"When a man falls in love with a woman, he sees her as a goddess"

I'd prefer that he actually washed the floor rather than worshipped it.

As much as I love DH and vice verse, worship has never been a component part of our relationship. Everything is always within reason, anything else sounds mentally unhealthy.

PS apologies, I'm female and have just twigged that this is a male perception.

@InterestedDad37

Honestly not intended to be! I apologise if I sounded condescending.

I love my wife dearly, our golden wedding anniversary is in a few years, but no, sorry I didn't (and still don't).

I think you may need to take a wider sample of male opinion.

Is this 'womansplaining'? 😉🤣

@InterestedDad37

Worship doesn't have to apply just to deities. I know it's associated strongly with religions and gods/goddesses, but as a general concept, it can apply to humans. In that sense, I think it just means having a high level of devotion to a particular person/s and seeing them as superior/someone to be venerated.

Horsefeathers.

If aan sees a woman like that he's not seeing who she is and accepting her as a whole human being. That's emotionally stunted. And of course, god help her when his disillusionment occurs.

I have a lovely friend who has always idolised her very mediocre husband. He takes her for granted over it.

Oh it is tosh , but I bet a few men do this. Not anyone I’ve ever met, but I can see how it can happen and women with men too.

My experience is the opposite. The ones who worship you get SO pissed off when you turn out to be human, when you have period pains and want to curl under a duvet instead of skipping around town all day, or when you forget your housekeys or have a moment of self-doubt or whinge about a colleague or wear comfortable but unflattering trousers. They resent you not being on duty as their pedestal princess 24/7 and cool off very quickly. I remember being quite surprised that DH didn't seem to care what I wore or if I needed a quiet weekend etc when we were dating.

So glad it’s not just me !

I'm very plain (it might be relevant) and every man I've ever been with (and I've been married three times) has treated me more like his best mate than a goddess. I clearly don't have 'goddess energy'.

I think you need to not take the "goddess" part too literally. In the sense of deep adoration and admiration that in certain moments could border on a kind of worshipfulness, it chimes with my experience.

My ex once said he put me on a pedalstool but ended up abusing me - one of his final words to me in our last proper conversation was that ‘you were nearly perfect’ 🙄

I’ve been with the same partner for 40 years ( married for 36 ) and his never felt like this with me at all or me him.! .
When I was a teenager I did wish that someone would, but that’s just because I was a silly teenager who wanted attention and read too many books ! Maybe very beautiful good looking people get the worship ? I can see that happening for a few people. We are drawn to beautiful things and people and might be a more of a possessive reaction rather than love ?

Another weird "all men, this alien species to us women, feel and behave in the same way" post. Obviously bollocks if you've actually talked to more than 10 people in your life.

I haven't felt this way about anyone since I was a teenager. I'd run a mile if a man thought this about me (or showed it too much). Putting other humans on pedestals is unhealthy and also betrays a lack of self-respect.

Personally I'd say a man falls in love with a woman who sees him as a god.

How old are they and have they ever had any long term relationships?

I can see it when we're young, I think a lot of people are guilty of putting their partner on a bit of a pedestal when they first start going out.

It soon comes crashing down to earth when you first move in with your girlfriend and realise some of her habits are just as gross as yours though.

I’ve heard a few women say ‘ He adores me, worships me’ and so on. One run off with another woman. The other woman had an affair
and divorced him.

I remember reading in a novel some advice from a man to a woman - don’t ever marry a man who doesn’t think you’re the best thing ever to happen to him. I concur with that!

I don't think this is something anyone wants, is it? Surely most people want someone they have a genuine connection with? Not some nonsense like this? Whatever it actually means. This is the kind of thing you see men saying on dating apps and immediately swipe left

Never had anybody worship me.
I’ve heard the expression ‘ worships the ground she walks on ‘ and I am
sure some men may do this, but I think it sounds quite suffocating.

Yep, it sounds like just another excuse for men behaving shittily, with the added bonus that we’re supposed to feel sorry for the poor wee lambs. Give me my grown up husband who sees me warts and all and loves me with his actions rather than the ‘worship’ nonsense thanks.
Besides which, the behaviour described in the OP sounds like a red flag for a controlling partner.

I think it just means that for a time, when anyone falls in love, everything is wonderful and the person is wonderful. Probably just a lack of clarity on what 'goddess' means.

I'd expect with men - it's also a contrast to how they think of their gf /wife/partner as time goes by. we see on this website alone, how terribly many men treat many women, they are supposed to 'love', in the end.

Indeed. I won’t be raising my sons to find someone they feel is a goddess, women are people. We need to stop trying to treat women as either sub human or precious. We’re just people. You should find a partner who is your equal, who matters to you as much as you do so you treat them how you’d want to be treated.

But I’m a woman and I have definitely felt this about men before. I can rationalise and recognise they definitely are stupid humans with awful gross habits like the rest of us but I’ve definitely still been guilty of putting people on pedestals and looking up to them as though they’re deific.