DDs friends dad is a Prick

I suspect he is just irritated with the whole thing

Maybe, but it is mean to pretend you aren't there by saying 'no!', he wouldn't have laughed on reflex, or been embarrassed, he's laughed at his own 'joke' .. like answering your door and saying 'not today! then pretending to close it when a family member comes round.

"Are you there (kids name)?"... him "(No!) laughs"

But then I think it is rude of OP's kid to shout over when they obviously have company.

But kids are kids, and don't really think of things like social etiquette, they need to be taught, where as he's a grown up and could have just left his daughter to answer her then said no to attempt to play. He chose to be mean instead.

I’m trying to understand the scenario.

This child and the Dad don’t actually live next door?

They’re there to visit his sister and her children?

Maybe they want some family time and not to be interrupted from next door.

His response does sound rude but maybe has had enough of it all.

If the girls normally play when he’s not around then why did your dd call for her “friend”?

He could have handled it better but if the “friendship” is as you describe, then why are you encouraging it? It sounds like it’s best that the girls hang out less than more.

Totally agree! 👍

Yes it was nasty.
He didn't have the patience to deal with your child.
Right or wrong and/or believes your kid is the problem/ makes it worse.
He finds the situation irritating.

I wouldn't let my kid go round and would limit the neighbours coming over to hardly ever. You are heading for disaster if they have a big fight and someone gets hurt.

We had next door playmates and at times it was extremely annoying to have persistent knocks on door, inconvenient company etc. He's fed up with it.

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Dd can’t go to the house when he’s there

Well again, perhaps he thinks that his dd is there to see her cousins and it's rude of her to invite other children into their house (And ignore them/inflict her squabbling with op's dd on them?)

Sounds like he's just being a parent.

Sounds to me like he thought he was being funny/clever and showing off in front of his child.
Obviously your daughter knew her friend was there because she heard her. Dad didn't want to engage with her at that point so just shouted no! Thinking he was being smart. Sounds like a bit of a twerp but he was spending time with his child.

There’s info missing from this story. The ‘prick’ dad has probably seen behaviour he doesn’t like. Maybe he’s also seen a change in his DDs behaviour and thinks it has something to do with your DD (and he could be right)

We had neighbours with smaller kids when ours were little always shouting for attention. It made being in the garden miserable and you could never get any quality family time. Not convinced this dad is a prick yet.

This tbh.
Yes, ok may the dad was rude in shouting "no" to a child over the fence but tbh OP I get the distinct impression that your painting your dd to be an angel and the other child to be awful in this post. It also reads like you have some issue with the family in general tbh given you also point out the auntie "owner of the house" what difference does that make to this post or situation?

Dear god. Talk about a mountain out of a molehill! Sounds like he’s solved the problem for you.

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Dd can’t go to the house when he’s there

You only put that he laughed afterwards when you didn’t get the responses you wanted. He’s not a prick

I’d be thankful the dad had put a stop to it. Who wants kids fighting. I don’t see him as a prick in the slightest

Why aren't kids allowed to his house when he's there?

It isn't his house. He and his dd are visiting. And the friend isn't allowed to op's house.

From op:

Dd has a friend on the road who comes to stay regularly with her cousins.... When friends dad is there, her friend isn’t allowed to our house

Perhaps he thinks that when his dd is visiting her cousins, it's rude of her to go off and play with some other child.

I thought you said your DD wasn’t allowed over there when he’s there, so why are you asking this? He’s a not particularly polite man, with a daughter your child occasionally plays with at your house and at hers when he’s not there. He was rude to your daughter once by the sounds of it. Teach your daughter to be robust in the face of rude men, because her life will be full of them, but not to let that get in the way of the bigger picture, her friendship if it’s that meaningful for her. If you don’t want the friendship because of either his or the child’s behaviour, be a parent and nip it on the bud.

Link it here when you find it please!

No! Not at all, not wanting arguing children in your home, does not make you abusive.

Is there anything a man can do means that sone people label him abusive and controlling.

They argue, the two of them together doesn’t bring out the best in his daughter together, OP had said the child is “awful”, why would you want a child in your house that’s going to create that behaviour in your child?

😂there's always one.

Maybe, just maybe, he has a different version of who the "trouble" child is, and he is protecting his peace and his own child?

YABU - why was your DD asking if she was there if she clearly knew she was there (as you insist since your DD knew he was lying when he said no). Your child was the annoying one here.

‘When friends dad is there, her friend isn’t allowed to our house’

Presumably because 1, it’s a family visit, and 2, he doesn’t want to deal with the inevitable drama that follows. Calling him controlling and absuive is a massive stretch here.

[quietly looking out in Active Conversations to see the thread from the parents of the "mean kid" to hear the other side of the story]

Am I the only one worried about this man? Why aren't kids allowed to his house when he's there? He sounds abusive and controlling.

What does it matter if he’s being nasty? You know he’s being unkind so why dwell on it anymore? You also know this isn’t a great friendship so why not use this as a great opportunity to end it entirely!

But you first said

This friend often calls over the fence to Dd and vice versa to play.

It’s now gone from often to rarely 🤔