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To think the BBC just mispresented baby Preston's killer (and in way that was favourable to the killer) ?

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lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:01

Really odd reporting on Baby Preston's killer just now on the one o'clock news. Despite the baby being sexually abused and indecent images of him taken and shared, the BBC presented him as a Dad who had found parenting really overwhelming and hard and had come to resent his baby.

Stressed out parents who can't cope with babies don't sexually abuse them because they are stressed. Or take indecent images of them because they are stressed.

The killer was a paedophile. That is why he abused that baby.

As his interest in having a child was to abuse it, not to care for it, it may also have been that he had no the tolerance for hard work of looking after a young child and that did overwhelm him which resulted in him physically assaulting the child.

It was such a bizarre narrative to present him as a man who had desperately wanted children but found parenting too hard and could not cope.

Instead of a paedophile.

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Three4 · 19/06/2026 08:09

Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 06:26

I’m not ‘better’, I just think it is odd

And you saying ‘coming to terms with it’ makes it sound like the case was something you were all personally involved with.

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You should really hide the thread then. You can’t just read all of the ‘drama’ and ‘horrific details’ and simultaneously claim you’re any different.

At least other people feel they have a legitimate reasons for posting but if you think it’s all just ghoulish nonsense and nobody should talk about this case, why stay?

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 19/06/2026 07:44

honeylulu · 18/06/2026 18:37

I understand what you are saying but the judge will have had a duty to consider all the evidence presented. The wording of the judge referring to the evidence that the Defendant (can't bring myself to type his name) struggled with parenthood shows that that was considered but not found to be a mitigating factor in the sentencing given the overwhelming evidence of protracted sexual and physical abuse.

Explaining that all evidence was considered is pretty important as it makes it much less likely that Defendant can appeal against the sentence on the basis that the judge did NOT appear to fully and objectively consider all the evidence. In doing so the judge was (in my opinion, I'm a solicitor) sending a very strong message that the whole life sentence must remain intact.

I don't know if that helps ...

This is helpful regarding the Judge.

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Glowingup · 19/06/2026 07:23

THisbackwithavengeance · 19/06/2026 07:12

The judge has to weigh up the evidence offered in mitigation or as a defence and presumably that will be reflected in the sentencing remarks.

I wasn’t at court and haven’t seen the evidence other than what the newspapers choose to print.

But yes, I would have thought it patently obvious that a man left largely on his own with a traumatised baby that is not biologically his would struggle to bond with the baby. I have no idea if the accused had ever displayed any sexual interest in children prior to this; would that not have been apparent from their phone or internet history?

However unpopular opinion, I don’t think gay couples should be able to adopt. I don’t understand why they would want to. And I wonder if this trial will create rule changes?

Why do you not understand why a gay couple would want to adopt children? Why can you understand a heterosexual couple wanting a family but not a gay one? And by gay do you mean only gay men or do you think gay women should be excluded too?

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 19/06/2026 07:21

NeoName · 18/06/2026 17:41

Their crimes are utterly horrendous - and all of the reporting I have seen on this case has said nothing different.

What is awful here is the OP using this as an excuse to try and push some kind of homophobic agenda and then opening the door to the racist agenda as well.

This has nothing to do with a male gay couple being allowed to adopt - and the underlying inference that somehow social workers overlooked red flags because the men were gay is nothing more than pure homophobia. The vetting process for adoption is intense but not perfect - and monsters don't announce their intentions and here's the shocker - look and sound just like normal people - the fact that one was a teacher added another level of perceived safety.

A child has been violated and killed - please remember that and don't use that for cheap political point scoring.

I have been clear this is about safeguarding fails. People fearing being homophobic, or fearing being accused of it, and therefore not applying safeguarding ( or reporting of the news) evenly.

Ironically, your post has evidenced my case.

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THisbackwithavengeance · 19/06/2026 07:12

The judge has to weigh up the evidence offered in mitigation or as a defence and presumably that will be reflected in the sentencing remarks.

I wasn’t at court and haven’t seen the evidence other than what the newspapers choose to print.

