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No point in coming on holiday with children under 5

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choccakeE · 18/06/2026 10:11

I’m in Mallorca, paid £4.5k for my DH, me, 3 year old and 9 month old 4* hotel.

3 year old recently turned 3 and has this thing now about shouting/whinging about EVERYTHING. She rarely talks normally.

This morning we had breakfast, straight to the pool, screaming because I wasn’t being fast enough getting her swimsuit on, screaming because I was putting suncream on her then we get in the pool and she’s moaning and whinging that I’m not holding her properly or for whatever other reason like when she jumped in but didn’t warn me and her foot missed my face by a couple of cm.

9 month old is fine, happy playing with toys on sunbed, sleeping a lot etc.

but I don’t think I can do this again for another few years where she might actually stop moaning constantly (I know some is to be expected).

I honestly would rather just be at home right now, spent all of this money and I’m sick with envy at all these women laying by the pool with their kindles (light hearted, used to be me before I thought 2 kids would be a fab idea 🥴).

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MidnightPatrol · 18/06/2026 10:22

I’ve never had any issues travelling with young kids tbh - although mine were never whingers.

How are you tackling the whingeing and complaining at home?

There’s not much relaxing… but it can be fun to be doing different things in a different place.

Turtlestarfish · 18/06/2026 10:20

I think it’s harder in your situation because your DH is unwell so you’re solo parenting. If he was well, presumably you would take it in turns with the 3 year old so the other can have a bit of a break whilst the baby naps. I always try and think, I would be better dealing with kids anyway so I’d rather be doing it with nice weather and not having to cook and clean! Hope your DH feels better soon so you can catch a break.

Wishimaywishimight · 18/06/2026 10:18

I don't think anyone will argue with you OP, it sounds shit!

I hope your DH feels better soon (my sister gets horrific migraines so I have every sympathy for him).

I think you are right though, all that money for a holiday none of you (apart from the baby!) are enjoying, I would be upset too.

Overthebow · 18/06/2026 10:17

Yes I don’t think hotels like that are great for holidays with very young kids. We’ve mainly been doing holiday cottages and places like centre parks, we’re waiting until DCs are a bit older to go the all inclusive abroad holidays.

Bristolandlazy · 18/06/2026 10:17

Oh no bad luck, what a shame. I hope your husband feels better soon and can take or help you more.

choccakeE · 18/06/2026 10:15

Think this will be the plan from now on @DoubleTea

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DoubleTea · 18/06/2026 10:15

Oh no, hope your husband is better soon.

I found a different style of holiday worked better for those years- rent a cottage and potter about doing low key things like farm trips and English seaside. Cheaper too.

choccakeE · 18/06/2026 10:13

Oh and DH has been stuck in the hotel room vomiting with migraine since we got here yesterday so solo parenting right now.

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