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Inconsequential but HIGHLY irritating things your DH does

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itslikecakesbutitsnotcakes · 16/06/2026 21:47

I’m not talking ‘fails to do any housework’ or ‘won’t parent his own kids’ but minor irritations that make you want to scream but you can’t because its so petty. For me

Refuses to use the automatic windscreen wiper. Instead he waits until he has no visibility and then manually flips the wiper on once. In heavy rain he’s doing it every couple of seconds. Just put the bloody auto wipers on!!

Unloads the dishwasher but leaves select things stacked up ‘near’ the cupboard or drawer they live in rather than putting them away. Apparently they are left there to ‘thoroughly dry’.

Rage!!!

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ComePlayMyTrombolise · 16/06/2026 22:56

murasaki · 16/06/2026 22:50

But but but...it's tops from the bottom and bottoms from the top! We actually had a minor fall out about this at the weekend. He claims he's always done it, I said he hadn't as he never hangs out the washing and it's wrong, he disputed this.....

Lasted all of 5 minutes, though, I re hung it.

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I usually hang them on hangers as they dry more quickly and take up less space but occasionally he prefers pegging 😜

ZaraBlue · 16/06/2026 22:56

Sausagenbacon · 16/06/2026 22:17

Sniffs. All the time.
Thinks he's a fantastic cook when he hardly ever cooks
Doesn't read books and, when we're having a conversation about books with friends, starts going on about one he read 10 years ago, and expects a medal.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Happyjoe · 16/06/2026 22:53

Antihistamine62 · 16/06/2026 22:51

deciding after I’ve just scrubbed the bathroom it’s the perfect time to empty his bowels

Yes! Or have a bath in my lovely spotless bath before I get a chance despite him preferring showers. Oh yes, major irritation.

MrsJeanLuc · 16/06/2026 22:53

Mmmmwheredidthelivetweetsgo · 16/06/2026 21:52

Almost puts the weekly shop away so freezer yes, fridge yes, but cupboard stuff near designated cupboard never in it, and god forbid anything for upstairs

This!
Never cycles things round. So the new stuff goes in on top and the older stuff is pushed to the back - aargghh!!!

SqueakyFromme · 16/06/2026 22:53

Most of these don’t sound petty at all, just exceptionally irritating

OkOkWhatsNext · 16/06/2026 22:52

Opens one side of the bedroom curtains in the morning. Just why?!

davidraker · 16/06/2026 22:52

Two things drive me mad.
He makes a cup of tea, stirs it and leaves the spoon on the work surface next to the sink.
Walks about 3 paces behind me me when we’re out. Feels like I’m dragging a sulky child around the shops!

DanaScullysLegoHair · 16/06/2026 22:52

Orange3344 · 16/06/2026 22:46

Slurps his coffee and makes that ahhh noise after every sip!

Oh noooo. I'd have to get up and leave. Poor you.

LilytheThink · 16/06/2026 22:51

Empties the dishwasher without being asked, which is great, but slowly dries every item with a tea towel if there is a hint of water on it before he puts it away, so the job takes ages and he feels like he has completed a major task. I can do the same job in a fraction of the time because I move faster and reckon any moisture will dry off in the cupboard.😄

Antihistamine62 · 16/06/2026 22:51

deciding after I’ve just scrubbed the bathroom it’s the perfect time to empty his bowels

MrsJeanLuc · 16/06/2026 22:51

Namechangeforthisdilemma1 · 16/06/2026 21:52

Not shaking washing properly so it dries all crumpled (think sleeves not shaken out etc).

And actually it is consequential because I try not to iron (which usually works if it’s hung up properly) grr!

OMG this.

And folding them so carelessly that they come out of the airing cupboard all creased

Maternityleavelady · 16/06/2026 22:50

If a large or weird shaped item needs to go in the dishwasher he will ignore it and leave it on the side for days/numerous cycles, presumably waiting for the perfect spot to arise (or me to crack and rearrange things so it fits!) - i do the cooking, he sorts the dishwasher!

murasaki · 16/06/2026 22:50

ComePlayMyTrombolise · 16/06/2026 22:48

Yes, this!

Also, pegging T-shirts from the bottom really widely so they become Y-shirts! 😡😂

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But but but...it's tops from the bottom and bottoms from the top! We actually had a minor fall out about this at the weekend. He claims he's always done it, I said he hadn't as he never hangs out the washing and it's wrong, he disputed this.....

Lasted all of 5 minutes, though, I re hung it.

