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To think the BBC just mispresented baby Preston's killer (and in way that was favourable to the killer) ?

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lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:01

Really odd reporting on Baby Preston's killer just now on the one o'clock news. Despite the baby being sexually abused and indecent images of him taken and shared, the BBC presented him as a Dad who had found parenting really overwhelming and hard and had come to resent his baby.

Stressed out parents who can't cope with babies don't sexually abuse them because they are stressed. Or take indecent images of them because they are stressed.

The killer was a paedophile. That is why he abused that baby.

As his interest in having a child was to abuse it, not to care for it, it may also have been that he had no the tolerance for hard work of looking after a young child and that did overwhelm him which resulted in him physically assaulting the child.

It was such a bizarre narrative to present him as a man who had desperately wanted children but found parenting too hard and could not cope.

Instead of a paedophile.

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mrsbowes · 18/06/2026 19:57

curtaintwitcher78 · 18/06/2026 19:01

They were quoting the judge. For some reason judges often go easy when sentencing paedophiles.

He got a whole life sentence, not sure the judge could have gone any harder 🤔

Netcurtainnelly · 18/06/2026 19:53

I don't think anyone knows what the motive for adopting was. Only they will know that. As they won't admit guilt they are hardly going to say.
All we know is what they did once Preston was placed with them.
Awful vile people, how do people sink so low. RIP Preston failed by everyone apart from your foster parents.

Carouselfish · 18/06/2026 19:53

@honeyhoneyI had the misfortune to read some of the details about the baby's injuries and evidence. It was not physical abuse caused by stress. It was sustained and completely sexual over several weeks. They are paedophiles.

nomas · 18/06/2026 19:51

LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 19:28

Why not-they often do and if that doesn't work, they make up remarks-remarks that they then have to apologise for.

ITV are also reporting below, similar to BBC. Why only target the BBC?

Varley took a year off work as head of year and as a design and technology teacher at a local high school, South Shore Academy, to look after the child, but struggled as a new parent with a baby who frequently woke during the night and with his partner working long hours, the court heard.

nomas · 18/06/2026 19:48

Anyahyacinth · 18/06/2026 17:56

This is not known ..sadists are different to paedophiles …having sex to dominate is different to paedophilia, pleasure from torture is a different thing…I’m not sure why having this label matters so much to people ..these 2 are murderers

Preston had injuries ignored ..this is being investigated..it’s appalling and people are raging about labels

Maybe it will help those in authority to realise that it doesn’t matter if you’re a safeguarding lead at a school and a head of year, you can still be a paedophile / sadist / abuser / murderer.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/06/2026 19:46

BIossomtoes · 18/06/2026 19:19

I suspect the whole life of that order might not be very long once he’s inside.

With a bit of luck.

LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 19:28

JHound · 18/06/2026 16:37

So you think the BBC should add their opinion to court news reporting?

Why not-they often do and if that doesn't work, they make up remarks-remarks that they then have to apologise for.

Goatsarebest · 18/06/2026 19:25

honeylulu · 18/06/2026 18:37

I understand what you are saying but the judge will have had a duty to consider all the evidence presented. The wording of the judge referring to the evidence that the Defendant (can't bring myself to type his name) struggled with parenthood shows that that was considered but not found to be a mitigating factor in the sentencing given the overwhelming evidence of protracted sexual and physical abuse.

Explaining that all evidence was considered is pretty important as it makes it much less likely that Defendant can appeal against the sentence on the basis that the judge did NOT appear to fully and objectively consider all the evidence. In doing so the judge was (in my opinion, I'm a solicitor) sending a very strong message that the whole life sentence must remain intact.

I don't know if that helps ...

Yes, this is an important point. If you look at whole life sentences they can only be given in exceptional circumstances and the whole legality of not having a defined term for applying for parol (however long that might be) was challenged in the European Court of Human Rights along with the powers of the Home Secretary in the process of reviewing life sentences.
Exceptional circumstances have to consider everything that might have affected the facts of the case.
It's likely the judge was making it very clear they had considered absolutely everything before imposing the whole life. It didn't stop the most punitive penalty available in law being applied, so had no material impact on the sentence, thankfully. And it was never said it was a reason or an excuse, which if course it isn't. It was just stated that they were finding parenting overwhelming. It didn't mitigate the sentence.

Araminta1003 · 18/06/2026 19:25

Since whole life orders were introduced in the 80s, only about 100 have been given. I think there are under 75 left now. Tells you all you need to know!

BIossomtoes · 18/06/2026 19:19

I suspect the whole life of that order might not be very long once he’s inside.

curtaintwitcher78 · 18/06/2026 19:18

Glowingup · 18/06/2026 19:17

Lol yeah, a whole life order is “going easy”

I just meant in general. I'm not looking for conflict. This is a very upsetting case.

Glowingup · 18/06/2026 19:17

curtaintwitcher78 · 18/06/2026 19:01

They were quoting the judge. For some reason judges often go easy when sentencing paedophiles.

Lol yeah, a whole life order is “going easy”

Araminta1003 · 18/06/2026 19:16

What do you think awaits the murderer in prison in all likelihood? And the judge probably does not want any accusation of further incitement in that regard. He gave the harshest sentence in the book “whole life order”.

BillieWiper · 18/06/2026 19:14

MarmaladeorJam · 18/06/2026 18:08

Saying 'they categorically definitely did so solely for the purposes of abusing it' is just opinion or speculation.

Perhaps.

But, in light of what we know, it is hard to imagine that they didn't adopt solely for the purposes of abusing.

