DH cooking but getting distracted by gaming

Its fortunate that his important life or death job can pay for take aways next time

53 year old gamer who can’t cook, attractive

Why would anyone care what his game is? He’s old enough to work out if it’s compatible with the simple task he does one time a month and if it’s not he doesn’t do it.

and for the op - id it was easy to clean up then even more reason for you to have texted him and said I’m going out for breakfast because you haven’t even cleaned up the meal you burnt to a crisp. Clean the kitchen. Act like an adult. Adults can cook a meal without getting distracted by their gaming.

Maybe that's why she keeps him on

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You are missing the point. It is him who should have cleared it up.

He makes plenty of effort with plenty of other things. We have very busy lives and cooking isn't one of his skills, but he can feed us when he needs to and it's fine. It's not that deep

It wasn't incompetence, it was couldn't-give-a-fuck-ness.

My husband is a gamer and he can cook a roast without letting everything get ruined. He's not the best cook in the world but does a better job that I would, I'd lose track with all the timers and burn everything. I tend to clear up as it feels fair when he's done the rest.

He should be staying in the kitchen while it's all cooking, gaming can wait for another time. That's what went wrong. Just tell him he is to handle it start to finish and you will not be stepping in at all unless you see flames!

The reason he's cooking is that he eats food, which needs cooking, so it's fair he does it at least some of the time.

Once a month is pitiful and if at 53 he can't cook, he needs more practice. In most cases, it's a case of CBA, not 'can't'.

Can he actually cook?

I am trying to work out if he is just a bad cook or if he’s forgetting about it because of his gaming.

Some people just aren’t good cooks.

What’s the reason he’s cooking?
Because he enjoys doing it or feels like he has to?

You obviously can’t tell him not to cook in his own home but you can encourage him to cook certain things or perhaps bake instead.

The fact she was expecting it to be cleared when she came down the next morning shows that’s not their setup.

YABU for cleaning up. How is this ever going to improve without you raising a stink about it, much less doing part of the work for him! It’s not funny, it’s not “just how men are”, it’s pitiful!

I’d hazard a guess that you are totally correct but we don’t actually know that ….. yet! 😁

Yes, because God forbid he has to make any effort. That's what infuriates me. When women cook, they're including vegetables, working to a budget, dealing with leftovers.

Man cooks and it's pasta and sauce, a ready meal, or a takeaway, with no thought for producing a healthy meal on a budget or putting in any effort.

Does he fuck.

My guess is.... 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Then learn your lesson, woman. He Man, he shouldn't cook. If he does, as a tokenistoc gesture to stop your whining, he will purposely be incompetent so you a.cannot actually relax cos you have to micromange him b.will have shit food to punish you for your stupidity in expecting Mr Important to cook your food. Do you not understand how terribly important he is?? He's too important to be a decent husband.

My husband, unknotted,

😂😂😂

Then why didn’t he do it?

In our house, if you cook then you don't clean up. Maybe he cleans up after the OP on other nights.

Honestly, I'd have been tying his testicles in a bow knot for this kind of behaviour. My husband, unknotted, cooks delicious meals and, because I am still working and he is retired, he does the clean up.

Ruining a lovely roast because of gaming would bloody annoy me but in my house, someone else tidies the kitchen and not the cook. Does he tidy up when you cook?

I reckon his plan is working - 'ruin the one dinner out of 30/31 that I have to cook and trash the kitchen in the process and she'll just shut up and accept that cooking is "wimmins work"'.

You are unreasonable to take this lying down. Unless he's working 18 hours a day he can get off his lazy arse and cook once a week at least (and clean up afterwards).

This isn't incompetence.

Don't fool yourself.

I have got distracted gaming whilst cooking, the food didn’t suffer but the game did. Obviously he should have made a decent dinner and also cleaned up if that’s the deal. Roasts are very easy if gaming, done it many a time.

The key to gaming whilst cooking is to do something timed to time with your cooking. Out of interest what game was he playing? Could be timed, could be opened ended, could have been something he could have left at any time.

If there are any Destiny 2 players out there they will understand this. I forgot to reset my trials card when cooking a roast dinner so missed out on going flawless. It was a few years ago the time you had to climb the tower for rewards and ended up seeing the horse.

is there usually anything wrong with his ability to concentrate when he is gaming?