But yes, I would have thought it patently obvious that a man left largely on his own with a traumatised baby that is not biologically his would struggle to bond with the baby. I have no idea if the accused had ever displayed any sexual interest in children prior to this; would that not have been apparent from their phone or internet history?

However unpopular opinion, I don’t think gay couples should be able to adopt. I don’t understand why they would want to. And I wonder if this trial will create rule changes?

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 19/06/2026 07:10

Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 06:56

Better being desensitised and discussing facts than looking at things emotionally though in a legal situation

That’s not facts, it’s psychopathic levels of detachment that stop one from understanding what is happening in a human interaction. Being able to understand emotional dynamics is vital to understanding crimes like these.

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lyarlyarpantsonfire · 19/06/2026 07:07

Corvidsarethebest · 18/06/2026 17:13

I've also just read that the barrister for Vardey argued that his client was primarily sexually motivated- and so did not intend to kill. So, if his own barrister is arguing his intention was sexual and not to murder I'm pretty sure we could call him a paedophile on the national news and get away with it.

Well there we go.

I have not followed this case but this is not a surprise. The details on the radio yesterday made it perfectly clear these were men with a sexual interest with children, ( even whilst the report chose to skirt around this, the facts of sexual abuse, penetration and taking indecent images make this clear) yet here we have people on this thread thinking they are clever and objective because they are refusing to see this.

I have noticed this as a growing trend over decades. People who use their intelligence to argue themselves into unbelievable stances, and then thinking the fact they have an opinion which goes against ‘the common herd’ makes them clever. It doesn’t. Being able to draw obvious conclusions from clear evidence does.

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Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 06:56

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 19/06/2026 06:53

This smacks of the recent rape case with three teenage boys. A criminologist was talking about how the judge minimised the boys’ use of a knife and said he couldn’t see it on the video and it was only used to cut the girl’s leggings off. Any weapon introduced to the crime is there is cause alarm and fear regardless of how it is used. These judges are hugely desensitised I think.

Better being desensitised and discussing facts than looking at things emotionally though in a legal situation

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 19/06/2026 06:54

Kerry242 · 18/06/2026 15:59

To make sense of the judges remarks - remember men rape all the time and it doesn't mean they have a sexual interest in their victims. Straight men will rape other men just for power and control. They'll rape 90yr old pensioners. Men will rape a cat - without a long standing sexual interest in cats, or evidence of a catalogue of cat porn on their hard-drives.

This is how I interpreted the judge's understanding of the case - Jamie Varley became so enraged with the 'stress of parenting' and hated the child so much because of it - that he killed him through sexual violence (because he's a f-cking monster more than he is a pedophile or anything else)

Sexual violence is a form of violence but it doesn't always equate to a sexual interest in the victim.

It's a hard concept to grasp but it does exist. I can see what the judge was trying to say.

The fact that took indecent images of the baby rather blows this hypothesis out of the water.

That shows it was sexual.

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EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 19/06/2026 06:53

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:41

I really don't think it matters who made the comments. They were bloody outrageous. And patently wrong.

What's of interest is that (a) anyone in our institutions could make them ( B) our other institutions don't challenge them and (c) when they are raised on a chat forum there are individuals who do not condemn the comments but solely focus on quibbling on who precisely originated these comments. Not really the point, pretending a paedophile who acquired a child via state intervention was just an overwhelmed dad is the point.

This smacks of the recent rape case with three teenage boys. A criminologist was talking about how the judge minimised the boys’ use of a knife and said he couldn’t see it on the video and it was only used to cut the girl’s leggings off. Any weapon introduced to the crime is there is cause alarm and fear regardless of how it is used. These judges are hugely desensitised I think.

Kerry242 · 19/06/2026 06:52

Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 06:26

I’m not ‘better’, I just think it is odd

And you saying ‘coming to terms with it’ makes it sound like the case was something you were all personally involved with.

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Oh you're back - passing judgment on people being and contributing on this thread.....while you're being and contributing on the thread.

