Home alone

I left mine at that age, yes. Now and again for cos I was doing something fun and other times for work.
He’s mature, is happy to be left and can be trusted to look after the house and (importantly) to get help if needed.

I left my 16yr old home alone.
I was left home alone at the same age.
A friend's son moved out at 16 for a college placement.
All perfectly fine.

It's silent now phew 😂

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I think that's just tipped it over to obvious troll territory.

No they kept replying to my comments and continuing it on.

No, you gave your opinion and other people gave theirs. You are the one who is choosing to go back and forth repeatedly. You've posted more than anyone else on this thread.

I also think it’s really important to do things like this, not just for yourself but for your DC too.

Kids these days have a lot of anxiety and are very reliant on others.

I think giving them some independence is one of the best things you can do.

16 is fine to leave overnight as long as he is ok with that.

How far away is it?
And how safe is your area?

I left my DC at that age.

I started going out later in the evening so they were used to it but always came home, I just made it later and later.

Then I stayed overnight but had someone on standby just in case and I wasn’t drinking so could come home.

After a couple of times, I stopped worrying and allowed myself a drink etc (always had someone they could call in an emergency just in case).

As long as you live in a safe area and they’re sensible, then it’s fine.

There’s never been any issues.

Nope, I gave my opinion. People then chose to keep repeatedly going back and for questioning it.

We left our now 16 year old at home for a week in April - entirely her choice - and we're sodding off again for 10 days at the beginning of July. Again, her choice. She turns 17 in August, and has no desire to go on holiday with Mum and Dad - she'd rather stay home and hang out with her mates.

you would only be away from your almost adult children if it is absolutely unavoidable?

Yes completely reasonable. Until very recently you could get married in the uk at 16!

Left DD for the first time at 16.

She has ASD (High Functioning) and anxiety, bit was fine. In fact she loved the solitude.

Your attitude is hilarious, her son is old enough to have sex himself, why are you so worried about this ladies sex life. I'm a single parent and waited until my children were a certain age to date and it's quite liberating when they are old enough to be left alone for an evening, overnight, a weekend etc. Why don't you concentrate on being more empathic and worrying about your own weekend shenanigans.

You seem rather over-invested in the OP's romantic relationship. You're the one who keeps insisting on going back and forth in this thread.

Something unavoidable. You are obviously going to do it regardless so seems a bit pointless going back and for.

People replied to my comments repeatedly carrying it on back and for.

You’re oddly obsessed with someone’s intimate life.
If you only leave your 16 year old alone with it absolutely necessary then you’re raising a babied teen who will struggle to cope when in a year and half they will be a full legal adult.

I'm about to go to the gym and leave DC all alone. It's not necessary as such, I won't immediately drop dead if I skip a day. I don't see why I should not do it though, as they can manage perfectly fine without me. Are we only allowed to leave capable children unsupervised if it's an absolute must?

Why? What difference does it make? Why is a night with a boyfriend a less worthy reason than, eg, a spa trip with a friend or a work trip? He’s 16!! He’s old enough to be having a shag of his own FFS.

It doesn’t have to be ‘necessary’. Leaving a 16-year-old for a night isn’t some kind of desperate last resort that’s only permissible in dire circumstances. It’s not a big deal for a normal 16-year-old.

I think it’s really pretty concerning if a 16-year-old can’t cope alone overnight. A 16-year-old is old enough to be doing an apprenticeship, joining the Army, having sexual relationships. There’s something badly wrong if they have to supervised overnight.

Hardly appropriate or necessary to leave your child overnight for the first time purely to shag. I'm sure you've already commented saying you think it's OK though so no point going back and for again.

Yes, my DD’s were left then periodically. You can leave home at 16!