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Can’t get over poor baby Preston

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Doximama2 · 17/06/2026 11:32

Not sure this is an AIBU, I never post on here but just feel I want to today. I am a 59 year old nana of 3 gourgous grandchildren including a one year old boy, the whole story in the need the last few weeks and especially this week about poor baby Preston that was tortured, abused and ultimately murdered by his 2 adoptive “fathers” has completely traumatized me. I am recovering from a big surgery 2 weeks ago so feeling emotional but this has really upset me so much that this was able to happen and that no one, not any social services, medics on visits to the hospital - one even with a broken elbow ffs - friends and family of these monsters realised what was happening and that Preston wasn’t a happy one year old. My grandson is always happy and smiling unless he is poorly so how did this go unnoticed? I had to turn the news off Monday when they showed this poor baby trying to sleep and this monster kept making him wake up.

im not naive, I have worked in public service including health and social services which I think is why I can’t comprehend how this was allowed to happen. It just feels like there is so many awful things in the world, and has made me so sad. 😭

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FreddysFingers · 21/06/2026 09:47

LizardLore · 17/06/2026 11:54

As I understand it they were paedophiles so they actually got him solely for the purpose of abusing him. They did not mean to kill him.

It is awful to say but I think it is better for him that he died early than that he had to live the life they had planned for him.

That's sent shivers down my spine. But you're absolutely correct.

SapphireSeptember · 21/06/2026 09:07

Gealach · 21/06/2026 00:38

I find it extraordinary and extremely disturbing that there was nothing at all in the history of the two men to suggest any prior abuse / inappropriate behaviour around children. I’m imagining they searched for this. It’s the kind of case that shakes your faith in the world.

Someone else on this thread said they want to reach into those photos and pick him up. And I totally relate to that. He’s just a lovely, smiley baby, and you just want to hug him. It’s hard to comprehend that someone could hurt him day after day.

I know. I wonder how an earth they went from nothing to what they did to this child. It doesn't make sense. I wonder if anything will come out as the children he babysat grow up.

Preston looks a bit like my DS in that picture from the article I posted. I wish I could cuddle him too. There's a special place in hell for people who hurt children in that way.

I wanted to give DS up for adoption after he was born and I'm glad I didn't. Preston's mum didn't have a choice, and I can't help but feel awful for her. She was still his mum and she loved him, I don't care what she's done, no one deserves that.

saltandpepperandahanselstew · 21/06/2026 00:44

Please sign this petition. It won’t help baby Preston, but it might help other children ❤️

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NC543210 · 21/06/2026 00:43

As a parent and a human it is beyond comprehension.

This is a case where I think death is too good for them (and generally I am against capital punishment)

.I hope those in HMP Wakefield will give him the justice he deserves. Slowly.

Gealach · 21/06/2026 00:38

I find it extraordinary and extremely disturbing that there was nothing at all in the history of the two men to suggest any prior abuse / inappropriate behaviour around children. I’m imagining they searched for this. It’s the kind of case that shakes your faith in the world.

Someone else on this thread said they want to reach into those photos and pick him up. And I totally relate to that. He’s just a lovely, smiley baby, and you just want to hug him. It’s hard to comprehend that someone could hurt him day after day.

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 22:38

YourAmplePlumPoster · 20/06/2026 18:55

Sounds like they planned to adopt a baby they could use as a sex toy.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clyp77l79e9o

Wouldn't be surprised, there's a bit at the end of this article about it. I think the police think they did (and I think they did) but there's no evidence to support that theory. Evil bastards.

Baby with curly light brown hair sitting in high chair. He has his finger in his mouth. He is wearing a baby grow with an elephant on it.

How adoptive parents' lies unravelled to reveal 'reign of terror'

Preston Davey died in hospital in July 2023 after months of sexual and physical abuse at the hands.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clyp77l79e9o

YourAmplePlumPoster · 20/06/2026 22:32

So cocksure even though he was in the wrong. A true sociopath and narcissist.

hourglass2 · 20/06/2026 20:19

nomas · 20/06/2026 19:46

Yes, the police videos were awful. Basically threatening the police. If he can get act like that with the police when he must have have known they would find some evidence somehow, then a little one had no hope.

Yep he's a vile specimen...

nomas · 20/06/2026 19:46

hourglass2 · 20/06/2026 18:26

Yeah I wondered that....I bet they thought they did, JV comes across an arrogant narcissitic prick in the police videos. I hope he's having a lovely time in HMP Wakefield, he got a rousing welcome from the other inmates apparently :)) right now I hope he's feeling the fear and terror that baby Preston did...

