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Question for the 'mellow yellow' folk

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Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 18/06/2026 10:13

I'm well aware that I am going to sound like piss troll but a quick search of my history should prove otherwise!

I'm on holiday with inlaws, I have a tendency to get irritable when I'm forced into close quarters with others so am after an honest reality check from you all.

MN has taught me that lots of people don't flush their pee every time, especially overnight, for environmental reasons or because of noisy plumbing. Cool, I don't leave mine but I understand why people do.

AIBU to think that even if it's your normal family practice not to, you might flush more often when;

  1. staying with other people who you are not as close to (i.e. not related by blood, have not shared a home before and in one case not met before)
  2. bathrooms are absolutely tiny and anyone entering after you is going to have to manoeuvre around the toilet in order to flush after you so they can use it
  3. you are unwell and your pee looks like tea and reeks

AIBU to also think that the lid should be closed on unflushed pee, so as not to let the smell fill the room?

We are all jetlagged so up and down at all hours of the night and I'm getting very sick of being confronted by the sights and smells of other people's piss, but happy to be told if I'm being precious.

Other possibly relevant info - I am the only woman.

OP posts:
Bobloblawww · 18/06/2026 10:22

In all honesty if you are this close to other peoples piss you probably needed larger accomodation.

sprigatito · 18/06/2026 10:20

I would not stay in a house where there was a “no flushing at night” rule. Not only is it disgusting, it’s inhospitable. People who are so brittle that they can’t tolerate a guest using the toilet at night freak me out.

minipie · 18/06/2026 10:17

Hmm. My top priority is quiet at night as I’m a very light sleeper so personally I would be more bothered by people flushing than the sight and smell of wee.

In the day it’s a totally different story, no reason to leave it unflushed at all.

Buscobel · 18/06/2026 10:17

It’s always going to be difficult when you’re at close quarters with people other than immediate family, but I think that any toilet visit should always be followed by a flush with the lid closed, whatever time of day or night.

I’d prefer the brief awakening from a flush, to the sight and smell of festering pee.