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Divorce, house move , cheating husband help please

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Macmeme · 18/06/2026 14:18

So. Husbands come home from work and told me he slept with someone at work in 2017. He told me because 2 days ago she has filed a rape case against him.

We are due to move house and have just signed contracts for the houses.

He has said he knows its over. I have told him in no uncertain terms it is over

What do i need to do first?

I have logged off work and told my family who i will be phoning when he has left.

He is leaving. Presumably to go to parents.

New house is more expensive and I will struggle to afford on my own.

Im thinking of cancelling the move, stay here he can live soemwhwre else.

But what else do I need to do? And in which order. Thank you

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Capricornandproud · 18/06/2026 14:58

I’m so sorry OP. What a shock. And an absolute shit storm ahead of you.

one thing/day/project at a time.

ThatLilacTiger · 18/06/2026 14:55

Signing contracts doesn't mean anything in the conveyancing process. Have you exchanged contracts yet? If not, back out of the purchase and stay put. Tell your rapist ex-husband he's a pig from me.

WhereverIlaymycatthatsmyhome · 18/06/2026 14:36

Speak to conveyancing solicitors urgently and tell them not to exchange. Confirm by email.

Agree with PP, unless he was having a longer term affair where some sex was consensual, this isn’t about someone he slept with, it’s about a woman he raped. 💐

DaisyChain505 · 18/06/2026 14:27

AwksBut · 18/06/2026 14:24

Why has she waited since 2017 to file a claim? Has he spoken to her since 2017, what triggered this.

Let’s not victim blame here. There are many reasons why people don’t come forward straight after a crime has taken place and that isn’t what this thread is about.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 18/06/2026 14:25

Phone your solicitors and see if contracts have been exchanged. If not then pause. If yes, find out what the financial penalties are for cancelling

bigboykitty · 18/06/2026 14:25

AwksBut · 18/06/2026 14:24

Why has she waited since 2017 to file a claim? Has he spoken to her since 2017, what triggered this.

Rape has triggered this.

bigboykitty · 18/06/2026 14:25

If the exchange hasn't happened, you can pull out of the purchase. I'm so sorry for your situation. I'm sure eventually your life will be better without a rapist in your home.

professionalcommentreader · 18/06/2026 14:24

Is that rental or purchase contracts?

AwksBut · 18/06/2026 14:24

Why has she waited since 2017 to file a claim? Has he spoken to her since 2017, what triggered this.

Esmeraldathe3rd · 18/06/2026 14:23

You've signed. But have you EXCHANGED? We signed Monday but the exchange isn't till next Monday. So there's still time. Contact your solicitor asap and ask them to delay just a few days.

Esmeraldathe3rd · 18/06/2026 14:22

Can you let the sale go through but not the purchase and go live with family. Splitting the house is a big part of divorce. You'll make that so much easier just getting it sold now.

Also, he didn't cheat, he raped someone. Rape accusations are drastically more likely to be true than false, you have no reason to believe she's a liar, but you know he is. So yeah, he didn't cheat, he raped someone.

mumofsevenfluffs · 18/06/2026 14:21

I don’t think legally you can cancel the move or at least without it costing you a fortune