waking you etc then let them get on with it. They are 18! Spend this energy on talking to them about how to be safe when out.