Yes, the police videos were awful. Basically threatening the police. If he can get act like that with the police when he must have have known they would find some evidence somehow, then a little one had no hope.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 20/06/2026 18:55

Sounds like they planned to adopt a baby they could use as a sex toy.

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 18:30

@hourglass2 Here's hoping!

hourglass2 · 20/06/2026 18:26

nomas · 20/06/2026 10:08

I wonder if they thought they had got away with it.

Yeah I wondered that....I bet they thought they did, JV comes across an arrogant narcissitic prick in the police videos. I hope he's having a lovely time in HMP Wakefield, he got a rousing welcome from the other inmates apparently :)) right now I hope he's feeling the fear and terror that baby Preston did...

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 14:47

IDontHateRainbows · 20/06/2026 12:12

Just goes to show that nothing is ever truly deleted once sent, as id imagine they both deleted anything bad off their phones but the police were able to retrieve it. Think a few pedos/pervs been caught that way, huw edwards comes to mind.

Can't believe they were free until 2025, 2 years after poor prestons murder.

'The internet is forever' is something I see a lot on socials media. Which is why I don't post pictures of DS online.

Thank goodness for people being able to do electronic forensics.

Neither can I, especially as the post mortem was done very soon after his death. That poor child. I can't imagine how much pain he must have been in before he died. The catalogue of injuries is horrendous, and how JV could have inflicted those injuries on a baby and not care about him crying makes me so angry. I don't hate many people, but those two are on the list. I hate people who abuse children.

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 14:38

SpaceRaccoon · 20/06/2026 12:10

You're not wrong. At least there was evidence of the awful things they did, to convict them and guve them long sentences.
I really feel for anyone who saw the worse ones though. I can't even watch the "milder end" ones in the public domain, tearing up just writing this.

Yes, I can't watch those either. I've heard about them and it was enough to make me cry. The police dealing with the case and (I assume?) the jurors must have felt awful.

I did watch the video his foster parents shared of Preston laughing though. The police officer in charge of the case said to remember the victim, and I shall always remember that sweet little boy.

IDontHateRainbows · 20/06/2026 12:12

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 11:29

I feel awful saying it, but I suppose it's good they filmed it so the evidence was irrefutable. And they still plead not guilty! They may well think even now they didn't do anything wrong, judging from JV's antics when he was found guilty.

Maybe they did think they'd got away with it. I'm very glad they didn't.

Just goes to show that nothing is ever truly deleted once sent, as id imagine they both deleted anything bad off their phones but the police were able to retrieve it. Think a few pedos/pervs been caught that way, huw edwards comes to mind.

Can't believe they were free until 2025, 2 years after poor prestons murder.

SpaceRaccoon · 20/06/2026 12:10

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 11:29

I feel awful saying it, but I suppose it's good they filmed it so the evidence was irrefutable. And they still plead not guilty! They may well think even now they didn't do anything wrong, judging from JV's antics when he was found guilty.

Maybe they did think they'd got away with it. I'm very glad they didn't.

You're not wrong. At least there was evidence of the awful things they did, to convict them and guve them long sentences.
I really feel for anyone who saw the worse ones though. I can't even watch the "milder end" ones in the public domain, tearing up just writing this.

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 11:29

I feel awful saying it, but I suppose it's good they filmed it so the evidence was irrefutable. And they still plead not guilty! They may well think even now they didn't do anything wrong, judging from JV's antics when he was found guilty.

Maybe they did think they'd got away with it. I'm very glad they didn't.

nomas · 20/06/2026 10:09

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 08:22

I did read there was evidence to suggest the sexual abuse started on day one, but I don't know how true that is. Still, they didn't wait long.

Oh, the bastard. And they did all this before they'd formally adopted him.

I’m not sure about the first attack, but I think 17 April was the date it was first filmed.

nomas · 20/06/2026 10:08

Gealach · 19/06/2026 20:14

They weren’t charged until 2025.

They were under investigation. That’s why they were free men.

I wonder if they thought they had got away with it.

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 08:22

nomas · 19/06/2026 19:01

Yes, Preston was handed over on 1st April
and abuse was filmed on 17 April.

The narrative of the overwhelmed dad and Varley’s insinuations about Preston’s possible background health issues (I.e. possible drug issues) were part of the cover up.

I did read there was evidence to suggest the sexual abuse started on day one, but I don't know how true that is. Still, they didn't wait long.

Oh, the bastard. And they did all this before they'd formally adopted him.

SapphireSeptember · 20/06/2026 08:16

Member869894 · 19/06/2026 23:44

Can someone tell me the cause of death?

