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AIBU to think these expectations of a charity shop manager are unfair?

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SorcererGaheris · 18/06/2026 07:55

In the last year or so, the charity associated with the shop I volunteer in has become much more stringent on the issue of the shop remaining open all the time, even when staff shortages make this difficult or impossible without our manager giving up her time off to come in and cover without extra pay.

Our shop has a paid (FT) manager and a paid (PT) deputy manager. The rest of the staff are all volunteers.

Neither of the managers work on the Sunday, so the shop is staffed entirely by volunteers on that day. It's the only full day off that our manager gets, as her working hours cover the other six days.

In the past, if not enough of the Sunday volunteers could come, the shop just wouldn't open that time. But according to what our manager says, she is now being told that if a suitable number of the volunteers cannot show up on Sunday, she needs to come in herself to provide cover, if other members of staff can't/won't. The (non-Sunday) volunteers are usually unable or unwilling to work on a Sunday, so it ends up falling to our manager.

This Sunday, for example - two of the (four Sunday) volunteers are unable to be there. I can be there, but our fourth Sunday volunteer does not arrive until between 1-1.30 pm. The shop opens shortly after 11 and health and safety rules dictate that staff are not allowed to be alone in the shop when it's open to the public. The manager has been told that she is expected to come in and cover.

I am 100% sure that she will not be paid for these additional hours; from what has been said, it's typically expected that additional cover is done unpaid. I think the charity works around it by offering time off in lieu, so as not to be in conflict with the law, but due to the complexity of rota staffing when the majority of staff are volunteers (and thus can have as much time off as they want, for any reason) I think our manager finds it quite tricky to take all of her leave.

If the above was just a one-off, I don't think it would matter, but whilst those of us who volunteer on Sunday do our best to be there as much as possible, there are times when other things conflict and take precedence. Last Sunday, I myself did not come in because my mother and I were looking after my nephews for the day. One of my colleagues has a partner with fragile health and she sometimes has to arrange for him to go to the hospital at short notice. So there are times when, for a multitude of reasons, not enough of us can show up at the same time to ensure that the shop is adequately covered throughout the day.

In the past, it was just accepted that the shop would not open for that day if enough of us could not make it. But like I say, in recent times, the charity has become less understanding/tolerant of this and are more or less insisting that our manager come in to provide the cover instead.

My view is that - given the majority of staff are volunteers, with the freedom to have time off whenever - that expecting the shop to always remain open isn't realistic or fair. We're not a 'typical' retail business in that respect, because most of us are unpaid.

Considering that the only day off our manager gets is the Sunday, I think it is unfair to expect/demand that she always cover, especially for no pay.

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ClaredeBear · 18/06/2026 10:49

The toil system works well and is standard all over the charity and non-profit sector. Employees must be organised and take their toil back. Many roles require evening and weekend hours as much of the work is volunteer and community led, so flexibility outside of school and work hours is really important. I make sure all of my staff take their toil - but it does require reasonable organisation skills in the same way one must be organised and book their leave.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/06/2026 10:42

Gabitule · 18/06/2026 08:17

They need to recruit more volunteers.

A lot of charity shops are short of volunteers. At least one local one won’t accept any more donations ATM because (dh was told yesterday) of lack of staff.

I do wonder why some of those 1m workless young people don’t volunteer for a couple of days a week. OK, they wouldn’t be paid, but it’d look good on their CV and at least show that they can turn up on time and do something useful.

Viviennemary · 18/06/2026 10:34

I think its an absulute cheek when unpaid volunteers are subjected to this kind of pressure. Its up to the paid manager to negotiate her contract with the charity managers and not for volunteers to be fretting over this. But the managers sound very unreasonable. More volunteers are needed for Sundays.

AgentPidge · 18/06/2026 10:24

Can't they close on a Sunday? All the small shops are closed Sundays locally to me, apart from the big chains, coffee shops etc.

