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DDs friends dad is a Prick

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Roadislikeabuildingsite · 16/06/2026 11:09

Dd has a friend on the road who comes to stay regularly with her cousins and play, Dd plays with her but they have a love-hate relationship really. She’s the only child Ive seen Dd argue with, I’ve tried to cool things between them, but they still love to play together a lot of the times.
This friend often calls over the fence to Dd and vice versa to play. When friends dad is there, her friend isn’t allowed to our house, even though this child is the issue/hard work and the mum agrees, but she’s just a child
The other day, Dd heard her playing in the garden and called to ask if she was there and her dad loudly shouted back ‘No!’ and it all went quiet. Dd came inside a bit confused/upset

Was this a mean thing for him to do? What would you do?

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Roadislikeabuildingsite · 16/06/2026 11:14

Chiapotayto · 16/06/2026 11:12

Maybe it just wasn’t a good time for her to play.

Maybe he just wants to avoid drama.

How does any of that make him a prick?

Because he shouted back no when dd asked jf she was there, when she clearly was there, then laughed and that he doesn’t let her play, when his child is the naughty/awful one sometimes

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rubyslippers · 16/06/2026 11:14

Roadislikeabuildingsite · 16/06/2026 11:13

So it’s not mean to shout No then almost laugh when Dd heard her and knew she was there

He could have said his DD wasn’t free to play
but not I don’t think it’s inherently mean for a child to be told no

Error404FucksNotFound · 16/06/2026 11:13

Maybe the dad is pig sick of the fighting
He shouldnt have snapped of course but I expect he knows its just going to end up in them arguing and he's had enough.

BillieWiper · 16/06/2026 11:13

There's nothing you can do. If he shouted 'no' and it went quiet she has to accept that that wasn't a good time for the friend to play.

If they communicate through shouting over fences, which is fine and common for young kids, you do have to accept that sometimes someone might be there but they still can't come and play.

Tell her not to worry and just keep playing with her whenever she can.

I don't think I'd be wise to try and speak to the dad. It will come off like criticism no matter how you frame it and could make relations worse.

Roadislikeabuildingsite · 16/06/2026 11:13

rubyslippers · 16/06/2026 11:11

Maybe the dad is also sick of the fighting between the kids or wants to spend time with his daughter without a mate
I don’t think he’s a prick from what you’ve said

So it’s not mean to shout No then almost laugh when Dd heard her and knew she was there

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Chiapotayto · 16/06/2026 11:12

Maybe it just wasn’t a good time for her to play.

Maybe he just wants to avoid drama.

How does any of that make him a prick?

rubyslippers · 16/06/2026 11:11

Maybe the dad is also sick of the fighting between the kids or wants to spend time with his daughter without a mate
I don’t think he’s a prick from what you’ve said

Womanofcustard · 16/06/2026 11:11

Your DD needs to ignore the child next door.