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Furious with DH’s new England flag

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Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:03

NC’d for this. About half the houses on our street put flags up during the big football tournaments. DH put one up with his teams badge on at the weekend, and took delivery of a new flag today. He’s proudly displayed this - it’s a St George’s cross with ‘In Farage We Trust’ printed across the middle 😫

I’ve told him to take it down and that the neighbours will judge but he’s standing firm. Would it be wrong of me to tear it down myself?!

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ApplesAreNotRaspberries · 17/06/2026 23:15

Why on earth was my reply deleted? I explained why farage supporters were racist. Surely that is so obvious that it can't be very controversial?

IAmBeaIDrinkTea · 17/06/2026 22:56

SpaceRaccoon · 17/06/2026 22:51

I'm sorry OP but I laughed out loud reading that 😂

Same 😁
Just too ridiculous 😁

IAmBeaIDrinkTea · 17/06/2026 22:55

Lol
(For avoidance of doubt, and just in case you're genuine, YANBU to tear it down yourself.
Your DH sounds like a dick 😁

SpaceRaccoon · 17/06/2026 22:51

I'm sorry OP but I laughed out loud reading that 😂

Skinnysaluki · 17/06/2026 22:51

saveforthat · 17/06/2026 17:22

Jesus all these racist accusations flying around. I actually believe that @JuliaMaesa may be joking here but not all Farage supporters are racists.

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That’s a bold claim! What else could have attracted them to the massive racist leading the racist party?

Shesafancyflapjack · 17/06/2026 22:46

What exactly is your AIBU? I have googled the flag and it doesn’t seem to exist so he must have added the text himself. I think you may have jumped the shark with him saying ‘woke lefties’ as it’s pretty dated and you’ve made him sound a right twat which is a strange thing to do to someone your meant to love.

SeriousFaffing · 17/06/2026 21:29

2dogsandabudgie · 17/06/2026 18:21

Well it's certainly got people on here frothing. Some of the comments are hilarious. Ooh the outrage over a flag.

OP in the real world I doubt anyone will take any notice.

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@2dogsandabudgie

I imagine people are furious at the sheer hypocrisy.

How dare you traitors fly our flag and put Farage’s name on it.

And you TRUST in him? You people are a joke.

TrinketsNTat · 17/06/2026 21:28

Merryoldgoat · 17/06/2026 21:22

How do people end up married to people that they have such fundamentally different values from?

maybe OP doesn't care that her husband is a bigoted prick, so long as he keeps it quiet and doesn't embarrass her by associating her with reform publicly

SeriousFaffing · 17/06/2026 21:26

JuliaMaesa · 17/06/2026 17:12

YABVU for not posting a link to the seller so real patriots can buy one for themselves.

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@JuliaMaesa

Do you think you’re one of the patriots who would buy that flag?

If so, name the top 10 things you love about our country.

No true patriot would buy that flag. Only the traitors actively undermining what is truly great about our country. Farage front and centre traitor.

Merryoldgoat · 17/06/2026 21:22

How do people end up married to people that they have such fundamentally different values from?

Thepeopleversuswork · 17/06/2026 21:09

Merryoldgoat · 17/06/2026 21:03

I don’t understand how if his support of Farrage is so abhorrent to you that it’s the flag that’s the problem.

He is a Reform supporter regardless of the flag. Is that acceptable if other people don’t know?

For me it would be a divorce.

I’m with you. This would be a dealbreaker for me.

But you are married to him: this can’t have come as a total surprise?

Thepeopleversuswork · 17/06/2026 21:07

TheShed7 · 17/06/2026 17:08

Farage is a terrible football manager. All his attacks go down the right hand side.

🤣

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/06/2026 21:07

ApplesAreNotRaspberries · 17/06/2026 21:01

I'm pretty absent minded but I do notice the flags. I suspect any person of colour notices them, feels a little stab of both fear and sadness and then tries to move on. Till the next flag. You are very privileged or possibly white if you can afford to not notice them.

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Lol it’s got nothing to do with privilege and everything to do with not getting wound up by a piece of fabric.

YourShyLion · 17/06/2026 21:07

Merryoldgoat · 17/06/2026 21:03

I don’t understand how if his support of Farrage is so abhorrent to you that it’s the flag that’s the problem.

He is a Reform supporter regardless of the flag. Is that acceptable if other people don’t know?

For me it would be a divorce.

This ☝️ one million percent!

YourShyLion · 17/06/2026 21:06

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Merryoldgoat · 17/06/2026 21:03

I don’t understand how if his support of Farrage is so abhorrent to you that it’s the flag that’s the problem.

He is a Reform supporter regardless of the flag. Is that acceptable if other people don’t know?

For me it would be a divorce.

ApplesAreNotRaspberries · 17/06/2026 21:01

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/06/2026 18:27

If that flag was on any of my neighbours houses I wouldn’t even notice. But I do walk around with my head up my arse most of the time and am not prone to frothing over stuff.

I'm pretty absent minded but I do notice the flags. I suspect any person of colour notices them, feels a little stab of both fear and sadness and then tries to move on. Till the next flag. You are very privileged or possibly white if you can afford to not notice them.

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Couldyounot · 17/06/2026 20:37

Flagissue · 17/06/2026 17:40

No it’s not a case of opposing other flags. He said it will ‘get all the right people frothing’ so he knows it will wind some neighbours up.

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Does he realise that this little edgelord fantasy of his could get him a brick through the window?

labamba007 · 17/06/2026 20:18

Seeing as he won’t take it down. Put up a Green Party support poster. If he wants to put something up that doesn’t represent your views you can do it too. I’d be embarrassed myself but almighty pissed off that my husband had zero respect for my wants. It would be divorce territory for me.

Catlover465 · 17/06/2026 19:56

gross!!!!

saveforthat · 17/06/2026 18:51

Eideann · 17/06/2026 18:43

Just look at the quote history @saveforthat

The context is contained therein

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In your opinion.

PinkyFlamingo · 17/06/2026 18:49

I'm kind of guessing you knew he was racist though before this?

NotSpaced · 17/06/2026 18:47

2dogsandabudgie · 17/06/2026 18:21

Well it's certainly got people on here frothing. Some of the comments are hilarious. Ooh the outrage over a flag.

OP in the real world I doubt anyone will take any notice.

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But this poor man wants people to notice. He wants to wind up his neighbours. Do you think he’ll be disappointed?

Happyjoe · 17/06/2026 18:45

BridportMarket · 17/06/2026 17:59

Is it his witty repartee that got you/AI into bed?

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This made me giggle, perfect post 😁