Gymnopedie · 18/06/2026 10:23

Costs have gone up for charities so staying open those extra hours may mean the difference between breaking even and making a loss.

But if that's the case then you have to ask if charity shops have any purpose. They started because it was a way to raise extra revenue. With the added bonus that it allowed people with little money to kit out their families.

The first idea is no longer working and the second idea has gone by the board, as in an effort to remain profitable the prices have gone up to a point where they are out of reach of the people it was supposed to help.

So apart from potentially allowing some clothing not to go to landfill, what is the point of charity shops now?

katepilar · 18/06/2026 10:16

Interesting to read for me. Where I am from /Europe/ lots of shops only have one member of staff/owner working. They close for ther lunch break or to run errands. They wouldnt be able to run at all if they had to have two people or manager on site at all times.

Is this a usual set up in the UK what OP describes?

allmycats · 18/06/2026 10:09

It looks like the manager needs to learn how to manage a rota between them and the deputy. Not rocket science

ScurryfungeSpuddle · 18/06/2026 10:07

Ethelspagetti · 18/06/2026 09:12

If the manager is 67 I’m sure she could retire? She shouldn’t be working 7 days a week especially at her age. Obviously it makes sense to close on Sundays or one day mid week.

It would be really interesting if you could list the reasons that make you so sure?

Mousespoons · 18/06/2026 10:03

Is it oxfam?

I have a friend in a very similar situation (charity shop manager) lots of pressure and barely ever gets a day off. They are all about human rights, but not their own staff it seems.

Tonissister · 18/06/2026 10:00

plominoagain · 18/06/2026 09:48

My mother was an assistant manager at a charity shop , until they made her redundant at 74 (They wanted to make her retire when it closed , but she refused )

At first she would cover every so often to help out, unpaid , but suddenly it became every week , and an expectation , rather than a grateful acknowledgement . When she stopped giving up every weekend , they tried everything to make her continue , until she pointed out that what they would be doing is committing wage theft , and that she had also spoken to other managers across the area , who were being pressured into doing the same . And what a pity it would be if the charity were to be investigated by HMRC , because the penalties can be ruinous ( my brother worked for HMRC at the time)

Suddenly they stopped asking .

What a wonderful woman.

gamerchick · 18/06/2026 09:58

Welldoya · 18/06/2026 09:18

You posted about this exact issue months ago @SorcererGaheris , with the added detail that your manager doesn’t even get paid for working Sundays

basically - I think your manager is feeding you a load of garbage

Pulls on the old heartstrings. Probably works as well.

gamerchick · 18/06/2026 09:55

Secretseverywhere · 18/06/2026 08:37

I think it’s getting harder to recruit volunteers for charity shops nowadays. I think there used to be the perception (rightly or wrongly) that charity shops also existed to help the communities they were in by offering cheap goods for those that need them. Seems much more profit driven but by charging higher prices do you alienate the locals who provide your free labour? I suspect there is a balancing act in there somewhere.

I live somewhere very community minded and there are lots of willing volunteers but there’s also loads of opportunities to do stuff which are flexible or adhoc.

Well that's what we're told on here. Charity shops aren't for the needy and there to make a profit for the charity.

So these people can pay their staff to work.

This is your manager's job to sort. One of them will have to change their shift patterns. It's not the volunteers problem and frankly charities take the piss out of their volunteers. I'll never do it again.

JoshLymanSwagger · 18/06/2026 09:53

SorcererGaheris · 18/06/2026 08:47

@JoshLymanSwagger

The problem is, those above our manager are telling her that the shop must not be closed at all during the week. The opening hours stretch over 7 days and to them, that's that.

I suspect the manager feels that it would be very difficult to get a different job at her age (she is 67.)

Then she's an absolute fool to work those hours at that age.

She needs to tell them the hours/days she is working - and quote the 48hr working directive.

She cannot be expected to LIVE there.

I also would encourage her to name and shame the "charity" on SM or to the local press.

