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Inconsequential but HIGHLY irritating things your DH does

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itslikecakesbutitsnotcakes · 16/06/2026 21:47

I’m not talking ‘fails to do any housework’ or ‘won’t parent his own kids’ but minor irritations that make you want to scream but you can’t because its so petty. For me

Refuses to use the automatic windscreen wiper. Instead he waits until he has no visibility and then manually flips the wiper on once. In heavy rain he’s doing it every couple of seconds. Just put the bloody auto wipers on!!

Unloads the dishwasher but leaves select things stacked up ‘near’ the cupboard or drawer they live in rather than putting them away. Apparently they are left there to ‘thoroughly dry’.

Rage!!!

OP posts:
BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 16/06/2026 21:54

Namechangeforthisdilemma1 · 16/06/2026 21:52

Not shaking washing properly so it dries all crumpled (think sleeves not shaken out etc).

And actually it is consequential because I try not to iron (which usually works if it’s hung up properly) grr!

My DH does "performance ironing" for which he expects a big round of applause and a medal. But he irons tea towels, pyjamas, vests, even knickers. None of which need ironing.

Namechangeforthisdilemma1 · 16/06/2026 21:53

CarrieAnnQ · 16/06/2026 21:52

My husband is brilliant but his over the top and incredibly dramatic sneezing fits make me want to kill him

Oh god I think I’m your DH. I can never sneeze once, always a minimum of 5 🫣

CaffeineDeficient · 16/06/2026 21:53

Leaves items to 'steep' in the sink, that we don't put in the dishwasher. Just fucking wash them for fucks sake. Also, related to above, then leaves them to 'dry' on the draining board. Highly fucking irritating (to me).

SisterMaryImmaculate · 16/06/2026 21:53

Empties the dishwasher but stacks the pots in the cupboard like one of those gravity-defying balancing stone sculptures.

MrsPapillon · 16/06/2026 21:52

Mine does the wiper thing too, it drives me insane! I’m screaming “You can’t see anything!! We’re all going to die!!!” while he flicks the wiper once every forty seconds during a torrential downpour on the motorway.

Mmmmwheredidthelivetweetsgo · 16/06/2026 21:52

Almost puts the weekly shop away so freezer yes, fridge yes, but cupboard stuff near designated cupboard never in it, and god forbid anything for upstairs

CarrieAnnQ · 16/06/2026 21:52

My husband is brilliant but his over the top and incredibly dramatic sneezing fits make me want to kill him

Namechangeforthisdilemma1 · 16/06/2026 21:52

Not shaking washing properly so it dries all crumpled (think sleeves not shaken out etc).

And actually it is consequential because I try not to iron (which usually works if it’s hung up properly) grr!

Gabitule · 16/06/2026 21:51

Haha, op, do you think it’s possible that the reason why he leaves things near the cupboards/ drawers is indeed for them to dry? I don’t like putting wet mugs etc from the dishwasher in the cupboards so I tend to dry them with paper towel before putting away

Tilyoufindyourdream · 16/06/2026 21:50

Loads the dishwasher from front to back! Drives me bonkers!!!

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