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To think the BBC just mispresented baby Preston's killer (and in way that was favourable to the killer) ?

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lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:01

Really odd reporting on Baby Preston's killer just now on the one o'clock news. Despite the baby being sexually abused and indecent images of him taken and shared, the BBC presented him as a Dad who had found parenting really overwhelming and hard and had come to resent his baby.

Stressed out parents who can't cope with babies don't sexually abuse them because they are stressed. Or take indecent images of them because they are stressed.

The killer was a paedophile. That is why he abused that baby.

As his interest in having a child was to abuse it, not to care for it, it may also have been that he had no the tolerance for hard work of looking after a young child and that did overwhelm him which resulted in him physically assaulting the child.

It was such a bizarre narrative to present him as a man who had desperately wanted children but found parenting too hard and could not cope.

Instead of a paedophile.

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sittingonabeach · 18/06/2026 14:50

These are the words of the judge I picked up from BBC News website

"You, Varley, were primarily responsible for the daytime care of Preston.
"Unfortunately Preston proved to be restless at night.
"Otherwise he was described as a dream to care for.
"I’m sure that your growing and selfish resentment towards Preston played a part in your treatment of Preston."

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:49

Flapjak · 18/06/2026 14:42

Isn't this type of reporting complicit in contributing to the system that enables abuse by looking the other way or victim blaming (as in the case of grooming gangs) if the narrative does not fit with 'progressive' agendas

Yes that is the concern. I used to work in social work and I remember reading a case in the professional magazine of a male gay couple who were found to be abusing boys in their care. The social worker admitted there were things that would have caused her concern if they had been a straight couple but which she did not act on as she did not want to be accusatory to a male gay couple.

In safeguarding the evidence has to be the evidence regardless of identity.

Everything points to these men being paedophiles who used the system to access a child and now the system appears to be refusing to name them as paedophiles.

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ChocolateApples · 18/06/2026 14:48

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:33

I didn't watch it, I heard it on the radio so it seems you heard different reporting.

What I heard was a man whose motivation was clearly sexual interest in children, not having that named and crap about him being desperate to be a Dad ( sure he was but to gain to sexual access to a child) who had then been overwhelmed by parenting.

Just found it on BBC Sounds. It's a very brief headline, but it's a bit different in tone. They say the his teaching, safeguarding training, desperation to be a dad was all a smokescreen. He very rapidly found that being a parent is a very difficult thing. The judge said a selfish resentment towards the baby fuelled the abuse.

So does seem a bit different from the TV stuff. Less talk of the sexual nature of the abuse. Although they did state it up front as a fact. It was only about 50s; really too short, but did seem a bit lacking. I guess part of it is that they want to report the new part which is the sentence and the judge's comments.

I don't know the full reasons behind why he did what he did, but I can believe that anger and resentment could make you hurt a child, but I thought there was more to it than that. It's the kind of thing it's pretty hard to get inside the head of someone like that.

randomchap · 18/06/2026 14:47

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:46

Truth does matters. Such as the truth that these men were paedophiles not overwhelmed dads.

I don't know what BBC you listen to but I have been listening to radio 4 news for 35 years, and I hear plenty of opinion and comments on it.

But in this case they were reporting on the judges comments, not making comments.

JacquesHarlow · 18/06/2026 14:47

We get this kind of non-nuanced debate as a direct result of people consuming most of their "news" on the phones as opinion pieces.

So many people expect to be "told", and judge any output accordingly.

I'm disengaging from this thread because it will just go the way these threads tend to go.

Good luck OP.

Springtimeinsunshine · 18/06/2026 14:46

mrsbowes · 18/06/2026 14:41

The difficulty for the judge was that the prosecution didn't present any evidence they were paedophiles or had a pre-existing sexual interest in children before the abuse/murder.

I have no idea if there was any, but the case presented in court was that Varley struggled with parenting and then was cruel and abusive to the baby.

I doubt the judge is able to make inferences about what their motivation was beyond what the prosecution actually presents.

