Would you apply for Clare’s Law check with no concerns about your partner?

Yes I definitely would. Any of us can be targeted by these men and they often start out absolutely charming, supportive attentive partners in order to pull you in. It’s almost impossible to spot them. Its silly not to check

Given your history I would do it, you have nothing to lose. I wouldn't tell him I had done it though, bit insulting!
I find it interesting you have had it happen to you three times, so there must be something about the men you choose - hence why it's worth checking with this one.
Not having had a history of this, it's not something I would naturally check, no. But in your case it's different. And of course a blank file doesn't mean he won't do it to you, but it will put your mind at rest.

@Britneyfan Very similar!
I was only early 20s when I met my now ex-husband and simply didn't want to see the red flags early on. Im fact I probably mistook them for positives e.g. He "cares" about me so much he wants to protect me. No - he wants to control me.
Back in the day there was no education in schools around this; I was so naive to it all.

Yes I would

While it may not be the case that those abused do not intentionally choose a partner that is abusive, abusers will certainly often look for a partner that they are aware they can manipulate

you have been in this position before so rather than get further into the relationship get the check done

but remember not all abusers have been caught so never excuse any red flags and please do not rely on those gut feelings or not having them the brain will seek out pleasure which is why we often don’t see or feel right of what is in front of us

Sorry I was wrong then in that case.
I hadn't realised that you didn't have to have just cause.

@Cheeseandolivesplease cross posted! We literally had the same thought about being too good to be true at the beginning being potentially a red flag in itself! Sounds like we’ve had v similar experiences actually.

@Latteapparel Yes, happily remarried now thank you. Trust still an issue but that's on me as I struggle with how anybody can be so downright cruel.
Interestingly, second husband very different in so many regards to the first - some would argue polar opposites - but that's been a deliberate choice on my part. I wasn't going to be making the same mistake twice!

Definitely do it OP. As someone who has also been a victim of domestic abuse (in my marriage) this one does sound good but I’m sure you know that sometimes that in itself can be a red flag of kinds early on, where an abuser is simply wearing a mask of the sort of person you really want. Honestly although I’ve only ever had that one abusive relationship it’s scarred me psychologically to the point that I fully plan to do this for all and any future partners. Better to know if there is something relevant that you’d be better off knowing in their past and get out early if necessary.

I agree with you that domestic abuse can be way more complex and subtle than people give it credit for, and at one point I’d absolutely have said there were no early red flags with my ex husband. Over time I’ve come to understand that there actually were, I just didn’t recognise them as such. In my case because I’d led a rather sheltered life, grew up in a time and place where misogynistic norms were very much still unquestioned, and happily had simply never had the misfortune to come across a dark triad type in any walk of life before.

I don’t think I have a defective personality or whatever, but I can struggle with depression and low self-esteem and these bastards can sniff that sort of thing out somehow. I do think domestic abuse can happen to anyone in a way, but I also believe that abusers target their victims. And that certain people (generally people with super healthy self-esteem and confidence, traditionally attractive, high EQ, no history of trauma or abuse, no mental health struggles, no neurodivergence, and a really healthy approach to relationship boundaries) would recognise a red flag very early, even a pink flag, and simply walk away without a second thought. So those people are less likely to get to the point where abuse has escalated to the point of violence (I don’t believe that’s usually a first sign of abuse) and free themselves very early on from this sort of personality. We can’t all be lucky enough to be that sort of person, but given this relationship dynamic has repeated for you, it’s well worth doing the Freedom Project if you haven’t already to make sure you are well aware of possible early red flags.

i would have the full mi5/gchq profile if it was possible

These type seem to snuff out vulnerable women. You have been strong enough to get out early, which is to your credit, but given your history I think you should apply. Better safe than sorry.

I’d apply, the partner wouldn’t find out and it would give you peace of mind.

I've just looked it up to confirm how to spell this law and it's CLARE'S law.

Named for Clare Woods.

The reality is, you never really know. The most evil narcissists are great "game players" - their charm and presentation as a very likeable character is exactly what makes them so dangerous.
I married one.
When I left him and spoke out so many of our "friends" simply could not accept he was anything but perfect. They refused to.
They didn't see his mask come off behind closed doors.
It sounds counterintuitive, but if he comes across as "too good to be true", with absolutely not even the smallest flaws of character, then beware. Red flag in itself.

I was in a DV relationship for more than a decade. I like you had zero concerns about new partner but applied to Claires Law and explained my reasons why.

They followed through with the request and there was as I thought, Nothing to disclose. But at least I had that reassurance.

As mentioned you don’t need a reason. Do it. There’s no point taking unnecessary risk just because they seem decent. That’s exactly how abusive men start out and you’ve been through enough so safeguarding yourself is the wise thing to do. He won’t find out either way it goes.

Yes, I think it's worth applying given your partner history, and think it's a very sensible line of thinking. Don't know your childhood history at all, but if you've experienced abuse growing up it can sometimes be really hard to spot early signs of an abusive partner as an adult - the red flags often just don't register as they would for someone who hasn't had abuse "normalised"

So does that mean if you’ve asked for one just to ‘check out ’ a new partner and there are no concerns or
the applicant is not at risk the police won’t disclose information?

I wonder if something is making your subconscious uneasy, OP.