Yeah you're not wrong but saying it like it's categorical proven fact in the trial isn't the case. And the defense clearly tried to distance themselves from that narrative. And evidently succeed to an extent.

But no members of general public are sitting here thinking 'oh, he was a loving, caring person who honourably wanted a child for normal decent reasons and things just too much..'

Goatsarebest · 18/06/2026 19:12

RedTagAlan · 18/06/2026 14:40

They were reporting what the Judge said.

UK broadcast news has strict rules on impartiality. Likes of YouTube does not. If it's a mix of opinion and news you want it is Youtube channels you need. For factual reporting to strict rules, then BBC etc.

The BBC has been found time and time again to manipulate editorial content to fit their Agenda.
I surprised anyone is prepared to post what you have posted.
Editing content to make it look like the President of the USA incitted a insurrection against democracy because they 'think' he did. How can a news reporting organisation have any credibility after that. They have a view on Trump and deliberately created false reporting to support their narrative. So if they feel justified in doing it in that situation there is no doubt what so ever they will do it in other situations.

The issue with the BBC is they are an echo chamber where they recruit and promote from a narrow liberal elite talent pool, which has created a culture where they believe their so called progressive agenda is the only morally correct agenda. They don't even think it's wrong to report like this. They justify it as protecting society from prejudice or discrimination or 'far right' extremism.

Anyahyacinth · 18/06/2026 19:07

Emilesgran · 18/06/2026 18:59

Did they intend for him to die? Is that not the definition of a murderer or is it ok for definitions of murder to be less rigorous than that of paedophile?

I don’t understand your post ..did you read the link someone kindly posted from the NSPCC saying that bandying about the word paedophile is unhelpful.

Paedophile is different from abuse that has sexual elements. The NSPCC article is above

Murder was proven and convicted so how is that relevant?

GreenCandleWax · 18/06/2026 19:07

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:23

Oh was that the Judge's comments? Then he is an idiot too. I found those comments really disturbing. I suspect there is an unwillingness to name the motivation being paedophilia because he is gay. Safeguarding relies on not looking at ' identity' but looking at the evidence. No sacred castes.

That is the very attitude that was behind this series of disasters leading to outright tragedy. The professionals who placed the baby for adoption, social workers, police, and probably the hospital consultant who dismissed the two nurses' concerns about injuries, and returned the poor baby to this horror. To read that the judge may also be infected by this cowardly madness is awful.

Emilesgran · 18/06/2026 19:06

FernFaery · 18/06/2026 19:03

No, you don’t have to intend for somebody to die to be convicted of murder. You have to either intend to kill them, or really seriously harm them, and that harm caused their death. Hence sometimes cases are charged as s18 GBH then the victim dies and it changes to murder. Attempted murder is very hard to prove and charged less often.

But if they were using him for sex, they weren’t trying to harm him.
(I’m not disagreeing with the verdict, I’m just wondering why that PP needs to be so picky about the definition of paedophilia, but not the definition of murder.)

FernFaery · 18/06/2026 19:03

Emilesgran · 18/06/2026 18:59

Did they intend for him to die? Is that not the definition of a murderer or is it ok for definitions of murder to be less rigorous than that of paedophile?

No, you don’t have to intend for somebody to die to be convicted of murder. You have to either intend to kill them, or really seriously harm them, and that harm caused their death. Hence sometimes cases are charged as s18 GBH then the victim dies and it changes to murder. Attempted murder is very hard to prove and charged less often.

curtaintwitcher78 · 18/06/2026 19:01

They were quoting the judge. For some reason judges often go easy when sentencing paedophiles.

Emilesgran · 18/06/2026 18:59

Anyahyacinth · 18/06/2026 18:41

It’s not my definition and I’m simply saying we don’t know enough to apply the label ..which so many are desperate to do. What we do know is that they are murderers

Did they intend for him to die? Is that not the definition of a murderer or is it ok for definitions of murder to be less rigorous than that of paedophile?

Flapjak · 18/06/2026 18:56

I hope there is an investigation to find their previous victims

tipsyraven · 18/06/2026 18:50

LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 14:31

If they had been two straight men, members of Restore Britain or Reform, you wouldn't have heard a word about any "overwhelming" and of that you can be sure.

Eh? Are you ok?

Anyahyacinth · 18/06/2026 18:44

Corvidsarethebest · 18/06/2026 18:19

Very very few people only experience sexual attraction in this way, and most 'paedophiles' as the term is commonly used might also have wives, partners, also abuse young people, the whole age range. As I said up thread, Saville is a classic example of an equal opportunity sex offender- but you wouldn't say he wasn't a paedophile, would you?

You don't have to meet some diagnostic definition of paedophilia by a psychiatrist to be called one in the press or by the public, and to stop labelling these people as such is crazy! You also don't have to be a diagnosed paedophile, technically, to be found guilty of child sex offences and go on the sex offenders register.

The DSM definition isn't actually how the law uses it or public opinion or the press.

The BBC's account did mention them being overwhelmed as new parents- I think that the fact they were paedophiles or child sex abusers is more relevant to mention, that's the opinion of the OP and saying 'this is such a horrible crime we can't repeat the details' makes it even more important to name exactly what they were.

…and I’m saying you can’t assume what they were and what motivated their acts

Anyahyacinth · 18/06/2026 18:41

Emilesgran · 18/06/2026 18:17

So a man who’s married but who rapes a prepubescent child is not a paedophile??
That seems hard to believe. Plenty of paedophiles seem to marry to get access to children (their own or from the woman’s previous relationship) - by your definition what are they then?

It’s not my definition and I’m simply saying we don’t know enough to apply the label ..which so many are desperate to do. What we do know is that they are murderers