Thank you, that makes sense.

Honeyhonay · 18/06/2026 14:46

Flapjak · 18/06/2026 14:42

Isn't this type of reporting complicit in contributing to the system that enables abuse by looking the other way or victim blaming (as in the case of grooming gangs) if the narrative does not fit with 'progressive' agendas

The type of reporting that is … reporting on what the ruling judge said after sitting through the whole trial and listening to all the evidence presented?

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:46

randomchap · 18/06/2026 14:43

Truth matters. The bbc didn't make the comments, they reported them. It would have been a massive failure for them not to report on them don't you think

Truth does matters. Such as the truth that these men were paedophiles not overwhelmed dads.

I don't know what BBC you listen to but I have been listening to radio 4 news for 35 years, and I hear plenty of opinion and comments on it.

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lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:44

mrsbowes · 18/06/2026 14:41

The difficulty for the judge was that the prosecution didn't present any evidence they were paedophiles or had a pre-existing sexual interest in children before the abuse/murder.

I have no idea if there was any, but the case presented in court was that Varley struggled with parenting and then was cruel and abusive to the baby.

I doubt the judge is able to make inferences about what their motivation was beyond what the prosecution actually presents.

Having sexually abused a child is evidence of paedophilia. They were found guilty of sexually abusing a baby. That is the evidence which they were found guilty of.

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randomchap · 18/06/2026 14:43

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:41

I really don't think it matters who made the comments. They were bloody outrageous. And patently wrong.

What's of interest is that (a) anyone in our institutions could make them ( B) our other institutions don't challenge them and (c) when they are raised on a chat forum there are individuals who do not condemn the comments but solely focus on quibbling on who precisely originated these comments. Not really the point, pretending a paedophile who acquired a child via state intervention was just an overwhelmed dad is the point.

Truth matters. The bbc didn't make the comments, they reported them. It would have been a massive failure for them not to report on them don't you think

Flapjak · 18/06/2026 14:42

Isn't this type of reporting complicit in contributing to the system that enables abuse by looking the other way or victim blaming (as in the case of grooming gangs) if the narrative does not fit with 'progressive' agendas

randomchap · 18/06/2026 14:41

LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 14:38

Don't patronise me. I see you and know your agenda.

No agenda apart from pointing out bullshit.

The bbc have a responsibility to report on things like that judges comments. They are not making the comments themselves.

mrsbowes · 18/06/2026 14:41

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:23

Oh was that the Judge's comments? Then he is an idiot too. I found those comments really disturbing. I suspect there is an unwillingness to name the motivation being paedophilia because he is gay. Safeguarding relies on not looking at ' identity' but looking at the evidence. No sacred castes.

The difficulty for the judge was that the prosecution didn't present any evidence they were paedophiles or had a pre-existing sexual interest in children before the abuse/murder.

I have no idea if there was any, but the case presented in court was that Varley struggled with parenting and then was cruel and abusive to the baby.

I doubt the judge is able to make inferences about what their motivation was beyond what the prosecution actually presents.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 18/06/2026 14:41

Haven't seen the reports but I'm quite shocked at this. Overwhelming might be used to provide motive in a case of neglect or maybe abandonment. It absolutely does not belong in the language around a paedophile. And yes I think this is because they are gay and already a minority. A straight man would never be described that way. From what I know (thankfully very little) many abusive paedophiles are former victims of sexual assault or domestic violence or emotional abuse. It's never offered as a justification. Usually they are described as 'monsters' or 'evil' with no sympathetic element at all.

Mysteise · 18/06/2026 14:41

I understand what you are saying OP and totally agree. It has been reported that way in a few other news outlets too. Extremely strange and bizarre.

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:41

randomchap · 18/06/2026 14:37

They were reporting on the judges comments. Not making the comments themselves. Do you see the difference?

I really don't think it matters who made the comments. They were bloody outrageous. And patently wrong.