Everyone else is largely having a discussion about the judge and his comments and some genuinely interesting points have been raised - some by legal professionals explaining why certain things and terms can't be said. We're discussing, the media in the UK and their reporting. It's not a perfect discussion - people are angry, upset, disgusted, confused but they're here to talk about it. It's a powerful discussion, where people have likely left having learnt something about the judicial system and court reporting that they didn't know before.

And you're there slyly posting passive aggessive comments, implying we're all 'odd'. It kinda feels like you want to, I don't know - create drama......

Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 06:48

NeelyOHara · 19/06/2026 06:37

Not at all, for most people that followed the case, this will disturb them.
The same as so many things we see and read about in the news. Lots of those situations do not personally involve me, it doesn’t mean that they don’t sadden me or affect me, and that I don’t think about them.
Do you genuinely not understand this?

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I get hearing something on the news and feeling momentarily saddened but it’s hard to explain exactly why these threads feel off.

I think it’s the impression given by some that they know the facts better than anyone who was actually involved in the situation or the court case

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 19/06/2026 06:44

RestlessSnail · 18/06/2026 15:57

So, you've basically decided where the focus "should be" in advance of the review?

Are you actually interested in the facts/evidence?

Victoria Climbie's death was attributed to multiple failures and was not simply a "would have acted if they were white" issue. What even is the implication here? That they were worried about being seen as racist?

Not sure why you're posting in AIBU tbh because you seem much more interested in pushing your own opinion that listening to others' views.

Of course VB’s death was caused by multiple factors. One of those was the SW not acting as she admitted herself that she ignore things that would otherwise have caused her concern because she felt she had to put them down to ‘cultural issues’. So yes, my point is SW are not neutral, they are heavily politically influenced and in cases like the ones I quoted that has caused them to prioritize politically influenced thinking over basic safeguarding.

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NeelyOHara · 19/06/2026 06:37

Not at all, for most people that followed the case, this will disturb them.
The same as so many things we see and read about in the news. Lots of those situations do not personally involve me, it doesn’t mean that they don’t sadden me or affect me, and that I don’t think about them.
Do you genuinely not understand this?

Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 06:26

NeelyOHara · 19/06/2026 06:14

Why are you so much better than the other posters on here? Sneering at others offering thoughts and opinions, surely people are allowed to discuss this if it helps them come to terms and process it? As well as helping with future safeguarding.

I’m not ‘better’, I just think it is odd

And you saying ‘coming to terms with it’ makes it sound like the case was something you were all personally involved with.

NeelyOHara · 19/06/2026 06:14

Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 06:06

I didn’t claim it was an horrific case I couldn’t deal with .

This is a comment about all the threads about this situation.and how people are dissecting every part of the case and the reporting, offering their own ‘expertise” etc

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Why are you so much better than the other posters on here? Sneering at others offering thoughts and opinions, surely people are allowed to discuss this if it helps them come to terms and process it? As well as helping with future safeguarding.

Anarchy99 · 19/06/2026 06:06

Kerry242 · 18/06/2026 22:42

Yet here you both are - 9 pages in. You always had the option to scroll past a thread about the 'horrific case that you can't deal with'....but you chose to stop, read, observe what people were saying, sharing and linking and then comment multiple times....

I didn’t claim it was an horrific case I couldn’t deal with .

This is a comment about all the threads about this situation.and how people are dissecting every part of the case and the reporting, offering their own ‘expertise” etc

bittertwisted · 19/06/2026 02:26

it is a medical term for a diagnosed psychiatric disorder, it has no legal guidelines. These men commited horrific crimes against this poor boy, evil rape and torture. But they are not medically paedophiles. I’ve no doubt they took sadistic sexual pleasure in their horrific actions, but like it or not that doesn’t mean they have the label. I don’t believe btw in the it was all a bit tiring excuse either, they are just evil men obsessed with image and status, and poor Preston wasn’t the perfect little insta doll they expected

To think the BBC just mispresented baby Preston's killer (and in way that was favourable to the killer) ?
Valeriekat · 19/06/2026 01:43

JacquesHarlow · 18/06/2026 14:26

YABU for coming on here and telling us all about it, rather than the BBC.

Did you know the BBC have "Points of View" , a whole feedback show to help bring to light where the organisation has fallen short or needs to air feedback from viewers?

