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Furious with DH’s new England flag

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Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:03

NC’d for this. About half the houses on our street put flags up during the big football tournaments. DH put one up with his teams badge on at the weekend, and took delivery of a new flag today. He’s proudly displayed this - it’s a St George’s cross with ‘In Farage We Trust’ printed across the middle 😫

I’ve told him to take it down and that the neighbours will judge but he’s standing firm. Would it be wrong of me to tear it down myself?!

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Pistachiocake · 17/06/2026 17:52

saveforthat · 17/06/2026 17:22

Jesus all these racist accusations flying around. I actually believe that @JuliaMaesa may be joking here but not all Farage supporters are racists.

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A lot of the Reform voters seem to want Zia Yusuf as PM, from posts I've seen, so if you take racist to mean only wanting white people in the UK, agreed. And no, I'm not a Reform voter, but the only people I know who say they're voting Reform are minority ethnic.
I don't put flags up myself, but it's only very recently that some people seem to think of it as problematic (yes, OP, your flag is a new one, but I mean that I don't remember anyone complaining, or thinking I should be offended, by the normal England flag).

Dweetfidilove · 17/06/2026 17:51

Leave it up so the neighbours can judge him accurately. Why do you want him to hide who he is?

Locutus2000 · 17/06/2026 17:50

Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:40

No it’s not a case of opposing other flags. He said it will ‘get all the right people frothing’ so he knows it will wind some neighbours up.

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I'm afraid your husband is a child.

BridportMarket · 17/06/2026 17:48

Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:40

No it’s not a case of opposing other flags. He said it will ‘get all the right people frothing’ so he knows it will wind some neighbours up.

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You seem to find yourself married to a man who spends time and money putting up flags in order to make your neighbours 'froth'.

He's a total nobber I'm afraid.

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 17/06/2026 17:47

Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:40

No it’s not a case of opposing other flags. He said it will ‘get all the right people frothing’ so he knows it will wind some neighbours up.

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🙄🙄 fucking hell tell him to do some online trolling if he insists on being like that, that way you’re not implicated. Was there some kind of mix up when you married him? Did they send a 16 year old boy to the ceremony instead?

My uncle has recently gone a bit mad like this, he’s got divorced and spent too much time online and now he’s unbearable to be around so you have my sympathies. I’d strongly consider leaving him since he sounds like a fucking muppet, but I know that’s not always an option.

Eideann · 17/06/2026 17:47

saveforthat · 17/06/2026 17:37

I know you will say that racism is the worst crime anyone could ever commit but I'm sure most voters ignore bits of policies they don't agree with. Like the Greens supporting assaults on the police. I wouldn't vote Reform by the way and don't like Farage, just sick of the holier than thou attitudes on mumsnet about some political parties.

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I really cannot think of anything more abhorrent than racism @saveforthat

but then I may very well be holier than thou...not, perhaps educated?

Londonwelshie · 17/06/2026 17:46

Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:40

No it’s not a case of opposing other flags. He said it will ‘get all the right people frothing’ so he knows it will wind some neighbours up.

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And what neighbours are those? Immigrants by any chance?

Either way, his desire to wind up his neighbours is not very neighbourly... and you will be judged the same as him by your neighbours.

LaMarschallin · 17/06/2026 17:45

Happyjoe · 17/06/2026 17:44

Cut it up into a hundred bits, burn it, bury the ashes. Hopefully that would work for Farage too, he's one of satan's spawn.

Tbf, that would work even if he wasn't Satan's spawn.

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Happyjoe · 17/06/2026 17:44

Cut it up into a hundred bits, burn it, bury the ashes. Hopefully that would work for Farage too, he's one of satan's spawn.

tommyhoundmum · 17/06/2026 17:42

Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:06

No I had no idea, he’s clearly taken inspiration from a house two down who have a similar flag with political messaging although not that party.

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Paint over it.

Esmeraldathe3rd · 17/06/2026 17:42

Displaying flags of the teams you support is absolutely not the issue. Displaying flags with racist or political messages is the issue.