What's of interest is that (a) anyone in our institutions could make them ( B) our other institutions don't challenge them and (c) when they are raised on a chat forum there are individuals who do not condemn the comments but solely focus on quibbling on who precisely originated these comments. Not really the point, pretending a paedophile who acquired a child via state intervention was just an overwhelmed dad is the point.

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RedTagAlan · 18/06/2026 14:40

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:30

That's not quite true is it? The BBC often have commentators offering opinions. One that questioned these rather odd comments by the Judge could have been found.

Refusing to name a paedophile as a paedophile and instead presenting him as an overwhelmed man who had desperately wanted to be a Father but couldn't cope is clear and utter bollocks. And it should be challenged.

BTW you see, to have failed to understand that this is a chat forum. People come here to chat. About whatever they want.

They were reporting what the Judge said.

UK broadcast news has strict rules on impartiality. Likes of YouTube does not. If it's a mix of opinion and news you want it is Youtube channels you need. For factual reporting to strict rules, then BBC etc.

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LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 14:38

randomchap · 18/06/2026 14:37

They were reporting on the judges comments. Not making the comments themselves. Do you see the difference?

Don't patronise me. I see you and know your agenda.

randomchap · 18/06/2026 14:37

LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 14:36

No, the OP is using it as an outrageous, if not unexpected example of how the BBC will fall over themselves to say something-anything- to try and excuse the behaviour of certain groups of which homosexuals are one.

You seem to be confused @randomchap or more likely, you agree with the shite BBC news team. I think you will find that not many "random women" will come on here to defend any defending of this murderous pair; apart from the truly captured.

They were reporting on the judges comments. Not making the comments themselves. Do you see the difference?

LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 14:36

randomchap · 18/06/2026 14:30

Are you using this horrific case to attack the bbc?

No, the OP is using it as an outrageous, if not unexpected example of how the BBC will fall over themselves to say something-anything- to try and excuse the behaviour of certain groups of which homosexuals are one.

You seem to be confused @randomchap or more likely, you agree with the shite BBC news team. I think you will find that not many "random women" will come on here to defend any defending of this murderous pair; apart from the truly captured.

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:33

ChocolateApples · 18/06/2026 14:30

I just watched it. The only comment I saw from the judge was what the sentencing was. And the general reporting was that the men had carried out appalling abuse. The only small 'excusing' was them reporting the partner saying they'd struggled thinking of what Preston had been through. But the overall tone was, rightly, condemnation. What did you hear?

I have seen elsewhere that one or both had struggled with the demands of a baby. I can believe that as it's perfectly normal for new parents. But that's a totally separate thing from the abuse they meted out.

I didn't watch it, I heard it on the radio so it seems you heard different reporting.

What I heard was a man whose motivation was clearly sexual interest in children, not having that named and crap about him being desperate to be a Dad ( sure he was but to gain to sexual access to a child) who had then been overwhelmed by parenting.

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Newsenmum · 18/06/2026 14:32

Funny how they had to look after the baby they were abusing. And how difficult that was. Absolutely sickening.

LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 14:31

If they had been two straight men, members of Restore Britain or Reform, you wouldn't have heard a word about any "overwhelming" and of that you can be sure.

Newsenmum · 18/06/2026 14:30

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:01

Really odd reporting on Baby Preston's killer just now on the one o'clock news. Despite the baby being sexually abused and indecent images of him taken and shared, the BBC presented him as a Dad who had found parenting really overwhelming and hard and had come to resent his baby.

Stressed out parents who can't cope with babies don't sexually abuse them because they are stressed. Or take indecent images of them because they are stressed.

The killer was a paedophile. That is why he abused that baby.

As his interest in having a child was to abuse it, not to care for it, it may also have been that he had no the tolerance for hard work of looking after a young child and that did overwhelm him which resulted in him physically assaulting the child.

It was such a bizarre narrative to present him as a man who had desperately wanted children but found parenting too hard and could not cope.

Instead of a paedophile.

I mean yeah, that‘s weird and distressing.