Here's the details @lyarlyarpantsonfire :

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/59gYTrS7mLvzn2r6D7m1PTc/contact-points-of-view

Finally, as a previous poster said, reported speech from a judge isn't a summary judgement by a newsreader.

The BBC aren't a content creator making reels for online as a statement of solidarity, or opinion. The content will reflect speech that was reported in the public domain by judge or others, and that's why you heard what you did.

YABU.

Yes and they always respond objectively and thoroughly...oh wait!

Maggiethecat · 19/06/2026 01:27

There is a clip of Varley hitting back against the police suggestion that he had killed the baby, telling them how wrong they were and how much trouble they would be in.

I can imagine that a junior social worker on the case may have been too intimidated to raise suspicions of wrongdoing even when there was enough evidence in front of them.

Maggiethecat · 19/06/2026 01:19

FlamingoFloss · 19/06/2026 00:49

I’ve just read the news report. I have no words. It’s one of the most horrific things I’ve ever read. How is anyone this evil? How do two such evil people find each other? If I could I would end both their lives.

the amount of opportunities to save this baby and yet no one did. Im mot blaming anyone else as there are only two people responsible but just how did this go unnoticed? How and why? There absolutely must have been suspicion.

i honestly despair. This poor little love ❤️

The judge referred to the likelihood of them escaping scrutiny because of how they presented, their charm etc

Jesus wept, surely this must be basic training for social workers, not to be affected by perceptions of respectability etc….

ReleaseTheDucksOfWar · 19/06/2026 01:14

lornad00m · 18/06/2026 15:29

'struggled with parenting contributed to the abuse'.

Most parents struggle with parenting. It doesn't make them abuse their children.

What the hell is going on with the judiciary in this country? They make comments like this about paedophiles. They're not giving custodial sentences to convicted rapists and guys who've been found with 1000's of indecent images of children. It's becoming a worrying pattern.

Maybe it requires some investigation.

What makes you think that it's getting worse? It's probably getting better.

The Old School Boy Network was truly riddled with paedophiles, and it's amazing how the Geoffrey Dickens dossier that vanished has been forgotten.

The ruling class of the UK should have been turned over and ruined on the basis of that dossier disappearing, alone.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Westminster_paedophile_dossier

FlamingoFloss · 19/06/2026 00:49

I’ve just read the news report. I have no words. It’s one of the most horrific things I’ve ever read. How is anyone this evil? How do two such evil people find each other? If I could I would end both their lives.

the amount of opportunities to save this baby and yet no one did. Im mot blaming anyone else as there are only two people responsible but just how did this go unnoticed? How and why? There absolutely must have been suspicion.

i honestly despair. This poor little love ❤️

SALaw · 19/06/2026 00:39

JacquesHarlow · 18/06/2026 14:26

YABU for coming on here and telling us all about it, rather than the BBC.

Did you know the BBC have "Points of View" , a whole feedback show to help bring to light where the organisation has fallen short or needs to air feedback from viewers?

Here's the details @lyarlyarpantsonfire :

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/59gYTrS7mLvzn2r6D7m1PTc/contact-points-of-view

Finally, as a previous poster said, reported speech from a judge isn't a summary judgement by a newsreader.

The BBC aren't a content creator making reels for online as a statement of solidarity, or opinion. The content will reflect speech that was reported in the public domain by judge or others, and that's why you heard what you did.

YABU.

Newswatch would be the better route than Points of View.

RedTagAlan · 19/06/2026 00:21

GingerdeadMan · 18/06/2026 17:36

Really?

Has Tim Davie resigning over the impartiality crisis at the BBC passed you by?

He resigned because they broke the rules. That's how it works. There are ofcom rules, and if they are broken there are repercussions.

Here are the rules.

Section five: Due impartiality and due accuracy (ofcom.org.uk)

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Section five: Due impartiality and due accuracy

This section of the Broadcasting Code relates to the concept of

https://www.ofcom.org.uk/tv-radio-and-on-demand/broadcast-standards/section-five-due-impartiality-accuracy