Home alone

My DH and have just been discussing this. Our 16 DS is very sensible and we think he would be fine. Only worry is would he have big party?

My mum was a solo parent when I was 16 and used to work night duty. I was frequently home alone. I also often had parties between 11pm and 5am… But I was very responsible and cleaned up after them so she never knew. Maybe 😂

If your 16 year old teenager, less than two years away from fully fledged adulthood, cannot be left for one evening it says more about your parenting.

Which is fine. Some will agree, some won't.

You want to leave your 16 year old child overnight so you can get it on with someone???

Read that sentence a couple of times and see how tacky, selfish, cringe worthy, embarrassing and downright yuck what you're suggesting is.

Your child comes first, always, no negotiations, nothing. You're his mother supposed to be. He comes first, not your libido.

And has the years gone on parents wonder why there kids are lazy, dont know how to talk for themselves, or be independent let alone how entitled they are.
And thick as shit.

Yet in other countries kids as young as 10 get the bus / train to school stay home alone as parents are working like dogs.
Teens do the same plus work.

The uk as become a nanny state.

Uh-huh, my point was that everyone doesn’t have a different opinion. Luckily most people take the (imho reasonable) view that a) a 16yo is ok at home alone overnight and b) consenting adults are allowed to have sex, even if they are parents.

Exactly, everyone is entitled to agree or disagree.

Well not really. The vast majority on here think the OP is fine to leave a 16yo for one night if he is happy with it. A few do not. And I have only seen a couple of people agreeing with you that parents should not be having sex.

100% everyone has different opinions

DH and i left our 15 year old home alone for three nights while we went away for a weekend. She practically shoved us out the door and slammed it on our arses. The babifying of nearly adult teenagers by some here is ridiculous.

I admire you for your steadfast commitment to your opinion in the face of universal disagreement

He'll be absolutely fine, maybe send a message when you get to where you're going to make sure you have service. So long as he's happy about being left to for it. I'm surprised there's people saying no don't leave him. Unbelievable. He's nearly an adult.

I was babysitting other kids at 16, I also worked late shifts, getting the nightbus home

Unbelievable comments here and why we have a generation of inept teens.

And we wonder why kids aren't coping with real life 🙄 I'm positive a 16 year old isn't going to feel abandoned...

Keep your phone on loud, make sure there's food in or he's got money to order a takeaway. See if he wants a friend to sleep over. Then go and enjoy yourself!

I see the mummy martyr contingency has arrived on the thread, wondered how long it would take. 🙄

I was living alone at 16.

Some of these comments are bizarre, fgs talk about coddling kids.

Of course it isn't.

Oh i am sure a shag and a relationship is vital occassionally as a grown woman.

That's a different debate, haven't seen anyone say they do that. It is shocking but each to their own 🤢

Of course he will be fine at 16
He can ring you or others.
Christ people are helicopter parents over a 16yr old

It's the potential shagging that's bothering her. No matter that actually I was going for a nice meal or a drink in a pub and some nice adult company, and a night enjoying sleeping next to my partner just as much as the shagging which didn't even always happen, mothers must not have sex!! Apparently

The discussion about leaving a 16y so you can sleep with your partner is also odd. Thos I suspect it's mostly one poster?

Why is that not OK when (say) leaving to stay with platonic friend would be OK? Is it bc parents should not be having a sex life? wtaf? Catch yourself on (as I have seen others say on here) @Tink3rbell30

At 16 I loved to be left at home for own night with lots of snacks (lots of snacks is always the key). I think several nights would be different and being far away would be different but occasionally parents stayed away for one night on Saturday and it was fine.
However it depends on a child (teen but still …)
For a start I would consider booking something e.g a concert and ask teen if it would be ok if I stayed the night to simplify travel. You don’t need to go into many details as he will have your mobile phone number. And then you will see how it goes.
By the way is your son able to see you on life 360 or similar? It might affect your planning. My daughter would question and might worry seeing me at unknown address.

If you are in Scotland he can get married so I’m sure he will be fine for a night