CRP level and DP’s reaction, would you be upset?

Bloody hell you poor thing!! When I had sepsis my marker was below that, I think in the 200s, you must have felt terrible. What a weird, invalidating response from your partner x

Whats he trying to keep you at home for? Do you have kids? Is he just pissed off his wife/nanny/maid needs a bit of time off sick?

Yup my Dad was 280 when he had sepsis and necrotizing fascitis and had to be resuscitated. Something very odd is going on with this guy and his reaction to you being unwell. It doesn't matter what the number is or whether you need to go to hospital, if you tell your partner you feel like crap then they should believe and help you, what adult invalidates another adult like that, it's utterly demeaning

Yes this. He was both wrong and a dismissive twat but now that it's been shown that you are genuinely unwell and another medical professional has shown that objectively and expressed concern, he has two options: (1) acknowledge he was wrong and a dismissive twat and accept the puncture to his ego; or (2) refuse to accept the facts and double down on his original stance to protect his precious ego.

He has chosen option 2.

Either he does genuinely like you but his ego is so pathologically huge and fragile that that comes first and/or his ego is not debilitating and he just doesn't really care about you enough to risk even a small dent.

Either way, run for the hills.

He doesn't like that he was wrong

Does one of these levels entitle him to be more of a dickhead??
The gps and surgeons that are in our friends and family are not dickheads and can be trusted to give an helpful opinion if you call them, I know surgeons reputation but I don’t recognise this level of plain old asshole in the ones I know and I wouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone like that.

How senior a surgeon is he? Is he a FY2, registrar or consultant?

I think its a health workers thing, my folks, paramedics, surgeon, nurse all used to be of the opinion if you could walk and it wasn't hanging off then it was not too bad.

He's unconcerned because he's used to seeing the very sickest people. However, his dismissiveness of you is nothing to do with that and is plain old unpleasantness.

If you can count on your dp least when you’re unwell then you should leave. You should message him now : I’m really unwell, I get that I’m not actually dead but that’s no excuse for your dismissal. If you were my doctor I’d find a new one rather than ever tolerate asking for your opinion again. I’m wondering whether that should apply to partners to. I know I never want to trust your medical ‘advice’ (if you can call it that )again. I’m grateful to be being looked after at the hospital by doctors and nurses who are kind and telling me this is serious. I’m grateful I ignored your ‘advice’.

Are you sure he is a ln actual doctor?

Your DH is being a dick and he's unempathetic. With aupport like that who needs enemies. He sounds like a know it all except he doesn't know it all.

Please don't question how you respond. You're unwell. A scan has proved the same. If he can't be supportive then he needs to shut his mouth. Does he have any good qualities?

Its twats like this that lead to deaths from sepsis.

Shame that to be an amazing surgeon requires sociopathy.

Surgeons kind of have a reputation for not having the best social skills. It’s a good thing their patients are on aenesthesia most of the time time. He’s being an arse. Of course you’re hurt. And probably a bit scared. I hope you have a close friend to talk to.

Sorry but surgeons are renowned for having a God-complex and having little empathy. I suspect he also doesn’t want to admit to himself that he was wrong not to take you more seriously when you said you felt ill, so he is trying to minimise your illness so he doesn’t have to feel guilty.

He sounds horrible. But at least you’ve had the opportunity to see what he would probably be like as a father.

Hope you’re better soon.

Surgeons. They’re wired differently, especially orthopods. Joiners with a medical degree. The real psychos are cardiac surgeons. They walk on water.

she already knows it’s campylobacter

I'm afraid surgeons have a reputation for being arrogant and difficult to have relationships with. Get well soon, OP.

Surgeons, (or cutters and shutters) in my experience tend to think of patients as just humans with bits they need to lop off. They do not see you holistically. As long as they have lopped off the right bit, that's ok. For me the medics who saw me as a person were the oncologists, they wanted to know HOW I felt after treatment. I don't think much of your DP's bedside manner. I am not so sure he even likes you. Wondering if he has taken out life insurance on you? Only slightly sarcastically....

And that I totally get, you have to be hardened to be able to cope with it. Emotional detachment is fine, unless its someone you truly love and that's when your knowledge/experience should seek to protect that special person.

As a medical professional he should know that anything over 5 is elevated with Crp of over 100 often indicating severe bacterial infection. I’ve had sepsis 3 times and my Crp was over 200. But you know what, if you just had a migraine he should have been more sympathetic. Instead when you tell him you’ve been admitted to hospital he belittles you and doesn’t come see you as soon as he can. He’s obviously used to helping anaethatised people and you can’t persuade him to be empathetic if he’s got a missing chip… let him go would be my advice…

But a GP shouldn't be saying stuff like that, its irresponsible! This GP does not know her mental state.

Mum and Mil to pilots here and curious as to what you have against pilots as partners.

I’m a doctor. CRP >400 is very significant and needs investigation. Your partner is a complete arse for minimising this.
I hope they get to the bottom of it and that you start feeling a lot better soon. And please have a think about your relationship. He should be the one to fight your corner, the one to support you.if he thinks a CRP of 400 is unimportant he shouldn’t be practicing

Please leave this man. You deserve better.