I'llBuyThatForADollar · 16/06/2026 22:50

Won’t write cards until the last second (birthday, anniversary etc.) for his side of the family. I usually buy them but he does buy some. I always leave them on the side for him to write a good day before and say, here it is, with pen! To no avail! Drives me nuts!!

ilikemethewayiam · 16/06/2026 22:49

itslikecakesbutitsnotcakes · 16/06/2026 21:47

I’m not talking ‘fails to do any housework’ or ‘won’t parent his own kids’ but minor irritations that make you want to scream but you can’t because its so petty. For me

Refuses to use the automatic windscreen wiper. Instead he waits until he has no visibility and then manually flips the wiper on once. In heavy rain he’s doing it every couple of seconds. Just put the bloody auto wipers on!!

Unloads the dishwasher but leaves select things stacked up ‘near’ the cupboard or drawer they live in rather than putting them away. Apparently they are left there to ‘thoroughly dry’.

Rage!!!

The bloody windscreen thing must be a man thing as my ex-h did that, my current husband does it and so does my brother! Why? just why?

Dolallytats · 16/06/2026 22:48

SusanChurchouse · 16/06/2026 22:06

Are we married to the same person? Yes, random things just left by the side of the sink unwashed. Usually a water bottle or similar.

Leaves a pile of crumbs on the kitchen surface every time he makes toast. Every time.

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Im married to him too!! Always a bottle😬

SuperGinger · 16/06/2026 22:48

SisterMaryImmaculate · 16/06/2026 21:53

Empties the dishwasher but stacks the pots in the cupboard like one of those gravity-defying balancing stone sculptures.

Mine does this too, infuriating isn't it!

ComePlayMyTrombolise · 16/06/2026 22:48

Namechangeforthisdilemma1 · 16/06/2026 21:52

Not shaking washing properly so it dries all crumpled (think sleeves not shaken out etc).

And actually it is consequential because I try not to iron (which usually works if it’s hung up properly) grr!

Yes, this!

Also, pegging T-shirts from the bottom really widely so they become Y-shirts! 😡😂

toomuchfaff · 16/06/2026 22:47

Nervousb2b · 16/06/2026 21:56

Puts a bin bag in the bin without fluffing it and tucking it in nicely, and then just afterwards proceeds to put a load of rubbish in it completely oblivious to the fact that none of it has gone IN the bin bag.

empties the bin, doesnt replace the bin bag..... i purposefully havent added a bag, you can empty it again this week and deal with the no bin bag situation!

murasaki · 16/06/2026 22:47

Mind you, I'm sure he has a list of things I do that peeve him, he's just too nice to say.

Orange3344 · 16/06/2026 22:46

Slurps his coffee and makes that ahhh noise after every sip!

murasaki · 16/06/2026 22:45

Happyjoe · 16/06/2026 22:42

Loads of irritating stuff! Bathroom cupboard with our toothbrushes in is next to the loo. I ask him hundreds of times to shut the door because of any bacteria. He leaves it open a couple of inches, so he does go to close the door... almost.

Rams things into an already full kitchen bin, or fills it to the top with other rubbish and doesn't empty it unless I ask.

Brushes his teeth with electric toothbrush in front and close to the bathroom mirror. It gets splattered every day and he doesn't clean it off unless I ask.

And he's untidy. I'm not hugely fussy but he's something else and is the biggest cause of any arguments. What gets me is when he used to go visit his parents, or as they got older, stay over, he was spotlessly clean because that's how his parents liked it! Grrr.

I feel like his mother at times, oh and a magical cleaning fairy.

Ooh, the bread bin is like that, he 'almost closes it and thinks that's the same thing as actually closing it.

Sunnywalker · 16/06/2026 22:45

Runs the dishwasher several times just adding one additional cup or a spoon because he can’t be bothered to unload it.

Firstworldprobs · 16/06/2026 22:44

Closes all the venetian window blinds UPWARDS.

Leaves his sliders everywhere other than by the back door.

Talks at me about BORING life admin stuff after 8pm without checking if I’m listening or noticing that I am staring blankly through him throughout.

Promises to load the dishwasher before bed but then forgets and does it the next morning before work instead.

Uses every utensil and pan when cooking and leaves the kitchen like a bomb site.

I am aware most of these things are related to good things he is doing so I keep my mouth shut.

Pureclass · 16/06/2026 22:44

Wanders about the house eating ...without a plate!!! Dropping fucking crumbs everywhere.

Then related, never turns on the robot vacuums!!! We have 2, 1 upstairs, 1 down.

These are both manual (TBF they may have the ability to be WiFi- but ours is shite so they a manual) - its literally pressing 2 buttons and walking out the door.

If I dont do it they dont run, and if they dont run every day its pointless having them as then you need to get the proper hoover out!

I'm insane over it...i really should just not give a fuck but dirty carpets piss me off

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