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 18/06/2026 09:50

The Manager (OP?) needs to be firm & refuse.
I regularly hunt in charity shops, & it's rare for them to open on Sundays.

plominoagain · 18/06/2026 09:48

My mother was an assistant manager at a charity shop , until they made her redundant at 74 (They wanted to make her retire when it closed , but she refused )

At first she would cover every so often to help out, unpaid , but suddenly it became every week , and an expectation , rather than a grateful acknowledgement . When she stopped giving up every weekend , they tried everything to make her continue , until she pointed out that what they would be doing is committing wage theft , and that she had also spoken to other managers across the area , who were being pressured into doing the same . And what a pity it would be if the charity were to be investigated by HMRC , because the penalties can be ruinous ( my brother worked for HMRC at the time)

Suddenly they stopped asking .

thelongesday · 18/06/2026 09:47

These charities don't care about people all they care about is money.

Charities get an 80% discount on business rates, it's why so many charity shops are still going while everything else is closing down.

zingally · 18/06/2026 09:33

The manager is being a wet lettuce. Probably being bullied into it under the whole "but it's charityyyyy!" whine.

Here and the deputy manager need to come up with a rota to cover Sundays between themselves. But there should always be at least one paid member of staff on the premises at all times. Expecting volunteers to be responsible for opening and closing, just them, is not okay.

Really though, the manager needs to be looking for a better job, or standing up for herself a bit more.

Elbreth · 18/06/2026 09:33

Another had shocking food safety because they were completely inclusive.
I don't understand this @ViciousCurrentBun? Because they were employing people who couldn't understand food safety? Or something else?

ViciousCurrentBun · 18/06/2026 09:20

It’s very hard to get good volunteers. I would never offer to run the shop without FT staff there. I left one place because they had poor safeguarding. I reported this. Another had shocking food safety because they were completely inclusive.

As a volunteer you can walk away, look at all the posts about colleagues who are a PITA but you are stuck with ‘Sue’ because you need to pay the bills. When it’s voluntary you can just walk. it also depends on the ethos of a charity. Some will take anyone, others will not so some of your colleagues are very interesting.

Charity shop managers earn very little and I think for retail it’s harder than a regular shop. No idea what your stock will be, underpaid, taking staff you wojkd rather not.

Lots of charity shops are shutting, it’s business rates and utilities plus so many people sell on vinted now the quality of donations has gone down. That’s why they are pressurising your manager,

Welldoya · 18/06/2026 09:18

You posted about this exact issue months ago @SorcererGaheris , with the added detail that your manager doesn’t even get paid for working Sundays

basically - I think your manager is feeding you a load of garbage

DysonHoover · 18/06/2026 09:17

My DD is a deputy manager - clearly not the same charity as their shops don't open Sundays. Either her or the store manager have to be present during all opening hours, which I assumed was normal for all charities.

GreatOffWhiteFalcon · 18/06/2026 09:16

SorcererGaheris · 18/06/2026 08:47

@JoshLymanSwagger

The problem is, those above our manager are telling her that the shop must not be closed at all during the week. The opening hours stretch over 7 days and to them, that's that.

I suspect the manager feels that it would be very difficult to get a different job at her age (she is 67.)

It seems that the charity is treating her badly. I'd suggest that she goes to Citizens Advice to find out what her rights are and get some help with (hopefully) finding a resolution. If her paid colleague is having similar problems they could go together.

JohnnyFedora · 18/06/2026 09:15

agree with PP that managers can just change their days and each do one weekend.... or leave.

JohnnyFedora · 18/06/2026 09:14

what do they do if only one volunteer can come, or none?

Welldoya · 18/06/2026 09:14

Ethelspagetti · 18/06/2026 09:12

If the manager is 67 I’m sure she could retire? She shouldn’t be working 7 days a week especially at her age. Obviously it makes sense to close on Sundays or one day mid week.

You have zero idea of her financial circumstances