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AIBU to quit coaching because of difficult and aggressive parents?

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StressedOutFedUp · 18/06/2026 07:28

A couple of years ago I trained up to teach children a particular sport. I was really passionate about it, and thought I would really enjoy it. I don't do it FT and I WFH in another job.

The children are mostly really nice, but it is the parents that are the problem. I have never experienced such vitriol in my life. I have had 6ft + dads blocking my way demanding to know when their DC is going to be doing this and that, and personally blame me when their DC aren't selected for certain things.

Last week I had one dad corner me because his child was not progressing as much as he wanted. The truth was that this child is not interested, comes up with every excuse in the book not to participate (sore ear, sore toe, sore tummy) and opts out of the tasks I give them. I am constantly threatened with "I'll pull my DC out if you don't....."

The people running it can only do so much. They get it too.

The parents get very upset if they see another child progress in the lesson. It's like a competition and they are missing out. I'm sorry, but some children are really good at sport, and others are good at art, music or drama. You can't force it.

I have to go there tomorrow and I am just dreading it. I think I have sunk cost fallacy. I spent a lot of money training up, and I don't usually quit. However, I am not enjoying it, feel really stressed out waiting for the next aggressive outburst and I now feel unmotivated. I used to put so much effort into preparing for it, and now I feel why should I bother.

I feel my options are quit or stay and be miserable, but wonder if others who coach/ teach DC can offer me another solution.

AIBU to quit?

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itsgettingweird · 18/06/2026 07:41

You don’t need to quit teaching the sport.

you need to find a club that is extremely good at not tolerating this bullshit.

Why aren’t parents being sent letters reminding them of the clubs constitution - why aren’t penalties being handed out like suspension etc.

This happens when it’s allowed to. I mean it shouldn’t happen in the first place - but if/when it does it should be zero tolerance.

Heronwatcher · 18/06/2026 07:41

Quitting the whole thing seems a bit of a shame. For you and the other kids. Is there nothing you can do to weed out the problem parents? Ideally with the support of the organisation you work with or the sporting body- most have codes of conduct. Could you ban those parents from the training and make them wait in the car/ outside (maybe after a warning).

Have you been able to follow up the issue with those intimidating parents at all?

YANBU to be shocked at the behaviour though.

Gateappreciation · 18/06/2026 07:40

I would end this coaching group during the summer, and see if you can find a similar role with another organisation. Sounds like you lucked out with this group of parents.

Londonrach1 · 18/06/2026 07:39

Ban the kids of aggressive parents. Are you a volunteer As they should be grateful you give your time. yanbu. If this isn't working out resign and let the parents know why you have resigned.

TheHateUGive · 18/06/2026 07:37

Yeah my brother bans annoying parents from his football team. Pretty sure parents arent allowed to watch training or anything.

Neolara · 18/06/2026 07:36

If you otherwise enjoy it, could you just ban kids with aggressive parents. One strike and your out sort of thing. You'd probably only need to ban one or two and people would get the message (or maybe that's just wishful thinking).

AppleKatie · 18/06/2026 07:35

i hear you, I don’t teach sport but another competitive area and parents are genuinely the worst. The narcissism is something else!

AlbertaGeorgia · 18/06/2026 07:32

No you’re not unreasonable. You’re not enjoying it, and I presume don’t need the money (if you’re being paid at all). Life is too short to dread doing something that you don’t have to do.

cherrytree12345 · 18/06/2026 07:32

I would resign and if you have a WhatsApp group/ facebook page etc which includes the parents I would say why - without naming anyone. Maybe give them something to think about

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