Edited

He was asphyxiated while being sexually assaulted.

I can't write it any more plainly than that.

Allisnotlost1 · 20/06/2026 01:30

Gealach · 19/06/2026 23:29

@Allisnotlost1 where is your
data that child murderers are more likely to be bailed than other murderers? I just don’t think this is true because it’s unusual for anyone charged with murder to be bailed at all.

I think your post suggests that child murderers are treated more leniently in general and I don’t think that is true. Everyone receives a life sentence so the years is only when they become eligible for review.

It’s only my experience, I’ve looked for data but nothing is published. It is very rare for anyone on a murder charge to be bailed yes, as I said.

The sentencing framework includes many aggravating factors that often don’t apply to child murder cases. Therefore it is far from rare to see a person convicted of killing an adult get a longer tariff than a person convicted of killing a child. Yes, they are all mandatory life sentences but if you can’t see the difference between 27 years before people eligibility and a whole life tariff, I don’t know what else to tell you.

Hollyhobbi · 20/06/2026 00:02

Cioccoholic · 17/06/2026 11:51

Yes it brought me to tears too. Such unnecessary, horrific suffering for a defenceless child. It is unthinkable, really. I wonder if at any time that poor little boy felt loved or cherished or safe. I wonder about his pain and misery. Did he have any idea what he was missing out on - did he remember joy or contentment from his time with his foster carers or was his whole little life overshadowed by loss and torture?

My heart goes out to the foster carers who handed that baby over, only to learn after his death that his new home was one of unthinkable abuse. It must be almost unbearable.

He reminds me of a little boy who was murdered in Ireland not that long ago. He too was with a foster family and there are lovely photos of him smiling away and happy taken by the foster parents. He was sadly given back to his birth family who murdered him and then dug a hole in a field and buried him in it. Just horrendous for both little boys.

SandyHappy · 19/06/2026 23:55

Allisnotlost1 · 19/06/2026 22:32

I didn’t say they were, I said it was more common that murderers of children were bailed than other types of murder. It’s not common overall by any means and certainly rarer in the last 10 years.

And yes, child murderers frequently get shorter tariffs than other mandatory lifers, due to the sentencing framework. Mostly they are under 30 years, whereas increasingly there are murders of adults that attract sentences above 30 years.

Here’s some examples:

  1. Daniel Pelka – 30 years (both defendants, this was exceptionally high at the time)
  2. Arthur Labinjo-Hughes – 29 years
  3. Finley Boden – 29 and 27 years
  4. Star Hobson – 25 years
  5. Devaun Rose-Turner – 25 years (both defendants)

Compare with the sentences given to the killers of these adult victims:

  1. Sabina Nessa – 36 years
  2. Zara Aleena – 33 years
  3. Julia James – 37 years
  4. Liam Smith - 30 and 33 years
  5. Agnes Sina-Inakoju - 32 years

And just today, three more whole life orders for killing an adult. Aggravating factors of course and so it depends on what you consider the most important aaggravating factor, obviously but I think many people agree that murders of children should automatically attract a whole life order.

I'm not sure child murderers are "bailed" as such, just that they aren't necessarily charged straight away so are free to carry on with their lives. I was shocked to read that these two had been left to lead normal lives while the investigation was ongoing, I had no idea and I assumed they were remanded awaiting trial. I've just done some reading and there is a time limit on how long an offender can be kept on remand, for murder, it's 182 days from being charged to the trial, if it doesn't commence within that time frame then they are meant to be released on bail.

It seems to be the complex hard-to-prove (and pleading not guilty) cases that they take their time with, there's no point dragging them into court to face charges if they don't have all the evidence to secure a conviction, presumably this was one of those cases where they needed to get it exactly right. Where as other murder cases may have more open and shut evidence to back up a prosecution, including evidence of premeditation (which can lead to longer sentences too).

But it does seem a slap in the face that they were walking round free for two years before facing the consequences of their actions.

Gealach · 19/06/2026 23:49

Noodledog · 19/06/2026 23:40

Sure, but two years between the murder and the arrests? I've never heard of arrests following a murder taking so long, and I doubt the evidence was more complicated than a lot of murders. Actually, the more I think about this, the weirder it seems. And I haven't seen any explanation of the length of time this took.

I’m in a different country but extracting social media and digital files takes a long time. Partly because of a backlog on the team who do this. I doubt an 18 month to 2 year investigation in the UK is rare.

In this case the police gathered evidence that would not only ensure that they would be found guilty, it found the type of evidence where a whole life order would be more likely.

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