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Can’t get over poor baby Preston

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Doximama2 · 17/06/2026 11:32

Not sure this is an AIBU, I never post on here but just feel I want to today. I am a 59 year old nana of 3 gourgous grandchildren including a one year old boy, the whole story in the need the last few weeks and especially this week about poor baby Preston that was tortured, abused and ultimately murdered by his 2 adoptive “fathers” has completely traumatized me. I am recovering from a big surgery 2 weeks ago so feeling emotional but this has really upset me so much that this was able to happen and that no one, not any social services, medics on visits to the hospital - one even with a broken elbow ffs - friends and family of these monsters realised what was happening and that Preston wasn’t a happy one year old. My grandson is always happy and smiling unless he is poorly so how did this go unnoticed? I had to turn the news off Monday when they showed this poor baby trying to sleep and this monster kept making him wake up.

im not naive, I have worked in public service including health and social services which I think is why I can’t comprehend how this was allowed to happen. It just feels like there is so many awful things in the world, and has made me so sad. 😭

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Nattah · 19/06/2026 10:15

The physical abuse is too unbearable to even think about. I find myself deeply upset by the mental abuse also, sleep deprivation and so on. The speed of events… They had no humanity, wasted no time, so to speak. It’s so terrible.

Runningswanker · 19/06/2026 10:14

I think if Varley were to be assaulted in prison he'd milk it for all it was worth, with publicity and compensation. Id much rather he disappears from public view but lives with the threat of it & watching over his shoulder forever.

EasternStandard · 19/06/2026 10:05

SpaceRaccoon · 18/06/2026 23:20

Hopefully the first of many.

Yes just picking up more of the horrors on these threads I hope so too.

SpaceRaccoon · 19/06/2026 07:35

hourglass2 · 19/06/2026 00:23

I know it's so awful beyond words, when I see his beautiful little happy face I just want to reach in to the photo, pick him up and cuddle him...silly I know

It's not silly at all. It's totally normal and understandable to wish you could save that beautiful baby.

hourglass2 · 19/06/2026 00:23

SpaceRaccoon · 17/06/2026 21:42

In poor Preston's case, he was probably very traumatised having been removed from the people who were mum and dad to him. Heartbreaking that instead of at least being loved and cared for, he was treated with such cruelty both in those large, unspeakable ways as well as all the petty small cruelties.
He must have felt so lost, confused and alone.

I know it's so awful beyond words, when I see his beautiful little happy face I just want to reach in to the photo, pick him up and cuddle him...silly I know

PurpleSheep123 · 19/06/2026 00:06

YourAmplePlumPoster · 18/06/2026 23:43

I have experience in the prison sector and officers will not turn a blind eye as every time a murder is committed prisoner on prisoner it leads to questions and investigations about general safety of all prisoners and inspections. Not a good look for a prison. These people are being held by the State and the role of the State is to ensure their safety and welfare while in custody. Except personallly, I think their days are numbered. Sooner or later...

I hope the State will protect them just as well as it protected Baby Preston from being harmed, abused and killed.

hourglass2 · 18/06/2026 23:58

MarxistMags · 18/06/2026 20:51

And yet 1 of these monsters was trained in Safe guarding.
Rot in Hell both of you. I think you'll find that in prison.

I hope they feel terror and fear for the rest of the miserable lives...

hourglass2 · 18/06/2026 23:55

YourAmplePlumPoster · 18/06/2026 23:43

I have experience in the prison sector and officers will not turn a blind eye as every time a murder is committed prisoner on prisoner it leads to questions and investigations about general safety of all prisoners and inspections. Not a good look for a prison. These people are being held by the State and the role of the State is to ensure their safety and welfare while in custody. Except personallly, I think their days are numbered. Sooner or later...

I think the general feeling is that the evil fucking bastard will get protected and yet darling little Preston was not afforded that, that's what makes people really angry...

YourAmplePlumPoster · 18/06/2026 23:43

Thankyounextnext · 18/06/2026 22:20

Can someone on this thread who has experience in the prison sector please reassure me that these men will experience living hell in prison and that officers will turn a blind eye?

I have experience in the prison sector and officers will not turn a blind eye as every time a murder is committed prisoner on prisoner it leads to questions and investigations about general safety of all prisoners and inspections. Not a good look for a prison. These people are being held by the State and the role of the State is to ensure their safety and welfare while in custody. Except personallly, I think their days are numbered. Sooner or later...

PurpleSheep123 · 18/06/2026 23:38

Runningswanker · 18/06/2026 23:36

I think I read that Varley was remanded to Durham. Not sure about McGowan-Fazakerley - I'm guessing they would have been sent to different places.

Thank you! I couldn’t find anything online.

Runningswanker · 18/06/2026 23:36

I think I read that Varley was remanded to Durham. Not sure about McGowan-Fazakerley - I'm guessing they would have been sent to different places.

PurpleSheep123 · 18/06/2026 23:30

Apologies if this is a stupid question. But where were they both kept all that time before the trial?

SpaceRaccoon · 18/06/2026 23:20

EasternStandard · 18/06/2026 23:18

At least there was a moment of horror for him.