And it's also ruining the flag for non racists. Like "the gays" taking the rainbow or the Nazis taking the swastika

gingeristhenewblack43 · 17/06/2026 17:41

TheShed7 · 17/06/2026 17:08

Farage is a terrible football manager. All his attacks go down the right hand side.

😂😂😂😂 hilarious!

HelpMeGetThrough · 17/06/2026 17:40

FruAashild · 17/06/2026 17:37

We currently have two Scottish flaģs, one English flag and one Brazilian flag on display to reflect the countries we were all born in. We also have flags of the world bunting up. Don't want anyone thinking for a second we might be racist. I'm in a town cover in St George's cross thanks to the Farage supporters. There's a few houses with flags of the world bunting that has just been put up for the world cup, never seen it before but clearly we've all had the same idea.

Does the Scottish flag say “In Murrell We Trust”?

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Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:40

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 17/06/2026 17:38

Is he doing this to aggregate the other neighbours with political flags? Like is theirs one that says refugees welcome or something? Doesn’t make a real difference I’m just curious.

DH has covered our house in Scotland flags and I’m going to be 100% honest, I think it looks chavy no matter what flag it is but at the end of the day it’s for the kids and him having a bit of fun. If he’d done something like that though.. he’d be in for the fucking bollocking of a lifetime. He’s making you look like a mug.

No it’s not a case of opposing other flags. He said it will ‘get all the right people frothing’ so he knows it will wind some neighbours up.

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 17/06/2026 17:39

I’d set fire to it

Esmeraldathe3rd · 17/06/2026 17:39

Ew no it might as well say "I'm a racist idiot". You're also making yourself a target for anyone that doesn't agree. You don't plaster your political opinions on your house, how stupid.

Gettingaggy · 17/06/2026 17:39

Well you must have already known he was a Farage supporter?

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 17/06/2026 17:38

Is he doing this to aggregate the other neighbours with political flags? Like is theirs one that says refugees welcome or something? Doesn’t make a real difference I’m just curious.

DH has covered our house in Scotland flags and I’m going to be 100% honest, I think it looks chavy no matter what flag it is but at the end of the day it’s for the kids and him having a bit of fun. If he’d done something like that though.. he’d be in for the fucking bollocking of a lifetime. He’s making you look like a mug.

watchingthishtread · 17/06/2026 17:37

The flag is the least of your problems. The man who chose to buy the flag is the bigger problem.

FruAashild · 17/06/2026 17:37

We currently have two Scottish flaģs, one English flag and one Brazilian flag on display to reflect the countries we were all born in. We also have flags of the world bunting up. Don't want anyone thinking for a second we might be racist. I'm in a town cover in St George's cross thanks to the Farage supporters. There's a few houses with flags of the world bunting that has just been put up for the world cup, never seen it before but clearly we've all had the same idea.

saveforthat · 17/06/2026 17:37

Eideann · 17/06/2026 17:31

"not all Farage supporters are racist"

because they selectively choose to ignore the "little bit" of policy they don't necessarily agree with?

Choosing your political affiliations are not binary but it certainly is a reflection of cognitive bias.

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I know you will say that racism is the worst crime anyone could ever commit but I'm sure most voters ignore bits of policies they don't agree with. Like the Greens supporting assaults on the police. I wouldn't vote Reform by the way and don't like Farage, just sick of the holier than thou attitudes on mumsnet about some political parties.

Blueplant · 17/06/2026 17:35

What in the world?

Surely a true patriot with respect for the flag wouldn't dream of defacing it with political slogans?

Regardless, I couldn't live in that house. Seruously. I'd never want to go there again.

You must have known he held these views though? Was it Ok as long as no one else knew?

HelpMeGetThrough · 17/06/2026 17:35

Lndnmummy · 17/06/2026 17:18

Is this the first time you realised you're married to a racist? Or have you always known and been comfortable about it as it has, until now, been kept behind close doors? Are you more worried about your neighbours knowing you are racist, than actually being married to a racist?

If you lived on my street, you and your family would be shunned.

Being shunned by neighbours is a bonus. Lovely quiet life then.

DoneAndNotDusted · 17/06/2026 17:34

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I don't think @JuliaMaesa was being serious....