CRP level and DP’s reaction, would you be upset?

Its irrelevant, a GP shouldn't make statements of that nature on a social posting she may know what it is but someone else on this site may have a similar reading and not have a diagnosis.

Even if he has seen higher levels it's still at a level that needs looking into.

And so what?

I just checked my NHS test results app and mine was 25(250) when I was blue lighted to hospital with a severe reaction to chemo and infection, I can only imagine how unwell you were feeling at 400. I’d be seriously unimpressed if he didn’t offer an apology

I’m sorry you’re ill and I hope you feel better soon.

What an awful man and what a poor doctor he must be. If he treats his own wife this badly imagine how awful he must be to his patients ?

Hmm….. major red flag for narcissism. It suspect he doesn’t like the attention being taken away from him.

That's cool if he just wants to be a doctor. But if he also wants to be a partner he's going to have to get better at it.

I'm sure your partner has seen worse stats in his working life as a surgeon but that's irrelevant to you and your individual situation! Unfortunately, some medical professionals can be egoistical and arrogant....it appears your partner might be one of these!

Your partner dismissed your concerns and belittled you, because he believed he knew better. He's been proved wrong, and is probably trying to save face.

My Uncle is an ex-nurse (retired probably 20+ years) (thankfully an uncle by marriage and not blood!) and my other Aunt was in hospital (not his wife) extremely ill. My cousin had been told by her consultant that she wasn't likely to last much longer. My Uncle basically told my cousin that the consultant didn't know what he was talking about, and didn't believe my cousin. My Uncle and my Aunt (his wife) went away for a couple of nights, no one could get hold of them, when my Aunt passed away. Of course, that was everyone else's fault, that no one could contact either him or my Aunt and nothing to do with the fact he was too arrogant to believe the consultant actually looking after my Aunt!!

I would be re-evaluating the relationship. Someone who is this dismissive, and makes you feel inferior and a nuisance, isn't someone I'd like to be associated with.

He sounds un empathetic and unsupportive. I’d be seriously reconsidering.

I said the same to my Dr DH and he said the same thing. 400 is high, the surgeon is an unsympathetic idiot were his exact words.

He's let you down when it mattered. Is this what you want in a relationship? Partnerships include mutual love and support. He's been tested and failed.

I don’t know the rest of your relationship but I think medics get so used to things that they sometimes minimise.
I also think sometimes people minimise when it’s someone close to them because they can’t face it being something big and put head in sand.
It might also be that he was being a dick.
focus on getting well now, figuring him out can wait

I'm not sure what CRP is, but if you're married to a medic, then you're going to have to toughen up! They are notoriously blasé about illness in the family - maybe because they see so many time wasters at work? My advice - from personal experience - is to develop a thick skin, a nice line in sarcasm and thus admiration from staff as "Mr So and So's wife, who is a stoical trooper"! Just laugh about it, basically.

Yes he could be a FY3 type level who has that ‘doesn’t know what he doesn’t know yet’.

He’s an idiot and I certainly wouldn’t want him treating me!!

Does he have a form for belittling you?

I mean it is food poisoning but it’s a type of it, not all food poisoning is campylobacter
it’s not a few days either
I had a headache for 3 days, a temp over 40c and diarrhoea every 15 minutes for 9 days. It only stopped when they hospital put me on a drip and antibiotics

I grew up in a medical family. Our joke is that you only go to the hospital when you are about to die.

I'm always surprised how often some people go, I mostly don't even think of it as a possible thing.

Have the hospital identified if there is anything wrong? Hard to say whether his assessment of your condition is valid or not without another medical opinion.

He's being a twat. My guess is he is on some maybe unconscious level assessing you as he would a patient for surgery, ruling you out and therefore deciding you are fine.

I would say I'm not asking for a medical assessment, I already have that, I'm shocked by how little care or sympathy you seem to feel for me. Then take it from there.

So basically he's doubling down. Tosser!

I can throw a crp of 200 without being dangerously ill (it's a crohns thing) but I feel absolutely dreadful when this happens and invariably end up in hospital because, in general, that's considered extremely high and needs investigation. I can't imagine how I'll you felt with double that.

And this man is a trained doctor/surgeon? Oh no!

Desensitisation is ‘A Thing’ for all of us in whatever specialties. It’s both unavoidable and in some ways necessary.

However - compassion, human emotion, and care for our loved ones should never be compromised. Those things are the parts that mean we’re human. Unfortunately IME surgeons have to be naturally quite low on these scales in order to remain unphased by the pressure during theatre. Having someone’s heart literally in your hand is one thing… holding a loved one’s heart in their hands is the biggie that they then struggle with. Two very different skill sets.

I’d think twice about this relationship.

And get well soon lovely 💐 🍇

I just read the OP has campylobacter which made me ask if her surgeon partner suspected this didn't want to worry her more. Is it possible he knew she would get over it in a few days. As far as I know this illness is the medical name for food poisoning a common illness which raises cpr numbers. I'm not for a second saying this is definitely the situation, just putting it on the table as a possible reason for the comments.

ps

just read this out to my own cold Dr DH and he said “400? Yes 400 is very high. I don’t believe he doesn’t think 400 is bad, he’s probably trying to save face”