Hopefully the first of many.

EasternStandard · 18/06/2026 23:18

SpaceRaccoon · 18/06/2026 23:11

Valley collapses vomiting when sentenced so obviously the bastard does live in a delusional world where he thought he would fool people again, and it was a a shock to him that it didn't work.

At least there was a moment of horror for him.

Futurehappiness · 18/06/2026 23:16

Imnotperfecteither · 18/06/2026 08:51

Totally agree; I hope they suffer at the hands of others for months and months!

I don't think I am a particularly vengeful person, but I hope these two suffer for the rest of their days. They would be better off dead though death is too good for them. There is no coming back from crimes like this, they are failed human beings and they can rot away in prison.

I can't bear to read everything about what that poor baby suffered, heaven knows what it must have been like for the jury.

SpaceRaccoon · 18/06/2026 23:11

Perfect28 · 18/06/2026 23:04

I'm really struggling with the fact they pleaded not guilty and so countless more people had to sit through weeks of evidence which is incredibly scarring. Did they really think they would get away with it?

Valley collapses vomiting when sentenced so obviously the bastard does live in a delusional world where he thought he would fool people again, and it was a a shock to him that it didn't work.

Perfect28 · 18/06/2026 23:04

I'm really struggling with the fact they pleaded not guilty and so countless more people had to sit through weeks of evidence which is incredibly scarring. Did they really think they would get away with it?

SpaceRaccoon · 18/06/2026 22:28

I genuinely don't understand, either, how Varley did manage to fool so many people for so long.
In the footage of him I've seen, he comes across as a horrible, aggressive, unstable individual.

SpaceRaccoon · 18/06/2026 22:24

Runningswanker · 18/06/2026 20:52

Genuine question - do you think it's realistic that all instances of serious child abuse or murder/manslaughter of children should be predicted/prevented?
It's a given that of course we would want them to be. But do you think its possible? Because that's what strikes me every time something happens - it's an instant assumption that it was a failure of services, before there's any investigation. It doesn't seem to happen anywhere else, even when the subject is emotive - eg medics aren't assumed to have failed every time a child dies in hospital despite their job being to care for a patient. The police aren't assumed to fail every time someone is killed by someone who had an existing record. Of course we would want to prevent as much as possible. I just whether the expectations would ever be realistic or achievable, even if social services had a 'perfect' service, eg if there were proper investment and govt support.

Not in every case, no. But in this case, where the child in question was already in the system and fostered, absolutely yes.

Allisnotlost1 · 18/06/2026 22:24

florence1234567 · 18/06/2026 21:37

Maybe evidence how he was able to manipulate people to trust him with this very responsible role very quickly?

You're right, safeguarding roles are usually not roles for newly qualified staff.

Quite - and/or that he was very motivated to get into positions of authority, which isn’t uncommon with sadistic people or those with a sexual interest in children.

Thankyounextnext · 18/06/2026 22:20

Can someone on this thread who has experience in the prison sector please reassure me that these men will experience living hell in prison and that officers will turn a blind eye?

DrMorbius · 18/06/2026 22:19

YourAmplePlumPoster · 18/06/2026 21:23

The two gay men who committed this unspeakable crime are British. All the other cases I mentioned were committed by British nationals.

Thank you, as I said I was unsure if you were being serious. Now I know you are just baiting.
All the other cases I mentioned were committed by British nationals has to be the funniest quote I have ever seen in my 10 years + on MN. Absolute gold. I suppose you have never heard the term Asian Grooming Gang.

LizzieW1969 · 18/06/2026 21:44

YourAmplePlumPoster · 18/06/2026 21:23

The two gay men who committed this unspeakable crime are British. All the other cases I mentioned were committed by British nationals.

You mentioned Sara Sharif and Victoria Climbie. Their abusers were from immigrant backgrounds, not British.

Valeyard15 · 18/06/2026 21:39

TequillaSunset · 18/06/2026 16:58

It is bothersome to me that the posts about this poor baby has been awash with people needing to educate and correct posters.

It isn't our job, nor will it ever be. We won't have any effect on the professions involved in cases like this.. I see a post like the OP's as an outlet for the horror, helplessness and grief they feel, thus extended to a great many others who feel this way.

I don't want educating. Another thread was taken over by an adopter. Can't people be left to express their outrage without a need for 'correction'?

ffs.

If people could express their outrage without coming out with blatant nonsense, they wouldn't need correcting.

florence1234567 · 18/06/2026 21:37

Allisnotlost1 · 18/06/2026 21:13

Just read this on the BBC

‘Varley first worked at South Shore Academy as a design and technology technician, before later becoming a teacher there after training between 2019 and 2021.
He also took on a pastoral role as a designated safeguarding lead and was head of year.’

and thought it was notable how little time JV had been in teaching before being given the safeguarding lead and head of year roles. I don’t know much about teaching but had always thought these were roles for more senior/experienced staff.

Maybe evidence how he was able to manipulate people to trust him with this very responsible role very quickly?

You're right, safeguarding roles are usually not roles for newly qualified staff.